curiousbutnaive Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 What exactly IS chemistry? Do you immediately know whether you have chemistry with someone after meeting them? How long do you konw? Usually, when you meet someone, do you know whether you want to be with that person romantically? Also, is "chemistry" instant or does it actually take time to develop? (like getting to know one another's personality and so forth?) Please discuss. I'm really interested in this topic.
KissMyTiara Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 It's almost impossible to describe it with words, but I'll try. Chemistry is butterflies, the ability to finish each other's sentences, the desire to pounce based on just a look, knowing that they will always be able to make you laugh, knowing that they will always make you just a little bit nervous because you like them and you want them to like you back. It's feeling like the person just gets you, has figured you out. It's the feeling you have when you feel like you've recovered a long-lost limb.
whichwayisup Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 Somebody who makes your heart sing, makes you walk around with that goofy smiley look on your face. Horny all the time too. Feel good and happy ALL day. Can be instant attraction, can be slow building...Depends on the person/situation.
JackieQ Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 It's connection, not just in physical sense and not just talking about a mutual interest. You feel like you understand each other without trying so hard.
fundamental Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 Originally posted by JackieQ It's connection, not just in physical sense and not just talking about a mutual interest. You feel like you understand each other without trying so hard. This is probably the best definition of chemistry.
Merin Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 Chemistry.. For me it's when you feel a connection with someone else.. This has only happend to me 2X and in both cases I felt.. ~Drawn almost immediately to the other person ~Had a sense of having known them much longer than I had ~They felt like *Home* to me
moimeme Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 Just what I figured - everybody has a different definition; some equate to lust, others to infatuation, and others to that 'click' with someone. I think it should be mandatory that everyone explain his/her definition of 'chemistry' when discussing it or we'll never know wtf's being talked about
alphamale Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 Originally posted by moimeme I think it should be mandatory that everyone explain his/her definition of 'chemistry' when discussing it or we'll never know wtf's being talked about The day someone can "define" chemistry is the day that pigs will fly. Chemistry is undefinable by nature, as is love, life and death. Chemistry is either there or it is not between two people. You cannot create it out of thin air and you cannot erase it either.
whichwayisup Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 Well there's mental, physical and chemical. All three together and that's true love?? One of three? Depends on the people, situation, all of it. Everyone feels differently about what it is, you're right Moi!
Merin Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 Originally posted by moimeme Just what I figured - everybody has a different definition; some equate to lust, others to infatuation, and others to that 'click' with someone. I think it should be mandatory that everyone explain his/her definition of 'chemistry' when discussing it or we'll never know wtf's being talked about Might be an excellent idea to make the person your feeling YOUR idea of chemistry with know exactly what that means to YOU.. otherwise one person may be feeling that *click* meaning "Damn you feel like home to me.. I want to know about you" while the other persons idea of chemistry is "Damn I can't wait to get you home, I want to know what you look like naked!"
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale Chemistry is either there or it is not between two people. You cannot create it out of thin air and you cannot erase it either. That is so very true. It works both ways. I find that people only believe in "chemistry" when it works in their favor - if it happens to not work in their favor (ie: their partner feels chemistry with someone else) then its reality and validity is immediately denied. Chemistry and relationships don't necessary go together. The same chemistry that brings two people together can as easily split them apart.
Artifact Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 There was an installation by Diller and Scofido called "Blur" not long ago. It required that a person fill out a survey, then put on a raincoat with all the information from the survey programmed. (I think personality and interest based test) When you and your raincoat are near someone who you "should" have chemistry with, the colors of your raincoat match (they blush). How easy is that? For me personally, I like Merin's definition though. My long term relationships have had that kind of connection. Of course I've had that crazy infatuation chemistry once too; that's intense. Maybe too intense for a lifetime. Occasional butterflies are good enough for me!
iceisles Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 I had Chemisty with a girl once. It was nice to have a lab partner to cheat off of. I think chemistry is either there or it isn't. It's not something that can be manufactured. When you are with someone and you naturally "click", then you've got chemistry. I think we'd all like it to be quantifiable, but just like love itself, it's one of those states of being that is very real but you can't reach out and touch it. To me, chemistry is rare and easy to detect, and usually signifies something special when two people have it.
moimeme Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 Might be an excellent idea to make the person your feeling YOUR idea of chemistry with know exactly what that means to YOU.. otherwise one person may be feeling that *click* meaning "Damn you feel like home to me.. I want to know about you" while the other persons idea of chemistry is "Damn I can't wait to get you home, I want to know what you look like naked!" Not to mention dropping someone because 'there's no chemistry'.
Merin Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 Originally posted by moimeme Not to mention dropping someone because 'there's no chemistry'. Exactly!
EC Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 Chemistry= the class I had to take twice to graduate. Maybe there was no chemistry between the professor and I? But seriously..Chemistry..I think its that feeling when your attracted to someone and you can read their mind without even trying. A certain "i don't know what" that you feel with this person and you cannot create it, and you cannot ignore it, and no you can't make it go away. It this certain connection. Chocolate and I have a chemistry.
ion Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 I used to be a chemist. And I don't know what the field *is*.
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