JohnSilverman Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 It's been a year since my break up.. But I still think about her everyday.. I am actually living my life right now and already accepted the break up but why is this still happening? I did all the things in the books, cut off contact, delete ex in all social media, blocked her number but why the thoughts of her still mess my head? Right now I currently don't want to be in a relationship as I wanted to focus on my financials. I heard through our common friends that she is the same as I am now.. She is also still single and focusing on her financials. Is finding someone would be the only help for me to 100% move on? The sad thing is I pretend to everyone that I am over her but when I ask myself a question I always tell myself I am not. I don't even know how to deal with it when she found someone new. I guess it sucks to be in this situation knowing that it's already been a year and I am still dealing with this $hit. Sometimes I tell myself I shouldn't give **** anymore because it's already been a year.. My ex probably moved on already too since she never made the effort to contact me..
AltiumV Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 i still always thinks bout my crazy ex who absolutely slaughtered our relationship in a impossible to recovery and repair circumstances, i would never get back with her but i want what we had back if that made sense, i feel the same way as you and that is i don't know if i want a new relationship so maybe it is the only way to officially move on. hardest part is accepting that they will never be apart of your life again and knowing this allows you to move on with life. i can't say much to comfort you but ill let you know your not alone and others do feel the same way i take it you were the dumpee?
FailedFirstLove Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 feel your pain. You seem strong though. You lasted a whole year. No contact. No nothing. I go through major anxiety and just cry my eyes out. Do you think about it in a good way? Sadness? Anger?
AltiumV Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 mine was based on betrayal and lies and cheating. i constantly think about how my true friend was capable of betraying me and always think about why she never communicated or why she threw away what we had, my case was a GIGS situation the hardest breakup of them all. worst part about gigs is watching the girl ur madly in love with express that she is in love with a stranger. I LOST TO A STRANGER SHE KNEW FOR 1 WEEK. i think about this every day. 3 years vs 1 week and i lost. long story short he used her as a sex toy and she came back then i still took her back and then we tried to work it out for a week or two and then i finally pulled the plug. apparently he was rich aswell so her true colors shone very brightly. Although she was a money hungry deceiving lieing cheating monster my heart still thinks of her, love is strange isnt it?, i can't really comfort you but ill let you know your not alone and that everyone here on the forums will help you through this =) 3
FailedFirstLove Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 mine was based on betrayal and lies and cheating. i constantly think about how my true friend was capable of betraying me and always think about why she never communicated or why she threw away what we had, my case was a GIGS situation the hardest breakup of them all. worst part about gigs is watching the girl ur madly in love with express that she is in love with a stranger. I LOST TO A STRANGER SHE KNEW FOR 1 WEEK. i think about this every day. 3 years vs 1 week and i lost. long story short he used her as a sex toy and she came back then i still took her back and then we tried to work it out for a week or two and then i finally pulled the plug. apparently he was rich aswell so her true colors shone very brightly. Although she was a money hungry deceiving lieing cheating monster my heart still thinks of her, love is strange isnt it?, i can't really comfort you but ill let you know your not alone and that everyone here on the forums will help you through this =) I may just be saying it cause I'm not in the situation. But sometimes I wish that he had done something bad. Like cheat on me or whatever. Maybe that way I would be over it faster. The fact that he hates me just kills me inside. I constantly dream of him and wake up throughout the night. I can't even let go of hope. Don't think I could be any worse than I am now.
Author JohnSilverman Posted September 7, 2014 Author Posted September 7, 2014 I just think about it in a good way. I am not mad at her or anything.. I just sometimes think about the good memories we shared. The thing is no one cheated in our relationship no 3rd parties involved, no arguments, no fights. She was deeply in love me with before when we started dating then after 2 years. She just suddenly told me she doesn't feel the same anymore. Well im guessing she lost feelings for me. I told her I respected her decision and do no contact right away. She tried reaching out to me and wanting to be friends simply told her that we both need time and space from each other to move on. Then from that we never spoke to each other again. feel your pain. You seem strong though. You lasted a whole year. No contact. No nothing. I go through major anxiety and just cry my eyes out. Do you think about it in a good way? Sadness? Anger?
FailedFirstLove Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 I just think about it in a good way. I am not mad at her or anything.. I just sometimes think about the good memories we shared. The thing is no one cheated in our relationship no 3rd parties involved, no arguments, no fights. She was deeply in love me with before when we started dating then after 2 years. She just suddenly told me she doesn't feel the same anymore. Well im guessing she lost feelings for me. I told her I respected her decision and do no contact right away. She tried reaching out to me and wanting to be friends simply told her that we both need time and space from each other to move on. Then from that we never spoke to each other again. That sounds like how I would like my ending. But unfortunately I don't get that. I asked for a good ending. And he straight out refuses. hang in there. You seem strong. And you will move on
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