somebodyoutthere Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 My ex sent me somewhat of a reconciliation letter this summer (apology for prior cheating and hurt, wanting to be friends). Anyway we had a run in at an event recently (pretty sure he knew I would be there). I thought the air was cleared and we could be civil and normal. But no, he went out of his way to reach out to every former mutual contact and avoid me. It got so uncomfortable (small area) I said hi and we had a pleasant conversation for about 20 minutes. Then the next day he was ice cold, looking angry and hateful- all the while gushing in fraternal affection to former mutual contacts. Neve forgot the look he shot me. Like he wanted to kill me. I was thinking wtf; I thought he wanted to be friends? It seems bizarre he would write to apologize and reconnect then treat me like a pariah. I'm past the relationship (broke up over a year ago) and ready to be civil at least at public events. I'm very hurt by his apparently deliberate coldness. I don't get it. Anyone experience anything similar?
elseaacych Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 A lot of exes don't know how to treat you once you're broken up. It's hard to move from theoretically, the most intimate relationship two human beings can share, to "friend", a state that can run the gamut of affection and intimacy. Don't read into it. It's normal. If you don't like the way he's treating you, ignore him and don't bullsh-t around with being "friends". 1
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