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So I can't believe I didn't tell everyone this but I saw him last Saturday at an event with mutual friends. I pretty much ignored him the whole time and stayed far away from him the entire night and spent time with other friends. He did approach a group of ppl I was playing a game with and was making conversation. I pretended like my phone was the most interesting thing in the world until he finally went away. I didn't pay him much attention but my friend said she definitely caught him looking at me. Idk what his deal is and I'm still very angry with him.

 

Anyways, I'm a lead singer for a blues/rock band. We do cover songs and originals and we gig in New Jersey. So there was an event up for our next show on Facebook and my ex responded saying he "might" go. I'm not sure if I invited him by accident (pretty sure I didn't) or if he found out through someone else (it's an open event).

 

I don't know if I should be worried about this or if he's just did that to **** with my head. I'm not sure what I can do if he shows up to our show. I'm usually encouraged to mingle with the people who come to see us play. I'm not sure what to do... Our show is September 19th at a popular Irish pub.

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So I can't believe I didn't tell everyone this but I saw him last Saturday at an event with mutual friends. I pretty much ignored him the whole time and stayed far away from him the entire night and spent time with other friends. He did approach a group of ppl I was playing a game with and was making conversation. I pretended like my phone was the most interesting thing in the world until he finally went away. I didn't pay him much attention but my friend said she definitely caught him looking at me. Idk what his deal is and I'm still very angry with him.

 

Anyways, I'm a lead singer for a blues/rock band. We do cover songs and originals and we gig in New Jersey. So there was an event up for our next show on Facebook and my ex responded saying he "might" go. I'm not sure if I invited him by accident (pretty sure I didn't) or if he found out through someone else (it's an open event).

 

I don't know if I should be worried about this or if he's just did that to **** with my head. I'm not sure what I can do if he shows up to our show. I'm usually encouraged to mingle with the people who come to see us play. I'm not sure what to do... Our show is September 19th at a popular Irish pub.

 

I would say just completely ignore him. Act like he doesn't exist. I had a horrible ex who did a bunch of f'ed up stuff to me, but I'd always run into her and her new boyfriend at the gym we went to, and one of my closest friends was dating her best friend, so sometimes we'd also run into her at social events and I would literally look straight past her and talk to other people and make it look like I was having an amazing time. It drove her crazy. I highly recommend it.

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I'm a lead singer for a blues/rock band. We do cover songs

 

Maybe learn some new songs just in case, and if he shows up, dedicate a half set to your ex?

 

Here's some suggestions, in no particular order except for the last one

 

 

Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers - Don't Come Around Here No More (lyrics) - YouTube

 

http://youtu.be/Abw9lzz3AJc

 

 

 

Go Your Own Way by Lissie Lyrics - YouTube

 

and, be sure to close out the set with

 

 

and have the entire crowd join in!

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You sound like you still got the hots for him.

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Maybe learn some new songs just in case, and if he shows up, dedicate a half set to your ex?

 

Here's some suggestions, in no particular order except for the last one

 

 

Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers - Don't Come Around Here No More (lyrics) - YouTube

 

Harden my heart lyrics Quarterterflash - YouTube

 

 

 

Go Your Own Way by Lissie Lyrics - YouTube

 

and, be sure to close out the set with

 

 

and have the entire crowd join in!

 

LMAO!!! We do mostly originals although we're covering "Black Dog" "Kashmir" "Whipping Post" and "Zombie" that night. Love the F**k You suggestion though! Not sure how my guitarist would feel about that one lol. I just find it weird that he would say he might go when we haven't spoken in almost 3 months and he knows I'm ****ing pissed at him. Oh well for all I know it's a ploy for attention. I'm a stubborn bitch though.

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I would say just completely ignore him. Act like he doesn't exist. I had a horrible ex who did a bunch of f'ed up stuff to me, but I'd always run into her and her new boyfriend at the gym we went to, and one of my closest friends was dating her best friend, so sometimes we'd also run into her at social events and I would literally look straight past her and talk to other people and make it look like I was having an amazing time. It drove her crazy. I highly recommend it.

 

I'm just wondering if I can actually ignore him if he really does show up to our show. Me and the guys usually go around and mingle with everyone who came out, I don't want to seem like I'm being a bitch even though he really does deserve it :p

 

I love pretending he doesn't exist. If there's anyway of doing that without being

rude I'm all for it. Really don't have anything to say to him.

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maybe this would be a better fit then:

 

Led Zeppelin - Since I´ve Been Loving You (Deluxe Edition) (2014) - YouTube

 

But I really do think that if you do that Cee Lo Green song and have the crowd join in, and point at him at just the right time, you'll never, ever have to worry about him coming to your gigs again!

 

And the crowd will love it too. That's a bonus.

 

Lol I love it. Seriously all I feel toward him is anger. That would be so sweet. Haha maybe I can convince the guys that this is special circumstances for this song!!!

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I mean no disrespect, but I think you are devoting too much thought and energy to this guy (and he certainly is not worthy). You are not allowing yourself closure.

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I mean no disrespect, but I think you are devoting too much thought and energy to this guy (and he certainly is not worthy). You are not allowing yourself closure.

 

I'm fine but thanks for your concern.

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