I Want a Relationship > Gets Opportunity > Suddenly I don't want the relationship

[nerdlingZA]

Guys I haven't been in a relationship for nearly 2 years, I'm 18, everyone wants a relationship so do I but when I get the opportunity - I'm not sure if I lose interest or what but I just become distant - for instance, there's this girl I wrote about in "With lukewarm girl" I gave her my number yesterday at school (saturday school yeah I know kinda sucks) and she actually called this morning at 00:00am we talked joked and teased till 03:00am, Now 3 weeks ago(I didn't know her at this time) she was the perfect girl I would've been proud of been in a relationship with her, but know that I've interacted and flirted with her for 3 days, I don't want a relationship with her, this has happen to a several of girls at school, when I say several I mean 4 to 6. I'm not sure what kinda of a guy I'm but I flirt with every girl at school nearly everyone of them, I don't bother to ask their names bcoz there's just too many of girls I know at school, This crush of mine who called this morning even mentioned that I've a lot of GF's at school and I said so do you, she gets chased by a lot of guys at school. Is there any loveshackers who just can't be in a relationship but wants a relationship ? hope I'm not alone at this

[Zippy2000]

You sound like me and I ll tell you what I ve learned from one of my female pals. Im giving advice from my own experience.

 

Im a popular man who has lots of woman as I work in a office FULL of women and most of my best friends are women.

 

What they have observed from me and my dating past is that I always seen to go for girls that are hard or a challenge to get.

 

I wasnt aware of this but the girls I did get easy and date. I either faded or did the disappearing act. They were too availible.

 

 

Its nothing to do with the girls I dated but one of my friends said I had a hard life. I was ill for many years so I had to fight for my health, work hard for my job, and car and flat. I work hard and fought for everything in my life so for me I naturally sabotaged and easy and available girl.

 

My friend tells me I should chnage the way Im doing things and give some people a chance and this time work for maintaning the relationship and making it last.

[Emissary]

I'm sort of afraid of commitment which makes it difficult to bring myself to make a move on a lot of ladies. I was kind of in the dumps recently because I had made a serious effort to reach out to a few girls over the past year and all of them turned out to be miserable girlfriends.

 

So basically I just got really high, which made me even more emotional and just just going mad with heartbreak. After like the third day of being completely blitzed I started reaching out to some girls over Facebook and texting, zero success there. But then a few days ago out of nowhere I got a Facebook reply from the sister of this girl I sort of had a crush on.

 

I met this girl at the pub last month along with her Sister, her Mom, and my Dad, our parents being co-workers/friends. I really thought she was something and wanted to find a way to stay in touch, but I couldn't find her on Facebook or anything. I did find her Sister though, and I sent her a message saying sorry I didn't recognize her, it turns out I had gone to high school with the sister, but we never really spoke at school lol.

 

Oh yeah, but anyway, I chatted with the Sister on Facebook a bit, before I made a daring move and asked if her sister is single, and she is. I'm going on a coffee date with her on Tuesday. I haven't been sober for like 2 weeks now, I'm beginning to forget what it's like to not be high. What I do know though, is I'm happy again. I'm truly happy for the first time since February 18 last year, that was the relationship where everything just went wrong for my life, whatever happens on Tuesday, I'm finally having a normal positive experience with a girl I like.

[preraph]

Are you parents happily married or have you grown up watching married misery? Does a relationship just not sound like that much fun? Are you feeling pretty much like you did in fifth grade: Girls are dumb?

 

Also, don't get mad, but check and make sure you're not gay.

[nerdlingZA]

Are you parents happily married or have you grown up watching married misery? Does a relationship just not sound like that much fun? Are you feeling pretty much like you did in fifth grade: Girls are dumb?

 

Also, don't get mad, but check and make sure you're not gay.

 

I live with mom, a relationship sounds found yeah but I enjoy flirting with girls who aint my GF, lol and no I'm not gay

[nerdlingZA]

You sound like me and I ll tell you what I ve learned from one of my female pals. Im giving advice from my own experience.

 

Im a popular man who has lots of woman as I work in a office FULL of women and most of my best friends are women.

 

What they have observed from me and my dating past is that I always seen to go for girls that are hard or a challenge to get.

 

I wasnt aware of this but the girls I did get easy and date. I either faded or did the disappearing act. They were too availible.

 

 

Its nothing to do with the girls I dated but one of my friends said I had a hard life. I was ill for many years so I had to fight for my health, work hard for my job, and car and flat. I work hard and fought for everything in my life so for me I naturally sabotaged and easy and available girl.

 

My friend tells me I should chnage the way Im doing things and give some people a chance and this time work for maintaning the relationship and making it last.

 

I think been around of a lot of girls is more fun than been locked with one person