dring23 Posted September 5, 2014 Posted September 5, 2014 Hi, Meet a women online about 3 weeks ago. We talk on the phone everyday and text aswell. Have gone out 4 times now, the last 2 we were intimate (yes it was too fast, but the chemistry is just amazing). 2 nights ago while on the phone she asked if I was online still. Told her i had logged in that day as i had received a message, I politely told the women messaging me I was seeing someone and was hiding my profile. I explained this to the women I am seeing and she agreed that it's best to only concentrate on 1 person at a time. She then asked me to tell her how to hide her profile. To her surprise her profile was already hidden, and she laughed that's why no one has probably messaged her. Since then I checked (i know i shouldnt have) and she is online constantly, her profile is no longer hidden, and she added new photos. She is obviously speaking with others now. We haven't talked about any commitment yet (still too early), is it wrong to ask her if she is still active online? For me once I've been intimate with someone I stop talking with others to see where things are going. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
evanescentworld Posted September 5, 2014 Posted September 5, 2014 You have to ask her if she feels your relationship could be exclusive, in her eyes and according to her. It pays to be direct and not pussy-foot around the issue. Find out what her feelings are on the matter. it sounds as if you are intense, and maybe reading too much into this. Simply because you see sex as a pre-cursor to an exclusive relationship doesn't mean she does, or that she even should. People are different, and she may not view the matter as sex = commitment. She may just think you were both adult and mature enough to have sex, enjoy the moment, and have a good time. This doesn't make either you or her, wrong or right. It just makes you different.
PegNosePete Posted September 5, 2014 Posted September 5, 2014 2 nights ago while on the phone she asked if I was online still. ... is it wrong to ask her if she is still active online? Well she can't get upset at you for asking since she has already asked the same thing. I wouldn't put too much meaning into the online times, some dating sites show you as online constantly if you have the mobile app, etc. The updating of pics is not a good sign though. Yes it seems it's time to find out what's going on here.
longjohn Posted September 5, 2014 Posted September 5, 2014 Hi, 2 nights ago while on the phone she asked if I was online still. Told her i had logged in that day as i had received a message, I politely told the women messaging me I was seeing someone and was hiding my profile. I explained this to the women I am seeing and she agreed that it's best to only concentrate on 1 person at a time. She then asked me to tell her how to hide her profile. That to me sounds like an agreement to be exclusive. To confirm I'd ask her if she considers you both exclusive. If she says yes then I'd ask her why she's on the site and adding new pictures. I'd then wait for a response before telling her where she can go. If she says no to thinking you are exclusive then I'd either ask her to be or accept the fact she's dating others.
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