Depressed Fiance - what did she say?

[ThorntonMelon]

I know your thread is locked, but I am dying to know what happened when she was asked about your status.

[Hollywood-Tourist]

I have the answer.

 

 

But why do you want to know?

[Chi townD]

Really?!?!

 

 

Dude, they were just asking because they were curious about your well-being. No need to be a douche rocket about it.

 

 

People can offer different advice to your different situations. Whatever direction you choose to go and whether you decide to take that advice is entirely up to you.

[Hollywood-Tourist]

I don't think TM is being compassionate & is merely 'prying' now out of sheer nosiness.

[Strength in Healing]

People like you sadden my view of humanity, depressed.

[ThorntonMelon]

Your response gives the answer.

[Chi townD]

Then, fine. Have a great life. I already gave you advice, whether you take it or not, that's up to you. I feel that MOST people have been compassionate towards your situation and some folks sometimes had to be a little blunt about the abuse you were victim to, to get you to open your eyes. Whether you see it or not, there are GOOD people on this site that actually DO care.

 

 

 

 

So, have a good one! I'm outta here!

[lauri]

You know what's sad?

 

You are being snappy at people who actually cared to help you. In contrast, you forgive and want to be with someone who, quite clearly, doesn't seem to see what she does is fully wrong. Even if she does, she doesn't admit it.

 

I was curious as well because I want the best for you. Quite frankly, I'm really disappointed by your response. We aren't out to get you - the sooner you realize that the better.

[ThorntonMelon]

I don't think he means to be snappy - I think he's devastated and doesn't want the thread to turn into "I told you so".

 

When you're ready to talk, we'll be here.

[HeartbrokenNewbie]

I was there too, I didn't want to hear it either I thought people on here were bitter & quite unkind at times but you know what, a year later, they were right x it does hurt to hear what u don't want to hear but most on here are further down the road & are just saying what we are not able to accept at that stage x

[ThorntonMelon]

You're really not going to at least tell us what happened? Page after page of detail after new detail and you won't follow up?

[KaliLove]

Depressed Fiance, will you at least let us know if you're doing ok?

[Hollywood-Tourist]

Depressed Fiance, will you at least let us know if you're doing ok?

 

The truth is, I'm still an emotional mess.

 

 

Every day just gets harder instead of easier, time is NOT a healer for me.

 

 

I think I'm just going to go round her place to talk it out with her, f*ck her no contact sh*t - then report her to the Police after.

[KaliLove]

So she dumped you? I'm sorry you're sad but it's for the best. She is batsh*t crazy and it's highly likely she'll do it again..and possibly to any kids you would have had.

 

If you show up at her place uninvited, she could just as easily call the police on you...I wouldn't.

Edited September 7, 2014 by KaliLove

[Hollywood-Tourist]

So she dumped you? I'm sorry you're sad but it's for the best.

 

If you show up at her place uninvited, she could just as easily call the police on you...I wouldn't.

 

No she didn't dump me yet, we're still as far as she's concerned on this no contact stage.

 

 

She's forgetting that I could call the Police on her too.

[SoThatHappened]

Wow... you're delusional, DF.

 

Move on.

 

You can't start a new chapter until you stop reading the last one.

 

Even if your situation wasn't unique, she's gone dude.

 

Even if she's not gone, you should be.

[KaliLove]

No she didn't dump me yet, we're still as far as she's concerned on this no contact stage.

 

 

She's forgetting that I could call the Police on her too.

 

Do you have any proof of what happened? Are her parents willing to testify against their own daughter? Do you have pictures of your bruises?

 

Dude..why are you bothering with this chick? What kind of healthy relationship could you possibly have now? This isn't going to end well.

[Hollywood-Tourist]

Do you have any proof of what happened?

 

 

What do you mean? Well I was the victim so that is proof enough surely?

 

 

Are her parents willing to testify against their own daughter?

 

 

I wouldn't have thought so no.

 

 

Do you have pictures of your bruises?

 

 

Yes I do and they are date stamped.

 

Dude..why are you bothering with this chick?

 

 

Because I love her. Despite what she's done, I love her - I can't help it but I do.

 

 

I would give or do anything to have her back.

 

 

What kind of healthy relationship could you possibly have now?

 

If we worked on her issues by eliminating them with professional help then it could be a semi-positive relationship.

[No Limit]

If we worked on her issues by eliminating them with professional help then it could be a semi-positive relationship.

 

Work her issues out so everything becomes more bearable for you? DF, she has shown you who she is - who she really is. If you make your happiness dependant on people to change their character and habits, you'll never be happy again.

[Hollywood-Tourist]

Work her issues out so everything becomes more bearable for you? DF, she has shown you who she is - who she really is. If you make your happiness dependant on people to change their character and habits, you'll never be happy again.

 

I wouldn't say it's so it becomes bearable for me no.

 

 

So you don't think it would ever be a one-off? Once she's put her hands on someone is it a case that if she's done it once, she can do it again?

 

 

I suppose in a way she has shown me her true colours & what she's capable of.

[SoThatHappened]

Because I love her. Despite what she's done, I love her - I can't help it but I do.

 

This will likely be my last post on this, because it's completely obvious you're not going to heed the absolutely consistent and correct advice given by EVERY SINGLE PERSON in this thread.

 

You love her. Sure, that's why you wanted to marry her. Of course you can't help it.

 

The only thing you can do is let her go, for your own sanity and for the sake of the rest of your life.

 

No amount of posts or "what if's" are going to change your mind. You're now purely using this forum as an outlet instead of moving forward.

 

A lot of people's patience is running thin on this. You need to either contact her and let that sheetstorm unfold and ruin your life / learn your lesson, or you need to cut her out of your life and move on. Seriously, man.

 

I'm almost seeing why she choked you at this point...

[mightycpa]

I'm almost seeing why she choked you at this point...

 

 

That is the best yet.

[Hollywood-Tourist]

The only thing you can do is let her go, for your own sanity and for the sake of the rest of your life.

 

 

You don't let go of the ones you love.

 

 

I can't believe she's acting like this in the aftermath.

 

You need to either contact her and let that sheetstorm unfold and ruin your life / learn your lesson.

 

 

What's that supposed to mean, is that a threat?

[No Limit]

I wouldn't say it's so it becomes bearable for me no.

 

 

So you don't think it would ever be a one-off? Once she's put her hands on someone is it a case that if she's done it once, she can do it again?

 

 

I suppose in a way she has shown me her true colours & what she's capable of.

 

It's natural for you to care about her. And sure, therapy would not only help the "relationship", but also herself - the route of violence is destructive in every aspect. But, you can't save her from herself. It would be amazing if people suddenly "woke up", society could replace prisons with psychologists. But it just isn't possible.

 

I think she's capable of far more. At the same time I hope nobody will ever trigger her to test her limits or whatever goes on in her mind.

[lauri]

What exactly did she say to you when you spoke to her? How did the conversation go?

 

Im a bit confused, did she say she doesn't want to speak to you anymore?

 

Its almost as if she's trying to put the blame on you for her actions...sounds like my ex.