Natsu21 Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 (edited) So I was trying this social/dating site out for a while and I kept striking out. Striking out. Striking out. Yesterday I said "Screw it, I don't care anymore" and saw this woman's people that sounded condescending... "Most people on here are disgusting, this is a fact." So I said, without hesitating "If that is a fact, than here's a fact, you're being a whiney bitch." The next hour was her and I going back and forth, yelling and trying to prove each other right in a surprising battle of wits... The argument ends in a draw and she says "I respect your opinion, I'm impressed." We start talking and we end up having an insane chemistry.... We're going on a date. So, explain to me guys. WHAT THE HELL HAPPENED? Everyone there on that status was saying "Oh baby im not like that." "I call this woman a bitch and contest her and now we're going on a date." Someone tell me WHAT THE BLUE HECK JUST HAPPENED? Update: she said she was kinda turned on by me because I was the one guy who put her in her place and didn't back down. O_O. What the heck? Edited September 6, 2014 by Natsu21
HappyLove Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 Haha, should be interesting... She likes being challenged are you really the way you came across in messages because that's what she's interested in. Keep us posted!
Jules Dash Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 The maintenance is where it gets tricky. It won't be as easy as just keep challenging her and calling her a bitch every day, that's for sure.
OwMyEyeball Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 Congratulations. You're now the authoritarian father figure of an only child. 1
Author Natsu21 Posted September 6, 2014 Author Posted September 6, 2014 Congratulations. You're now the authoritarian father figure of an only child. Why do I feel like I just landed a chick by being a jerk? And why does that discourage me?
Polak Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 Why do I feel like I just landed a chick by being a jerk? And why does that discourage me? It shouldn't, cause that's not completely true. You said after the battle of wits came to a draw, you talked with her more afterwards, where you discovered chemistry. I'm assuming you weren't being a jerk during that post-battle discussion, but instead, your normal self. So I think the heated comeback war only served to break down that initial barrier of interest between you guys, which allowed her to fully connect with you. By the way, congrats. It is indeed a hilarious occurrence! I always love when the most unexpected things lead to the best outcomes.
OwMyEyeball Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 Why do I feel like I just landed a chick by being a jerk? And why does that discourage me? Because you expressed yourself openly and defended your position when challenged. You were genuine. You feel discouraged because you've attributed your success to the one moment you were confrontational and rude while ignoring all of your other, much more positive actions. All together I would say you were probably 2% jerk and 98% good guy. 1
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 Because you expressed yourself openly and defended your position when challenged. You were genuine. You feel discouraged because you've attributed your success to the one moment you were confrontational and rude while ignoring all of your other, much more positive actions. All together I would say you were probably 2% jerk and 98% good guy. Exactly! You challenged her, was genuine, and the back and forth banter gave her a good feel for your personality, and she obviously liked the exchange. In the online world, its hard to find someone with something "real" to say. For me, wits and personality won over every time.
Author Natsu21 Posted September 6, 2014 Author Posted September 6, 2014 Exactly! You challenged her, was genuine, and the back and forth banter gave her a good feel for your personality, and she obviously liked the exchange. In the online world, its hard to find someone with something "real" to say. For me, wits and personality won over every time. That's it though, it happened because I frankly stopped trying to impress people. I said exactly what was on my mind and it works. When you're not stepping on your toes trying to say the flyest thing online, girls are pretty impressed. But that doesn't guarantee you'll get responses. When I stopped trying I got a good one. But the way it happened blows my mind though. 1
Dork Vader Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 It is that you quit trying and finally were yourself. I quit giving a crud and posted exactly who I am and what I want on a dating web site. I've got more views then ever and I'm having NO issue getting responses. Have fun don't analyze what you have now.. Enjoy it and see how far down the rabbit hole you'll go..
Emissary Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 I basically entered a depressive state over striking out over and over, and then I just got super high and started turning my life around. I managed a very tricky spot where I got the number of the girl I fancy most at this time, and now we're going on a date. Basically when I got high, I got even more depressed and just decided, screw it all, I'm just going to message my crushes and see what happens. I got no responses which hurt quite a bit, but then out of nowhere I get a message from the sister of my crush, I didn't even need to negotiate for the cell number, she happily gave it to me. That went so well, it's just like if I were playing out the scene in my dreams. My meekness prevented me from being anything but polite, but then I got high and went right on target by asking her out for coffee. It's a funny story because I'm literally a guy who gets **** on all his life when it comes to the dating scene and has had enough, and then suddenly everything just clicks into place and I've met an actual keeper. Kind of makes me truly believe there's a god out there who cares about me after all.
Assasda Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 So I was trying this social/dating site out for a while and I kept striking out. Striking out. Striking out. Yesterday I said "Screw it, I don't care anymore" and saw this woman's people that sounded condescending... "Most people on here are disgusting, this is a fact." So I said, without hesitating "If that is a fact, than here's a fact, you're being a whiney bitch." The next hour was her and I going back and forth, yelling and trying to prove each other right in a surprising battle of wits... The argument ends in a draw and she says "I respect your opinion, I'm impressed." We start talking and we end up having an insane chemistry.... We're going on a date. So, explain to me guys. WHAT THE HELL HAPPENED? Everyone there on that status was saying "Oh baby im not like that." "I call this woman a bitch and contest her and now we're going on a date." Someone tell me WHAT THE BLUE HECK JUST HAPPENED? Update: she said she was kinda turned on by me because I was the one guy who put her in her place and didn't back down. O_O. What the heck? You proved you have Cojones. So she cant knock it. You didnt try to kiss her butt. So she respects you. Please whatever you do, dont transform into a doormat, she wont forgive you for it
todreaminblue Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 it is good to have someone who challenges you and the way you think to be able to discuss and be passionate...it is good for a man to stand up for what he believes in.......i personally would not however respect you if you called me a whiny bitch......it lacks class and isn't a respectful way to speak to a woman....i would offer you, personally, respect regardless....but i would not respect your style or use of name calling to prove a point....or have an impact..... i would be more concerned with this woman if you continue to date how many arguments you have.......and whether she is into dissention rather than communication...whatever happens i wish you well and hope that it works out for you........d.eb
Author Natsu21 Posted September 6, 2014 Author Posted September 6, 2014 it is good to have someone who challenges you and the way you think to be able to discuss and be passionate...it is good for a man to stand up for what he believes in.......i personally would not however respect you if you called me a whiny bitch......it lacks class and isn't a respectful way to speak to a woman....i would offer you, personally, respect regardless....but i would not respect your style or use of name calling to prove a point....or have an impact..... i would be more concerned with this woman if you continue to date how many arguments you have.......and whether she is into dissention rather than communication...whatever happens i wish you well and hope that it works out for you........d.eb True, but here's what surprised. She asked "And what makes you think that I'm a bitch" So I gave her my reasons based on what she said. Yeah, deb, you might walk away, but maybe she got tired of the ass-kissing she constantly got she probably wondered why I didn't suck up to her. I was pissed the **** off and spoke my mind. Regardless of how you feel, being a jerk at first and then showing my other side somehow made me stand out. That's rare in online dating.
Tayken Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 Why do I feel like I just landed a chick by being a jerk? And why does that discourage me? Yes...but if only you know what is in store for you. For your own sake, I hope you do your due diligence when you go on this date, and don't get attached / clingy. She sounds like a flaky jaded woman who obviously has had some bad experiences based possibly on a hit and run from men.....you can end up being the person that pays the price. Whatever you do, remember not to stick your **** in crazy
DazedandConfused8 Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 Update: she said she was kinda turned on by me because I was the one guy who put her in her place and didn't back down. O_O. What the heck? You answered your own question. She was lumping everyone in the same boat, then you come along and not only challenge her thinking, but call her out for whining about it. She's turned on by that: you've set yourself apart from the group and proven that you're honest. Eventually though she'll figure out you're an *******.
MoreCoffee Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 I think both genders are attracted to uncompromising people. They may say other wise, but it's true. But does she need you to be Brutus every minute of every day? Will she continually poke and prod to find chinks in the armor? This is something I hope you come back and relay to the board.
Potz4prez Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 I think girls like guys who don't put the pussy on a pedestal. Simple as that. 1
PogoStick Posted September 6, 2014 Posted September 6, 2014 Welcome to statistics. Try that on 10 more girls and you'll probably get nothing.
Author Natsu21 Posted September 7, 2014 Author Posted September 7, 2014 Update: The date went extremely well. Surprisingly she wasn't poking at the armor, she was very kind and unbiased. Not at all materialistic. Everything went extremely well until.......................................... This. "I'm still living with my ex boyfriend. We have children together." And just like that....boom. The instant chemistry we had just hit a roadblock? So I asked why she was still living with him? She said that she can't afford to live on her own, and neither could he. So what to do now? Date went well, but...that's gonna be a thorn in my side.
Author Natsu21 Posted September 7, 2014 Author Posted September 7, 2014 I think both genders are attracted to uncompromising people. They may say other wise, but it's true. But does she need you to be Brutus every minute of every day? Will she continually poke and prod to find chinks in the armor? This is something I hope you come back and relay to the board. Our date proved otherwise. I'm glad she wasn't one of those "I constantly need validation so I start drama" kind of girl, so far. But the red flag was that she revealed the live in ex boyfriend.
Mangina Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 Why do girls like jerks? And how in the heck did you get the balls to say that?
DazedandConfused8 Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 And just like that....boom. The instant chemistry we had just hit a roadblock? So I asked why she was still living with him? She said that she can't afford to live on her own, and neither could he. So what to do now? Date went well, but...that's gonna be a thorn in my side. Does she seem like she's waiting for you to come in, sweep her off her feet, and let her live with you? In other words, did she bring up the drama as a way of being open and honest, or as a tool to get you to act? Also, is their roommate relationship a "we sleep together but only because we're lonely and love each other" or have they completely separately and resolved all feelings?
Author Natsu21 Posted September 7, 2014 Author Posted September 7, 2014 Does she seem like she's waiting for you to come in, sweep her off her feet, and let her live with you? In other words, did she bring up the drama as a way of being open and honest, or as a tool to get you to act? Also, is their roommate relationship a "we sleep together but only because we're lonely and love each other" or have they completely separately and resolved all feelings? She says that they don't sleep together anymore. He has other girlfriends. But in my experience, living with an ex is usually not a good idea. I'm trying to get back up on MY feet, so if that's what she's looking for, she's in trouble, lol. Either way, she kissed me first and mentioned for sex a little afterwards but I declined.
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