juliemsbd34 Posted September 5, 2014 Posted September 5, 2014 I hooked up with my now boyfriend back in November when he was visiting from Hawaii... and then we text back and forth until he came back for a 6 month stay starting in April. The first two weeks he was here were incredible... text me constantly to tell me I'm beautiful and that he missed me, told me he was falling in love with me, talked about our future and even me going back to Hawaii with him if it worked out. And when he looked into my eyes and said he was going to marry me someday... I thought my fairy tale was finally coming true. And then I kissed him goodbye one morning, he told me to call him later in the day, and things haven't been the same since. He doesn't take me out on dates... no longer spends the night with me... doesn't answer my calls or respond to most of my texts... And when I asked him if he had lost interest, he said no... that he cares for me, likes to be with me, that I make him happy, and one time text me that he loves me. I didn't answer cuz it shocked me... and I don't think the first time you officially say it should be over text. And of course he hasn't said it again since... so I'm not sure if he even meant it. We've had a lot of issues about his lack of communication skills... instead of telling me he can't come over or whatever he'll just ignore me. And it happened again on Tuesday. Afterward, I knew he was at a meeting, but I kept on texting him, accusing him of not caring about me and being inconsiderate... I wouldn't stop. I was so angry. And this has happened before. I always regret it after. Anyway, it is now Thursday... and I haven't heard a word from him. I asked him if he just wanted a break for awhile or break UP... no answer. He's at his meeting again tonite, and no, I'm not texting him now. But I don't know what is going on. He goes back to Hawaii in October... so we don't have a lot of time together. Not that we are spending time together really as it is. I just don't understand why he says he likes me and that I make him happy, but keeps distance between us. And why he just won't tell me where we are at right now. If we're over, why not just say it? Or say SOMETHING.
Tayken Posted September 5, 2014 Posted September 5, 2014 You obviously left out some details before the "I kissed him goodbye" i.e. that you might have slept with him??????, and that since that mission has been accomplished, he is no longer interested It's the oldest trick in the book. Time to move on and not make the same mistake again i.e. falling for someone so quick. How old are if you don't mind me asking?
travelbug1996 Posted September 5, 2014 Posted September 5, 2014 Stop being so enamored by WORDS. His actions are the only thing you should be paying attention to and they really are saying he's over it. Stop letting him play with your head. Please move on especially since it was probably just a fling to him since he's going back home. What have you learned??
Author juliemsbd34 Posted September 5, 2014 Author Posted September 5, 2014 We tried to sleep together back in November already... without the promises and words. But I was too drunk. And when he got back here, I pretty much threw myself at him (he's so hot and we pretty much had 5 months of foreplay with 4000 miles between us) after a night out. HE stopped me and told me he wanted to wait because he wanted us both to be 100% sober our first time together. But the morning everything changed was not our first time.
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