KaylaP Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 I really didn't wanna go but he kept saying its gonna be so innocent so I said WTF okay then. We went last night to the movies to see guardians of the galaxy & he didn't even care about the MOVIE. He was paying more attention to my lotion & how CUTE I looked . WTF? I was only wearing leggings & a white top. What's the big deal so bad I wanted to tell him but w/e. He then asks to kiss me while the movie is ON! I turned to him & said 'look, I thought it was just gonna be a movie cuz u had no one else to go with & u wanted to see it' & he says some shyt like 'I do wanna see it but its not that good & besides I think u look real nice & its just a kiss stop making it a big deal' or w/e, something like that. Soooo...I tell him 'alright then but just on the cheek' He kisses me on my cheek, says my skin is mad soft, then starts to just kiss on my face which was TYPE WEIRD! I told him 'aright aright that's enough now' and he laughs & stops. But then as the movie goes on & the crowd starts laughing at some funny shyt he leans in & starts sniffing on my neck. THENNNN....he asks if I can sit on his lap for a while cuz he likes short girls. I ended the date right there by saying I had to use the bathroom & I didn't go back. He started texting me like WTH but I shut my phone off & when I put it on later I get like 20 texts from him apologizing for acting aggressive but just that he LIKES me so much & bla bla bla & wants another chance. I think he's a weirdo with no experience around girls. Whenever I used to see him he seemed cool & hip & he's a bit older than me but I had no idea he was this LAME! My friend thinks I overreacted & should've stayed the rest of the movie but I don't think so. TOO F*CKING WEIRD FOR ME! Anybody find this guy creepy? I know it aint my imagination LMAO. 2
Tayken Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 Date with a neighbour...I don't know what you thought was going to happen, but anyone could have seen that from miles away. Is there any reason he asked you and not the other neighbours? You get the gist, and some might say you led him on my accepting the request to go. If you didn't like him and flat out said NO, then he would have got the message that you aren't interested. Now you have to live with the weirdness
todreaminblue Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 you should have told him you would leave if he didnt stop and sat in a chair away from him if he didnt....you should have given him the courtesy of an explanation before you left......i have removed a guys hand from my cleavage this year in a movie theatre and told him simply can you not do that......i didnt date that guy again....deb 1
Gloria25 Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 Not, creepy, but I guess more than you expected? I've heard of people even giving BJs in the theaters, so was he expecting the same from you? I think your neighbor was rude and outrageous...Definitely not the way to get a woman's interest...Cuz, even "if" you fell for him and you guys would make out (cuz that's what people who are dating do). For him to go all out in the theater on a first pseudo-date with you was just wrong. I've seen platonic couples go to the theater, so I guess you had that expectation? But then again, he's been after you...But then again, I think he was over the top cuz how did he know "if" you saw this more than just a platonic movie date? 1
NYC-BigKat Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 I really didn't wanna go but he kept saying its gonna be so innocent so I said WTF okay then. We went last night to the movies to see guardians of the galaxy & he didn't even care about the MOVIE. He was paying more attention to my lotion & how CUTE I looked . WTF? I was only wearing leggings & a white top. What's the big deal so bad I wanted to tell him but w/e. He then asks to kiss me while the movie is ON! I turned to him & said 'look, I thought it was just gonna be a movie cuz u had no one else to go with & u wanted to see it' & he says some shyt like 'I do wanna see it but its not that good & besides I think u look real nice & its just a kiss stop making it a big deal' or w/e, something like that. Soooo...I tell him 'alright then but just on the cheek' He kisses me on my cheek, says my skin is mad soft, then starts to just kiss on my face which was TYPE WEIRD! I told him 'aright aright that's enough now' and he laughs & stops. But then as the movie goes on & the crowd starts laughing at some funny shyt he leans in & starts sniffing on my neck. THENNNN....he asks if I can sit on his lap for a while cuz he likes short girls. I ended the date right there by saying I had to use the bathroom & I didn't go back. He started texting me like WTH but I shut my phone off & when I put it on later I get like 20 texts from him apologizing for acting aggressive but just that he LIKES me so much & bla bla bla & wants another chance. II think he's a weirdo with no experience around girls. Whenever I used to see him he seemed cool & hip & he's a bit older than me but I had no idea he was this LAME! My friend thinks I overreacted & should've stayed the rest of the movie but I don't think so. TOO F*CKING WEIRD FOR ME! Anybody find this guy creepy? I know it aint my imagination LMAO. Yup he's a weirdo for sure. I been called weird but he seems spooky yup. Don't see him no more & u so so smart for running away. 2
Jules Dash Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 Him asking you for a kiss is the most creepy thing he did. Either do it or don't.
NYC-BigKat Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 Him asking you for a kiss is the most creepy thing he did. Either do it or don't. Yea I used to ask for little kisses & girls always got uncomfortable about it. I never knew why u know .
preraph Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 Well, now you know not to listen to your friend anymore because she is as braindead as a brick. I don't know that he's inexperienced because he manipulated you all the way. And that stunt about trying to get you to sit on his lap -- AS IF you're a stripper! Your instincts are right on. Don't even talk to that newt anymore.
aprilisi Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 I thought you were just over reacting until I got to where he asked you to sit in his lap. I'd probably leave then too, especially if I had told him before to cut it out 1
HappyLove Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 Yes, he's a weirdo. Always follow your gut instincts, you should have never agreed to the date. You did the right thing by leaving. This guy was getting more and more aggressive, never stay in an uncomfortable situation.
CaliGypsy Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 I would have been creeped out too. It seems as though the agreement was just a casual, friendly, movie date. Friends don't ask friends to sit on their lap however. It sounds like the movie was a ruse to get to know you better and he for whatever reason did not realize before hand there was not mutual a interest. A coworker asked me to a movie and assured me it was just as friends (and was as good as his word) Had he asked me to kiss him, or sit on his lap I would have been mortified!! I took him at his word that he just wanted movie company. That's how it should be in my opinion .
DazedandConfused8 Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 Clearly this guy was into you and thought you were going for a date while you thought you were going as his last resort. Neither of you were clear on why you were there; so he tried things he shouldn't have because your communications weren't clear.
GH3 Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 First of all who ignores Guardians of the galaxy? And second hell yeah stay far away from that creep. If you feel uncomfortable, you have a right to avoid him. Not to long ago I had a similar experience with a guy who I made it clear to that I had a boyfriend yet he still insisted on flirting with me and even asked if "it was bad that he wanted to kiss me." Even if After I said it was a bad idea he still flirted. Some guys don't know boundaries and then get confused when girls break contact with them, which is exactly what you should do. Otherwise they continue to cross the lines you draw. You did the right thing if you felt uncomfortable!
fred123 Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 First of all who ignores Guardians of the galaxy? And second hell yeah stay far away from that creep. If you feel uncomfortable, you have a right to avoid him. Not to long ago I had a similar experience with a guy who I made it clear to that I had a boyfriend yet he still insisted on flirting with me and even asked if "it was bad that he wanted to kiss me." Even if After I said it was a bad idea he still flirted. Some guys don't know boundaries and then get confused when girls break contact with them, which is exactly what you should do. Otherwise they continue to cross the lines you draw. You did the right thing if you felt uncomfortable! how does a guy know the boundaries? iv pissed off many girls before and now i realise why. but for instance i would do one thing for a girl and she would not have a problem with it but then i do the same thing again and she hates me. why girls turn nasty on me?
NYC-BigKat Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 First of all who ignores Guardians of the galaxy? And second hell yeah stay far away from that creep. If you feel uncomfortable, you have a right to avoid him. Not to long ago I had a similar experience with a guy who I made it clear to that I had a boyfriend yet he still insisted on flirting with me and even asked if "it was bad that he wanted to kiss me." Even if After I said it was a bad idea he still flirted. Some guys don't know boundaries and then get confused when girls break contact with them, which is exactly what you should do. Otherwise they continue to cross the lines you draw. You did the right thing if you felt uncomfortable! Yea guardians was a fun movie so if he doesn't wanna watch it he only went cause he just wanted to watch u. Um...he probably already saw the movie.
GH3 Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 how does a guy know the boundaries? iv pissed off many girls before and now i realise why. but for instance i would do one thing for a girl and she would not have a problem with it but then i do the same thing again and she hates me. why girls turn nasty on me? Well I'll use her example and my example. She told him that she was under the impression that he only wanted to go to the movies with her because no one else could make it. Plus the fact that she clearly didn't want to be kissed (as she only permitted him a kiss on the cheek) it sounds more like she was trying to appease him rather than suddenly wanting a kiss. Then she also went on to stop him once he was getting too into it. (He would have probably had a better reaction if he just pecked her on the cheek instead of violating it with his breath) In my example, I must've mentioned my boyfriend to the guy about 200 times, yet he still continued to flirt with me. It's in her words, her body language, and actions. 3
DazedandConfused8 Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 why girls turn nasty on me? Probably because of your poor grammar. 1
Easyguy14 Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 Well I'll use her example and my example. She told him that she was under the impression that he only wanted to go to the movies with her because no one else could make it. Plus the fact that she clearly didn't want to be kissed (as she only permitted him a kiss on the cheek) it sounds more like she was trying to appease him rather than suddenly wanting a kiss. Then she also went on to stop him once he was getting too into it. (He would have probably had a better reaction if he just pecked her on the cheek instead of violating it with his breath) In my example, I must've mentioned my boyfriend to the guy about 200 times, yet he still continued to flirt with me. It's in her words, her body language, and actions. This guy was no doubt a creep and a loser to try to use ruses just to get a date with a younger girl. 18 I believe is said girl's age from reading other posts. The part about sitting on the lap was beyond crossing boundaries if you ask me. It was more like becoming disrespectful to her. I'm sure said guy knew she would decline but he probably decided to just go for broke if nothing else was working. Cutting out of the movies with the bathroom excuse was polite if you ask me. Older and more experienced ladies would have embarrassed this creep right on the spot. This is a lesson learned.
TB Rhine Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 If she was interested his behavior would have been fine. 1
Easyguy14 Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 If she was interested his behavior would have been fine. How so? I know quite a few women that would've been turned off by what this jerk tried to do.
rester Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 If she was interested his behavior would have been fine. But that's also kinda the point. She wasn't interested, therefore his behavior was not okay. This should have been clear to him much earlier. He kept pushing it, which is creepy behavior.
Citizen Erased Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 I ended the date right there by saying I had to use the bathroom & I didn't go back. Awesome, well done. Guy was way out of line.
Assasda Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 He is right, that movie sucked. Also, I wondering if OP has a village bike kinda rep, because why would he come on so strongly? hahaha, Another thing he did wrong was apologize. You dont apologize for something that you meant to do, in my book
Supernatural Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 This guy sounds so slimy. I commend you for leaving the theater. Sit on his lap? Asking to kiss you? Smelling your neck? Fvvk no! What the hell do some guys think in their heads? Justwatchthefvvckinmovie! 1
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