BridgetGrey Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 I know last time I posted here I said this was my last post but I had wrecking talk with my ex last month ago he was checking on me since my mom has cancer and one thing let to another I told I can't trust we can't be friend and asked if he has any feelings for me and he said he has no feelings. That wrecked me for days.. we talked he said he said it mainly to close that door but I never wanted to open that door , but I guess I wanted to know how he felt. Days ago I said goodbye to him he left the region to the states , it made me cry because I know 100% he is moved on maybe not on another relationship yet , but he is living in the other side of the world. I did told him we may need some space maybe to recover the friendship we had , so I'm pretty sure he won't contact me for a long time. He did apologize twice for hurting me. The thing is that I accepted it was not right and we had so many gaps as I was 23 young and inexperienced and he was 26 experienced and seen it all . In addition to that, I was unhappy with him and he wouldn't given me the commitment I wanted not now or 10 years later. However, I wish I can forget is it the void that I feel or the fact that I want a relationship just to forget it has been 4 months ...
True Gent Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 You've still been in very close contact with him, this is a mistake. If he has no feelings for you I don't see why he's checking on you because of your mum. Friendship with en ex doesn't work unles you have both moved on enough to not have any lingering eelings at all. This will take time to get to that point and really once you're both at that point the desire to be friends probably won't be there anyway. I don't think you can go from lovers to friends, it just can't work that way. If you accepted the flaws of the relationship and you know there is no going back you really need to just cut loose and go NC. Not doing that only results in the pain you're in now. 1
Author BridgetGrey Posted September 7, 2014 Author Posted September 7, 2014 I think he has feelings as a friend always has those feelings considering we were close for 2 years and the relationship ended for him as he knew he couldn't commit , saw we were different and the long distance weighted in. He may be confused and even said he does not know how to react because it's hard to demote me from GF to friend when he really nice to his friends. This is why I told to stay away for a while. The reality is that yes no contact is the best option as having contact is taking chances in something that may too much to handle. I was also to bring up the relationship that is long gone yet the ghost of what it used to be is hanging around. As I said I accept it's over especially since he lives half way across the world for god sake , but I want to forget.
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