Kylie1 Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 So the guy I'm seeing got really cold after we had sex. Finally told him I don't like how distant he is and he said actually we are not meant to be together and we were different people... And then goes actually it's too early to decide and we can give it a try and spend time this weekend. He said things moved too fast. I mean one minute he sounds so negative then he gives me hope. I'm really upset how things are right now. I said we can spend time this weekend. Told him that I want to work things out- nothing happened other than getting intimate and it wasn't only my idea- and had feelings for him. Part of me says I need to let it go and other says maybe he likes me after all. Everything was great until we got close:/ what do you think?
Omei Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 Just stick to hang outs no more sex until he knows what he wants. 1
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 wow, i can be negative, but would like to say something positive... Go with your gut feelings and see what the weekend brings. At least he did not run off and mark another on the stick. 1
cristalina Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 Unfortunately this sounds all too familiar. As much as men like sex and want it quickly, they tend to have less respect for a woman that gives it away quickly. This is why I'm a huge proponent of not rushing into things. The whole "sex by the third date" bit just seems like an unhealthy mentality to me. I'd say cut your losses and move on. I know it's hard because you've been intimate. Intimacy connects us on another level and can make it really difficult to let go. But if he's acting this way towards you right after being intimate, it's a sign that that is all he was after or things just moved way too quickly and he no longer feels respect for you. I know that's probably difficult to read, but don't worry girl! It's just another learning experience along the romance road, and you've got something amazing to offer a good man. I man that will treat you like that after sex doesn't deserve you. You are too good for him. Own it! - Cris 2
Author Kylie1 Posted September 4, 2014 Author Posted September 4, 2014 Unfortunately this sounds all too familiar. As much as men like sex and want it quickly, they tend to have less respect for a woman that gives it away quickly. This is why I'm a huge proponent of not rushing into things. The whole "sex by the third date" bit just seems like an unhealthy mentality to me. I'd say cut your losses and move on. I know it's hard because you've been intimate. Intimacy connects us on another level and can make it really difficult to let go. But if he's acting this way towards you right after being intimate, it's a sign that that is all he was after or things just moved way too quickly and he no longer feels respect for you. I know that's probably difficult to read, but don't worry girl! It's just another learning experience along the romance road, and you've got something amazing to offer a good man. I man that will treat you like that after sex doesn't deserve you. You are too good for him. Own it! - Cris Thank you Cris. We both didn't want to get close like that but it happened and I knew it was a mistake. Everything was mutual. He actually would do all the texting etc. setting up dates.... Introduced me to his friends. I thought I actually finally found someone that I felt something pure after a few failed relationships. I'm ok with not being intimate and just spend time. I'm just wondering why he says something like that then he is down for meeting up. And I can say he isn't after just sex bec you just know that. I'm wondering if he is scared of being hurt etc. I'm really hurt.
cristalina Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 Thank you Cris. We both didn't want to get close like that but it happened and I knew it was a mistake. Everything was mutual. He actually would do all the texting etc. setting up dates.... Introduced me to his friends. I thought I actually finally found someone that I felt something pure after a few failed relationships. I'm ok with not being intimate and just spend time. I'm just wondering why he says something like that then he is down for meeting up. And I can say he isn't after just sex bec you just know that. I'm wondering if he is scared of being hurt etc. I'm really hurt. Totally understandable. Feeling that kind of rejection after intimacy is very hurtful. I hope you can find some answers this weekend! Either way, you are beautiful and worthy of a healthy intimate relationship. Don't forget that. 2
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