enchanted771 Posted September 5, 2014 Posted September 5, 2014 Now I see why there are so many single people in a metro area. I had this amazing date Monday. We made a Plans to go on a second date today. Yesterday were texting & then end it by saying ok looking forward to seeing you again. He replied me too. Then 2 hours pass and he says "it's cool...I know your just hor*y! Lmao! " I thought I misread it. He did a complete 35 360. Then talking about how he's looking for a friend who he can eventually have s*x with. The other night he's talking about getting married, etc. I know it's nothing I did but now I know why I'm single. My friend said I should have shut him down when he said that & ignored him. But I'm the type of person who needs to speak my mind. I guess it's good to weed out the bad ones. He was trying to convince me that fwb can last a long time & you never know. Yeah & and a waste of time! I'm looking to get married before too long not waste time on a friend.
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted September 5, 2014 Posted September 5, 2014 Uhm... I guess he is lightening up and feeling free to jest about how quick you both emailed. Something came up in the first date to allow him to be so open as to joke that way with you. Maybe not, just probably meant no harm. Though for me, I'd never jest that way until some passions are shared. I don't think you did allow that yet. Maybe he is testing the water with you on how you'd poke back or allow more sexual freedom. Talk to him about it, as I have had many small misunderstandings before with my mate. They were all taken differently because I mixed too much seriousness with jesting, and that may have been his case. Through good communication, you'll find his reasons even though you may not understand why he came off the way he did, after all you have not made any sexual advances. Guys can jest about sex, as a cute way to show affection. Just you need to get comfy and allow some mutual understandings to be laid out. Yes, you can get him to understand you, and his understanding will allow better communication in how he jests with you. Obviously it troubles you, so he will make better judgement if he cares for you. So it was a blip on your radar... trust him to show you that he cares and will not push sexual side of things without your active participation.
Author enchanted771 Posted September 5, 2014 Author Posted September 5, 2014 I did talk to him. He wants a friend to play with. Lol I told him we can be Friends but I won't have a sex with him. It was stupid to Even engage in a convo with him about it. He lied when he said he's looking for a relationship so in that case, just move on to someone who is.
mammasita Posted September 5, 2014 Posted September 5, 2014 I did talk to him. He wants a friend to play with. Lol I told him we can be Friends but I won't have a sex with him. It was stupid to Even engage in a convo with him about it. He lied when he said he's looking for a relationship so in that case, just move on to someone who is. Screw that. I would have said "WHAT THE **** DID YOU JUST SAY TO ME!!!" you're too nice.
Author enchanted771 Posted September 5, 2014 Author Posted September 5, 2014 You know-your right! I need to start being more of a b**ch! It's not easy but if I'm not these guys will not respect me. I thought I read the text wrong. I mean who the f does that kind of Crap? I was like "what"??? "I'm not looking to get laid"? Then he says really? I thought you were. No wonder he's single.
longjohn Posted September 5, 2014 Posted September 5, 2014 Women do this too believe it or not. I met what seemed to be a nice lady via OLD who stated she wanted a relationship and confirmed this when we started dating. What she failed to mention at the time was the other two guys she was "dating" even after a talk about being exclusive. A few weeks later after a long discussion she tells me she just wanted to "date" vs get into a serious relationship. Stupid woman wasted a good chunk of my time and energy. I don't want to be poking the same pie as two other guys on random nights of the week. I personally find that disgusting and quickly stopped seeing her.
mammasita Posted September 5, 2014 Posted September 5, 2014 You know-your right! I need to start being more of a b**ch! It's not easy but if I'm not these guys will not respect me. I thought I read the text wrong. I mean who the f does that kind of Crap? I was like "what"??? "I'm not looking to get laid"? Then he says really? I thought you were. No wonder he's single. Its easy enough. You have nothing to lose. No history with these guys and absolutely NO reason to be his damn friend. WAKE UP girl. Offering to be his friend is setting yourself up to be a doormat.
cristalina Posted September 5, 2014 Posted September 5, 2014 I recently experienced something similar. I was chatting with a guy, and really enjoying the conversation. He was intellectual, and actually discussing topics of substance. Then all of a sudden he decided to get inappropriate with me, and start talking about how I need to let go and get my freak on because I'm sexually paralyzed and some such nonsense. I was really disappointed that he decided to take that route. I get that men use sex discussion to flirt, but the insinuation that I need some sort of sexual healing from him was very disrespectful. Choosing to be someone that abstains and waits should never be disrespected by others. This is especially true considering that we hadn't even met yet. My immediate response? "I wish to discontinue our conversation. Goodnight." And I haven't spoken with him since. Don't waste time on people that won't respect you. You're worth more. - Cris
Author enchanted771 Posted September 5, 2014 Author Posted September 5, 2014 Women do this too believe it or not. I met what seemed to be a nice lady via OLD who stated she wanted a relationship and confirmed this when we started dating. What she failed to mention at the time was the other two guys she was "dating" even after a talk about being exclusive. A few weeks later after a long discussion she tells me she just wanted to "date" vs get into a serious relationship. Stupid woman wasted a good chunk of my time and energy. I don't want to be poking the same pie as two other guys on random nights of the week. I personally find that disgusting and quickly stopped seeing her.yes & it's women like her that make certain guys behave the way they do assuming they are all dating a few guys at a time. I just want one, but not some jerk who doesn't know how to act. 1
Author enchanted771 Posted September 5, 2014 Author Posted September 5, 2014 Its easy enough. You have nothing to lose. No history with these guys and absolutely NO reason to be his damn friend. WAKE UP girl. Offering to be his friend is setting yourself up to be a doormat. thanks your right I need to be stronger or these dbags with eat me alive in this city.
Author enchanted771 Posted September 5, 2014 Author Posted September 5, 2014 I recently experienced something similar. I was chatting with a guy, and really enjoying the conversation. He was intellectual, and actually discussing topics of substance. Then all of a sudden he decided to get inappropriate with me, and start talking about how I need to let go and get my freak on because I'm sexually paralyzed and some such nonsense. I was really disappointed that he decided to take that route. I get that men use sex discussion to flirt, but the insinuation that I need some sort of sexual healing from him was very disrespectful. Choosing to be someone that abstains and waits should never be disrespected by others. This is especially true considering that we hadn't even met yet. My immediate response? "I wish to discontinue our conversation. Goodnight." And I haven't spoken with him since. Don't waste time on people that won't respect you. You're worth more. - Cris thanks your right I should have just ended the convo. By engaging It wasn't showing much respect for myself & I refuse to settle for some loser.
PegNosePete Posted September 5, 2014 Posted September 5, 2014 You know-your right! I need to start being more of a b**ch! It's not easy but if I'm not these guys will not respect me. No you don't. Just because you don't take crap from idiot guys, doesn't make you a b**th. If someone treats you with respect then show them respect in return. If not... eject them from your life. 1
longjohn Posted September 5, 2014 Posted September 5, 2014 yes & it's women like her that make certain guys behave the way they do assuming they are all dating a few guys at a time. I just want one, but not some jerk who doesn't know how to act. Yes, after her now I keep my guard up. It's difficult to spot genuine people in what seems to be a sea of arseholes and liars. I can share your frustration in trying to find someone nice, stable and mature that only wants one person.
Author enchanted771 Posted September 5, 2014 Author Posted September 5, 2014 No you don't. Just because you don't take crap from idiot guys, doesn't make you a b**th. If someone treats you with respect then show them respect in return. If not... eject them from your life. True! Guys just like to call you that when you have something to say. Your a b or uptight or too much drama or bla bla bla.
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