My Take on Love. What's Yours?

[mytakeonlove]

The very existence of mine or yours speaks volumes about the abundance of the love from our Creator, parents or other loved ones. However, we usually forget to give credits to the patience (or maybe cowardice) of those who hate us to the very core of their bones but still let us exist in this world. Even though there are many haters who fall into this category i.e neighbors, businessmen, strangers, etc. However, statistically speaking, there's more chance of someone dying in the hands of the very person they sleep with i.e. life-partners or Ex(s) than dying in the hands of disease or anyone else.

 

 

Who is this stranger that used (or should I say abused) a word called "love" and killed their own life partner or lover (sometimes literally or figuratively speaking)?

 

 

Before I start talking about it further, why am I starting with a negative take on such a beautiful thing called love? Why not start with something lovy, mushy, cute or sweet? I have a philosophy of life which was borrowed from Dale Carnegie "Expect the best but be prepared for the worst". When the worst is taken care of first, then there's nothing but peace and love left. Just like when you build a home, you make sure its main gate has a lock before actually moving in. You can't sleep peacefully if the door is unlocked for any thief or a criminal to come in without even knocking. This reminds me of old days when people used to sleep in the streets alongwith their neighbors without being bothered. Rather they will each care about each other's women, kids and property. Unfortunately those days are long gone and now you see everyone scared of one another. Let's blame media for that, not people. They are easy scapegoats

 

 

There are two types of people on the face of earth i.e. eternal losers (usually sad or deceptive) and highly successful or happy ones. Yes, there's no middle ground in this particular case. Unfortunately, this earth is (mostly) full of the former type and saddest part about it is that these are highly social or sociable types. There's this minority or should I say tiniest few percentile of the happy and positive people who despite having a huge presence of such negative people around, carry on making this life and world beautiful and a nice place to live. How do you identify those from such a huge crowd of people? I have seen others leaving it to every individual's experiences but I'd want to share my 2 cents with you cause I feel quite generous at these wee hours of the morning

 

 

Yeah... my smilies... that was the 2nd one Same ole, same ole Alan Always smiling, no matter what! Very blessed to be born with that. I have a one and half year younger brother of mine who rarely smiles. When I was around 3 or so, and he would smile (rarely), I'd surprisingly and happily jump by saying "Look Mom, he smiled" Imho, smiles are the cheapest and the most awesome gift that you can freely distribute around in such a sad sad world. I have been so blessed to bring smiles to the very sad faces with tears and those views become a reason for me to carry on spreading it, no matter how weird or awkward they are. My 3rd grade teacher asked me a serious question about school work in front of the whole class and I answered perfectly alright (but with a smile, of course). She got mad at me and said "What's in there to smile?".

 

 

Despite the presence of so many losers on the face of earth, I'm still surprised by someone using (or abusing) the name of love to get whatever they want from life or world. Probably the reason is that since my "red flags" and "loud sirens" quickly start ringing on the view of them, I either go far far away from them (as soon as possible) or simply ignore their existance. Why do they exist? Someone said they exist so that you can know the difference between them and the "real deal". The word "deal" sounds a bit business-like which is strictly prohibited in my dictionary of love. I was under the impression that love does not require work. But I was wrong. It does require a lot of work, a lot of patience, a lot of "a lot". Again, there are two types here who believe it this way or otherwise. The ones who don't believe it requires work, prefer to stay on the recieving end of the love, rarely giving out some as if they are kicking back of this highly generous historic individual Mr.Hatim Tai.

 

 

How does our own life-partner or lover become our worst enemy and the greatest danger (potentially) to our very existance? I think answer is simple. We have two hands and they work together effortlessly, without making each other feel miserable about themselves. Similarly, life-partners are supposed to do the same. But one takes more beating than the other maybe because there's more work on their side or just maybe the other hand is literally disabled. That's perfectly alright as long that is communicated between the two. However, if the other one just prefers not to despite having all the opportunity, time and luxury to do so, obviously that will feel strange, weird and awkward. And that weirdness turns slowly into frustration. And out of frustration, the hand which is active in life (giving, giving and only giving) may become either tired, confused or simply stop working. When the "STOP" sign arrives, there should be a voluntary exit for the useless hand, to give way for an artificial one.

 

 

I have heard a lot about the lack of communication being the reason of a divorce or breakup. Imho, love does not have any language. It is the simplest, easiest and the most natural form of expression which has been unnecessarily complicated by the psychologists, therapist commonly known as shrinks. Cooking for me is not going to win my heart if you are cheating on me with someone else on my back. And no, not everyone is insecure when they feel being cheated upon. If love can't take care of that insecurity, then what else will? Saying "I love you" is the easiest, and unfortunately the most abused word in modern day vocabulary. Thousands of years of wisdom, education and knowledge has made people more deceptive than making them more in touch with their own feelings or to their true selves.

 

 

Regarding the actual act of killing, I think spiritual murder (via divorce or a breakup) is far more painful than the actual one. When you inflict that pain to the very person with whom you made love (or possibly kids), that's the worst thing you could do to them. That is the expression of hatred, anger and extreme frustration. Emotionally speaking, men take their time while women don't. Gender war (via militant feminism) has turned some women to always mistake or misunderstand everything that comes out of the mouth of a man. Their latest war on men has destroyed so many homes, broken so many families, turned so many kids into orphans (despite their moms and dads being alive) that it is despicable to even mention that over here. Physical strength of a man has been turned into some sort of evil strength. The end result; more men behind bars, in rehabs or in graveyards than they used to be before this gender war. And the leaders of that militant feminist movements are themselves either eternal loners or gays.

 

 

Every daughter, mother, wife, sister or a woman should know what are their rights. But in that effort, how this media has turned a normal woman into a bitch ready to explode is ridiculously impossible to believe in the first place. As if the modern age and society was meant not for family but for causing as much drama as possible. Today, all these single mothers with kids (today's love-child, yesterday's "bastard") from various different fathers (or sperm donors) are a slap in the very face of such militant feminism.

 

 

In the backdrop of all this hoopla, just tell me if I'm really wrong in starting off on this awesome topic of "love" with a little mention of losers?

 

 

Phew!!!

 

 

Signed... by a man

[mightycpa]

Regarding the actual act of killing, I think spiritual murder (via divorce or a breakup) is far more painful than the actual one. When you inflict that pain to the very person with whom you made love (or possibly kids), that's the worst thing you could do to them.

 

I'm going to stop you here and have you consider.

 

While marriage is thought of to be a life sentence, BF/GF is not. Therefore, a breakup cannot be compared to divorce in this sense. The promise has not been made. Consideration has not been exchanged. It's not the same.

 

There's one other thing that I want you to consider. Were it not for breakups, you wouldn't be on this earth. Somewhere in your lineage, someone got dumped. Had that never happened, you'd be somewhere else.

 

Apparently, you're pretty PO'd at your situation. Maybe you deserved it, maybe not. But I have to say that your anger will probably help you get over it more quickly than someone who feels only sadness.

 

Good luck.

[GemmaUK]

You sound angry and misogynistic.

 

Good luck with whatever it is that you are wanting from here.

It's unclear from your post.

[slizl]

Sounds like you might be going through a rough patch right now. Remember this, you will only have (hopefully) one successful relationship in your life that does not end with a breakup (your marriage). Keep your head up and I would suggest talking with someone (preferably a professional) about what you are going through right now. Good luck, and remember life is the greatest gift and try to enjoy it, we are only here a very short time!

[amaysngrace]

The most important love is a healthy dose of self-love. Without it you can't really care for anyone else properly.

 

And when in doubt, ask yourself "what would Jesus do?"

 

That's my take on love <3

[evanescentworld]

True proper Love is unconditional. Full stop and end of story.

 

Everything else with baggage, an agenda or an ulterior motive, is to a certain extent, only self-fulfilment. Anything involving manipulation, abuse or cruelty, cannot be included under the term 'Love' by any stretch of the imagination.

[fortyninethousand322]

Love.

 

Love is about compromise. Compromising your future to the city council of Bethesda, Maryland. Love is also about hiding in the kudzu behind your apartment, and not going in until the lights are completely out...

[mightycpa]

What did they do in Bethesda? Shut down the Pines of Rome?

[guest569]

Militant feminism? Sorry, that makes no sense. Your take on love includes a sexist rant about women taking over the world? Good luck.

[Tayken]

If you are to listen to J-LO, she purports that "love don't cost a thing"...this coming from a woman that has been married 3 times and recently got dumped by a much younger boyfriend (add Britney to the list also)

 

Funny that she chases Marc Anthony for Alimony

 

Marriage as whole is a scam, and when you really sit down and weigh the pros v cons, you will see that you have more to lose than gain from a marriage or long term relationship, especially these days of selfishness and self centered people