Destined2B Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 Has anyone ever moved out of motivation to be in the area where you are more likely to meet people that you are attracted to? I live in the suburbs for a few reasons: convenience (everything is walking distance), proximity to work (5 min car ride, which I end up biking to instead) and financial reasons (you get a lot more sq feet for your money than elsewhere). The problem is, I'm in my 20's and this area does not attract single young professionals, so my chances of meeting anyone my age at a grocery store or a coffee shop are slim. It would be nice to live in the city (which I'm only 30 mins away from by car), but that would mean I'd have to commute to work, pay more money for rent and gas and deal with other minor inconveniences. I guess OLD seems like it would be the best option, but having read countless threads here on LS, I just don't think that women I'm attracted to use OLD. Maybe I'm just wrongly convinced that I'll meet someone IRL if I just lived in an area with people my age and interests? Thoughts and experiences appreciated. 1
Don22 Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 Yes, I think about moving all the time because where I live has to be one of the worst areas for dating. I moved here when I was 20 and didn't know anyone here which didn't help. The main problem is this area seems to have a high male/female ratio and it's a partying/hook up area which equals a lot of single moms. When I go on vacation to Albuquerque or Jacksonville I'm surprised how many more opportunities I can find for dating even when I only there for a week. At the moment, I don't have the money to move.
normal person Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 I did. I work from home and I'd save a fortune if I just moved out to a state with no income tax. As advantageous as that would be to me, I really love the experience of going out and dating a bunch of different women and hopefully finding one to marry. That experience is priceless. One of the points of life (arguably) is to reproduce. When you're in your 20s you should be putting yourself the best possible chances of finding a partner. For me that meant moving to a city (New York) where there are more single women than seemingly anywhere else, and I can't tell you happy I am to be doing it. I'd be miserable otherwise; as if I was missing out on some of the best experiences of my life. I think about some of my friends who are living quiet suburban lifestyles and complaining that they're never meeting people of the opposite sex. Well that's the trade off: you can have your space and tranquility or you can have a much better chance of finding a partner. It's very difficult to have both. So which do you want more?
StanMusial Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 The suburbs are for family life. That's not a good area for meeting single people in my experience. Being mobile will help you in your career as well, as it opens more opportunities in many aspects of your life. I'm not sure you should move for the sole purpose of dating. I would consider all aspects of the lifestyle you prefer. There are women everywhere.
Rollergirl819 Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 It depends on the reason why you are not successful in your current area. If you're not getting any dates because you are socially awkward or just unpleasant to be around, well, moving isn't going to fix that.
Lipitor11 Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 Yes, I consider moving too. I live in the midwest where people get married at 22, start a family, etc,etc. I also live in the city that was listed as one of the top 10 worst dating cities in the U.S. Everyone here has their own social circle, they all meet their partners in college, etc, etc. And if you don't belong in that social circle, then its impossible to meet someone and just date. There is just no "dating scene."
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