Don22 Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 I met a lady in one of my classes and we ended up hanging out a couple weeks ago. We had good chemistry but she told me then that she was out of bad break up and wasn't looking to get back into a relationship for awhile. I was going wait if out and see what happens in few weeks. We talk on facebook and she's always posting her daily blogs. On one of her blogs she was saying how she was going to try to change the brakes on her car. Now she was really just joking but some guy started with some stupid comments how a woman can't fix anything. I was expecting that she was get mad and block him. The guy then posted on her wall saying we should finish this argument in person at a steakhouse. She always has a couple post and blogs every day but since that guy's wall post she hasn't posted anything in 4 days. I noticed that some of her friends have started to like the comments that the guy made that makes me think they might be dating. Do you think a woman would actually fall for that guy's gimmick or I'm just reading it wrong?
angel.eyes Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 Obviously that wasn't a serious statement! He was joking!! Playful banter is fun, and I like that my boyfriend volleys right back whenever I start. If you like someone, ask her out directly! She'll either say yes or she won't. If she doesn't say yes, move on instead of hanging around hoping she'll change her mind. That's not a viable strategy in dating. I've never understood the benefit of sitting on the sidelines, monitoring someone on social media and criticizing how other guys interact with her. Frankly, it strikes me as passive-aggressive sour grapes and a little creepy. Focus on your own life and YOUR interactions with her. Learn to be assertive. Then learn to cut your losses and move on if she's not interested. Some will be interested. Some won't. Don't take it too personally. 1
Assasda Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 Its not a gimmick. He was teasing her. Fun playing is attractive to women. BTW you shuldnt be stalking this girls facebook. See other women 1
Rollergirl819 Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 Yeah when someone says they're not looking for anything serious it usually means they're not interested... Sorry man.
Author Don22 Posted September 7, 2014 Author Posted September 7, 2014 Obviously that wasn't a serious statement! He was joking!! Playful banter is fun, and I like that my boyfriend volleys right back whenever I start. If you like someone, ask her out directly! She'll either say yes or she won't. If she doesn't say yes, move on instead of hanging around hoping she'll change her mind. That's not a viable strategy in dating. I already asked her out. We hung out and had fun. She had concerns about getting into another relationship because of her last bad break up. It's not like I haven't tried or I'm waiting to make my move. I think in cases where a person is hurt after a past relationship, it can take sometime before they are ready to date again. In those cases, even waiting a few weeks can make a big difference.
Author Don22 Posted September 7, 2014 Author Posted September 7, 2014 Its not a gimmick. He was teasing her. Fun playing is attractive to women. BTW you shuldnt be stalking this girls facebook. See other women I'm not stalking. We post on each other's facebook regularly.
chimpanA-2-chimpanZ Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 Who knows? For one thing, that guy made a cute joke; you can't take it too seriously. Beyond that, she's not interested in dating you. When someone says they aren't ready to date it means that they don't feel motivated enough to date you. If you were the right guy she'd give you a shot.
Dork Vader Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 You should not be stalking her fb page like this. Even if she does go on a date with him she is free too. She is not cheating on you, being unloyal or the like. Now if the two of you were sleeping together or there was some type of exclusivity I'd be concerned. But there is not. I just got out of a very bad relationship. Am I still hurt ya a little. Do I still miss her? Sort of.. But I'm also dating already. Why? Because I know if I meet the right person, all of that will go away. Yeah some people come out of relationships and need time to reset. But the truth is if you meet the right person all that goes away.
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