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Is it difficult for you to keep up with your workout regimen right after a break up?

Jules Dash

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Jules Dash Established Member

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I do weightlifting and bike riding for my workouts. I usually ride my stationary bike every 1-2 days and lift every 1-2 days depending on which body parts I am working on. It never fails that after I go through a breakup or break from a relationship or someone I am dating, it is tough for me to keep up with my workout routine right afterward. I feel really guilty about it and feel that I'm really setting myself back after putting so much work into my body. It is just tough for me to focus enough to workout. I tend to do a lot of reflecting on the failed relationship at first and then gradually return to my previous intensity but I feel really setback.

 

They say that one of the best things to do after a break up is exercise or continue to do so but I'm just not feeling it. I always had a certain amount of admiration for those who can still keep up with their same workout intensity immediately afterward.

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Actually this is the one thing I love about my last break up... I finally have time to get out and get more exercise! I hate not being able to get out and get fresh air because I seem to end up stuck indoors doing all the ironing, washing, cooking, cleaning etc... Very dull...

 

Get off your bum and get on with your workouts and stop moaping about. You will feel better, get fitter and be in great shape when you are ready to get out there again!

 

Get fit and healthy for you - not anyone else.

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I have this problem because i'm just emotionally not there to want to work out. I have to push myself and it's hard because my mind is not there and thinking something else :(

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In all cases so far I've actually used the break-ups as sources for more motivation. There were times however where I would feel down and not want to workout (which is fine) but usually in those cases I follow this rule for myself:

 

"Do it, then think about it." ;)

 

Once I get started, it's fairly easy to keep going.

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... back to my workout, back to my regimen. Back to my weight gain, back to my discipline... ;)

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Jules Dash Established Member

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Just worked out and feel like a king. This stuff is good for the soul.

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Workouts get me through any and every kind of life stress. I may spend all day beating myself up over some horrible thing, but I can't do that when I'm at the gym. When I'm squatting or lifting there is no room for anxiety, sadness or ANY distraction. It's just me and the weights.

 

More than once I've started a workout in tears. I've never ended it in tears, though, because I have work to do. I also find it very motivating. I can't be so down on myself when I'm deadlifting twice my bodyweight. I can't call myself useless and stupid and worthless, because I've just accomplished something amazing.

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Yes, i am lacking any motivation at the moment. Too screwed up with highs and lows

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Jules Dash Established Member

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  chimpanA-2-chimpanZ said:
Workouts get me through any and every kind of life stress. I may spend all day beating myself up over some horrible thing, but I can't do that when I'm at the gym. When I'm squatting or lifting there is no room for anxiety, sadness or ANY distraction. It's just me and the weights.

 

More than once I've started a workout in tears. I've never ended it in tears, though, because I have work to do. I also find it very motivating. I can't be so down on myself when I'm deadlifting twice my bodyweight. I can't call myself useless and stupid and worthless, because I've just accomplished something amazing.

 

 

I agree. Those workouts are medicine.

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i just about managed to get myself to the gym last night for the first time since the BU 3 weeks ago. the thought of going made me feel sick but once i was working out, it really got rid of my anxiety and worries for a little while. also it's your chance to look real good!

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  Lalocket said:
i just about managed to get myself to the gym last night for the first time since the BU 3 weeks ago. the thought of going made me feel sick but once i was working out, it really got rid of my anxiety and worries for a little while. also it's your chance to look real good!

 

After I finished yesterday evening, I was really refreshed for the rest of the night. I will pick up today and continue my regular regimen. The hard part is just getting it going but once you start, the wave of refreshing energy starts to wash over you.

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Jules

 

 

Need to fix the sad heart is all

exercising while upset - -just makes you think of it while riding

 

 

happy thoughts -- then get back on the bike girl

 

 

clear your head 1st

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Exercise is the one of the most important things that has helped me through this breakup! Even though the gym reminds me of my ex (we used to go there together sometimes). I signed up for a 10k run a few days after we split, and both that goal and the running itself has been therapeutic. I ALWAYS feel better after a workout, no matter how unmotivated I was beforehand.

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  chimpanA-2-chimpanZ said:
Workouts get me through any and every kind of life stress. I may spend all day beating myself up over some horrible thing, but I can't do that when I'm at the gym. When I'm squatting or lifting there is no room for anxiety, sadness or ANY distraction. It's just me and the weights.

 

More than once I've started a workout in tears. I've never ended it in tears, though, because I have work to do. I also find it very motivating. I can't be so down on myself when I'm deadlifting twice my bodyweight. I can't call myself useless and stupid and worthless, because I've just accomplished something amazing.

 

That is awesome. Not too many people male or female can deadlift twice their bodyweight.

 

Same here. There is something therapeutic about dropping under a heavy barbell and then standing it up overhead in a smooth quick motion. The male locker room advice says that the best way to get over a girl is to "get some snatch", I guess I took that advice literally!

 

I discovered weight-lifting and got back into shape after a breakup in fact.

 

Getting back to the OP, physical activity is wonderful for flushing out the "feel bad" chemicals out of the muscles (where emotions are stored--they are biochemical) and flushing in endorphins. Especially exercises such as squats and deadlifts which involve powerful contractions of the big muscles of the hips and legs, really squeezing out the chemicals behind the negative emotions.

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