GTO06 Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 Hey guys, So I just got back from my first ever 2nd date with a girl and it went very well! I want to ask her out on a 3rd date, but I would like a date idea that would get us physically closer together. I was thinking a movie at my place would be good, but I don't want to imply sex to her as she is kind of a shy girl and we haven't even kissed yet, other than a cheek kiss that is. I just want a setting that will allow a good opportunity to be cuddled up together and hopefully initiate some kissing action Any thoughts? Thanks
ThorntonMelon Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 I am on the record that I think this third date timeline is a mistake. However, what I recommend if you must would be to suggest that you guys cook dinner together at your place. Then make a salad and a meat dish and a potato or something. This shouldn't freak her out too much. If she wants to be more cuddly, you suggest a movie after dinner. 2
Author GTO06 Posted September 7, 2014 Author Posted September 7, 2014 Thanks for that and I would love to hear some more suggestions
BluEyeL Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 Picnic is what worked for me in the past. Somewhere where there are people, but you can find a bit of a secluded area, where you can kiss. Lay down a blanket, sit, eat, talk, play cards or something, and go in for the kiss. Romantic mood. Alternatively, walk in a parc, similarly, not completely deserted, but more secluded alleys. Or a hike with a stop for a picnic.
angel.eyes Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 You've spent two dates getting to know her. At this point, I would plan a date based on a mutual interest. You'll get huge brownie points for paying attention to what she likes. 1
Author GTO06 Posted September 7, 2014 Author Posted September 7, 2014 You've spent two dates getting to know her. At this point, I would plan a date based on a mutual interest. You'll get huge brownie points for paying attention to what she likes. Yea one thing kind of odd is that about 80% of what she said on the 2nd date what a repeat of what she said on the 1st. So, I don't know a lot about her, but I do know a few things I could use. Good ideas guys, keep them coming!
somedude81 Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 I had my first kiss with my ex in the mall parking garage. It absolutely does not matter where you kiss her, as long as you do so. Don't even worry about cuddling with her until you get that kiss. As for the third date, do something that you the both of you will enjoy. If you think she wants you to kiss her, then do it. 1
organizedchaos Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 Hey guys, So I just got back from my first ever 2nd date with a girl and it went very well! I want to ask her out on a 3rd date, but I would like a date idea that would get us physically closer together. I was thinking a movie at my place would be good, but I don't want to imply sex to her as she is kind of a shy girl and we haven't even kissed yet, other than a cheek kiss that is. I just want a setting that will allow a good opportunity to be cuddled up together and hopefully initiate some kissing action Any thoughts? Thanks Don't stress over this. Just do something fun and it will happen. Go bowling. It's fun, active, playful.
Author GTO06 Posted September 7, 2014 Author Posted September 7, 2014 Yea this girl is a little hard to gauge interest as even though she seems to like me a lot, she seems to avoid eye contact and such, but I think it is just because she is kind of shy. I was barely able to even get that cheek kiss in on the last date, but at least I did that. I definitely want to go for the full kiss on this next date if she accepts it. I emailed her a little while ago to see if she wants to do Chinese food and ice cream some night this week and "maybe" watch a movie at my place or something. She has a deep love for ice cream so I think that was a good plan for us and I only hinted at the movie part lightly to see how she responds. Bowling was my original plan, but I learned on our last date that she broke her wrist a few months ago and it still hurts her; so that isn't an option unfortunately. We did an awesome hike and dinner on our last date though and it was a blast! Guess I'll just have to wait and see how this plays out Thanks
angel.eyes Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 When you said Chinese, did you mean takeout or going out to dinner?
deathandtaxes Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 Third date with a shy chick - DO NOT ask her to come to your place for a movie. You will spook her to no end, especially as you haven't even kissed. An invitation to one's home is an implicit escalation of physical activity. You I second an above poster's suggestion of bowling. It's fun, most everybody sucks at it, and it's just a good way to spend time together. Ok, just saw the part about her wrist being sore....just got to the movies. It gets you together. Kinda kills the conversation though. How about a museum or art show? Cheap live music? Any other cultural or performing arts related stuff? 2
Gloria25 Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 Third date with a shy chick - DO NOT ask her to come to your place for a movie. You will spook her to no end, especially as you haven't even kissed. An invitation to one's home is an implicit escalation of physical activity. You I second an above poster's suggestion of bowling. It's fun, most everybody sucks at it, and it's just a good way to spend time together. Ok, just saw the part about her wrist being sore....just got to the movies. It gets you together. Kinda kills the conversation though. How about a museum or art show? Cheap live music? Any other cultural or performing arts related stuff? Agreed ^^ an invitation to a home can result in sex and/or the possibility of sex is implied...If you want it to escalate physically, you can literally do that at sooooo many other places. 1
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