secret society

[Justmejames]

anyone whos aware of the secret society. i need some advise.

 

see i work at a shoe store and basically every girl that comes in there seem attracted to me and assumes am a member of the secret society. I'm thinking the attraction is ether due to either of my recent diet(which consist of a **** ton of fruits and veggies, trying to get that muscular tone), the results of my workout, or a natural honey mask my gf made for me and suggested to blend my facial complextion with my body, or it could just be the baseball cap i always ware now. have no clue. ive always been told im good looking before all that but never before have things happen like this. Im not lying or exaggerating but pretty much every woman/girl (even some duds)that enters that store seems attracted to me. and they assume and test me on the secret society. then give me hints to put I dont knw what in a shoe box? I always think its my number and i put it in but no one ever calls!

 

so im a little confused and asking for some advise. not just because i want sex but also because these people stay in the store too long and on a busy day it causes a hovak for me and the boss.

 

what moves should i be making? I think i already understand the eye contact, then gentile touch sequence? which gives the signal for sex. but what else should i be doing?

 

also bare in mind athough ive been in a couple of relationships, my conversational skills are below average not to mention im not so fluent at english. but i know i **** pretty good.

 

if u dont feel comfortable talking about it here u can pm me.

[GorillaTheater]

Two things:

 

1) You say you have a girlfriend, so stop worrying about the intentions of these other girls.

 

2) Never, ever speak of the Secret Society again on a public board.

[Justmejames]

Two things:

 

1) You say you have a girlfriend, so stop worrying about the intentions of these other girls.

 

2) Never, ever speak of the Secret Society again on a public board.

 

Did u not read what I just said??? these girls wont leave the store!!!! and the keep asking for shoes they dont want! they want me t put something in the box but I dont know what. I put my number but they never call and avoid my store or get upset and call me gay? wtf?

 

U the one who confirmed it. just message pm please dammiT!

[Mascara]

The first rule of the secret society is to never talk about the secret society. Sorry.

 

But you could just try maintaining a professional distance and acting dumb. If that doesn't work, go into the back room and let your colleagues deal with them.

[mightycpa]

You should be asking these women to try on their shoes in the back, in the private dressing room. Then you escort them to that room.

 

Duh!

[Gloria25]

Did u not read what I just said??? these girls wont leave the store!!!! and the keep asking for shoes they dont want! they want me t put something in the box but I dont know what. I put my number but they never call and avoid my store or get upset and call me gay? wtf?

 

U the one who confirmed it. just message pm please dammiT!

 

Umm, if I'm correct, you are putting a paper or something with your telephone number inside of the box of shoes they buy?

 

Why not try a different approach? Make up some cheap cards (i.e. like a business card with your name, tel, email or Twitter/Facebook) and hand it to them and say something clever like "I see you have great taste in shoes, lemme give you my card in case you wanna follow up on your satisfaction with this purchase....or, anything else ;)" OR "You know, I have some great tips on style and shoes...Lemme give you my card, just feel free to contact me if you have any questions about shoes and stuff"...and do this with a smile.

 

I don't think the whole "dropping your tel in her box of shoes thing" is gonna fly...And, there are soooo many ways to make economic business cards that don't look cheesy or cheap.

Edited September 4, 2014 by Gloria25

[FitChick]

I didn't know Al Bundy joined LoveShack.

[Justmejames]

The first rule of the secret society is to never talk about the secret society. Sorry.

 

But you could just try maintaining a professional distance and acting dumb. If that doesn't work, go into the back room and let your colleagues deal with them.

you saying i should try to get fired.

You should be asking these women to try on their shoes in the back, in the private dressing room. Then you escort them to that room.

 

Duh!

Its a small store. the back is only for stock and theres no back door..

 

Umm, if I'm correct, you are putting a paper or something with your telephone number inside of the box of shoes they buy?

 

Why not try a different approach? Make up some cheap cards (i.e. like a business card with your name, tel, email or Twitter/Facebook) and hand it to them and say something clever like "I see you have great taste in shoes, lemme give you my card in case you wanna follow up on your satisfaction with this purchase....or, anything else ;)" OR "You know, I have some great tips on style and shoes...Lemme give you my card, just feel free to contact me if you have any questions about shoes and stuff"...and do this with a smile.

 

I don't think the whole "dropping your tel in her box of shoes thing" is gonna fly...And, there are soooo many ways to make economic business cards that don't look cheesy or cheap.

The thing is they are the ones that hint it. but Ive given 30 of my numbers out and none have called or texted. mayber i should be writing something else on that paper other than my number?

[cristalina]

Wait... You have a girlfriend? Is it not a monogamous relationship?

[todreaminblue]

secret society huh......i wouldnt go putting your telephone number in shoe boxes.....

 

i often have felt in the past that i have been followed......i normally am being followed when that happens......

 

people have a habit of walking in the same direction haven't quite figured out why.....or that they veer off and aren't following anymore and someone else takes their place.....normally in shopping centers...they veer off and pretend to be shopping......and some else is behind me walking again

 

seriously.....

 

if a secret society were watching you or you were being stalked by anyone....or someone.....the only time you know why, how or when is when they actually make a move......and tell you...until then ....you just go on with your life......people will continue to do what they do regardless of your participation or not.....

 

you love your gf ....you sell the ****e out of those shoes and become the best shoe salesman ever...leave yrou telephone number private.....

 

 

 

continue doing what you love and whom you love hold them close.....look after yourself ....get plenty of sleep..eat well live well and pray often...learn how to play chess......and when you have mastered the art of chess .....you realize no matter who your opponent is....if you are calmer than that opponent...it will force them to take a risk.....chess can get you out of your own head for a while..........and you leave the secret society be......they continue......whether you know they are there or not.....deb

[Justmejames]

@Cristalina: Yeah basically.

 

 

you know, i'm starting to think its the honey mask

 

seriously, lets experiment this, the guys here should try it. its a honey, lemon, milk powder mixed mask. Try it for 2-3 weeks and come back and tell me if youve experienced the same.

 

I look in the mirrior and hardily see any change, so its got to be that.

 

I swear i aint exaggerating or lying; People (mostly women) come in the store, they take one look at you and forget what they were about to say, stutter, or their voice lowered. ive recently found out that all these are important signs in the secret society (as well as eye contact and touch).

 

as you can already tell ive just recently found out about this. and I'm pissed as **** none of my family informed me of this, although its understandable as their all females, and giveing any of this away would make them look bad. but ****!

[todreaminblue]

@Cristalina: Yeah basically.

 

 

you know, i'm starting to think its the honey mask

 

seriously, lets experiment this, the guys here should try it. its a honey, lemon, milk powder mixed mask. Try it for 2-3 weeks and come back and tell me if youve experienced the same.

 

I look in the mirrior and hardily see any change, so its got to be that.

 

I swear i aint exaggerating or lying; People (mostly women) come in the store, they take one look at you and forget what they were about to say, stutter, or their voice lowered. ive recently found out that all these are important signs in the secret society (as well as eye contact and touch).

 

as you can already tell ive just recently found out about this. and I'm pissed as **** none of my family informed me of this, although its understandable as their all females, and giveing any of this away would make them look bad. but ****!

 

 

so i am assuming this has been happening over a three week period james..have you ever been diagnosed with having a mental illness........

[Gloria25]

you saying i should try to get fired.

 

Its a small store. the back is only for stock and theres no back door..

 

 

The thing is they are the ones that hint it. but Ive given 30 of my numbers out and none have called or texted. mayber i should be writing something else on that paper other than my number?

 

Well, have you ever asked for their number?

[Justmejames]

so i am assuming this has been happening over a three week period james..have you ever been diagnosed with having a mental illness........

 

3 weeks-1month

 

Im being serious, this has only been happening recently.

 

I should mention there are other factors.

 

let me first say ive been bullied through high school (traumatized) actually, which forced me to be less social/anti social, which is why my conversational skills are so poor.

 

so for the last month and a half i"ve been working on eye contact and my confidence. I usually never made eye contact and i would always loose my head around girls. but ive recently changed that.

 

strangely, making eye contact has made me feel a little on the gay side

 

also the fruit of my work out is finally showing. you could see the muscle popping out my shirt.

 

but i really think its the honey.

 

and also not that it means much but ive been sleep deprived for awhile now.

[aussietigerwolf]

3 weeks-1month

 

Im being serious, this has only been happening recently.

 

I should mention there are other factors.

 

let me first say ive been bullied through high school (traumatized) actually, which forced me to be less social/anti social, which is why my conversational skills are so poor.

 

so for the last month and a half i"ve been working on eye contact and my confidence. I usually never made eye contact and i would always loose my head around girls. but ive recently changed that.

 

strangely, making eye contact has made me feel a little on the gay side

 

also the fruit of my work out is finally showing. you could see the muscle popping out my shirt.

 

but i really think its the honey.

 

and also not that it means much but ive been sleep deprived for awhile now.

As one of the royals of the secret society, I first have to slap you over the back of the head for mentioning it and 2nd you're supposed to be drawing our symbol on the paper, not your number.

[todreaminblue]

3 weeks-1month

 

Im being serious, this has only been happening recently.

 

I should mention there are other factors.

 

let me first say ive been bullied through high school (traumatized) actually, which forced me to be less social/anti social, which is why my conversational skills are so poor.

 

so for the last month and a half i"ve been working on eye contact and my confidence. I usually never made eye contact and i would always loose my head around girls. but ive recently changed that.

 

strangely, making eye contact has made me feel a little on the gay side

 

also the fruit of my work out is finally showing. you could see the muscle popping out my shirt.

 

but i really think its the honey.

 

and also not that it means much but ive been sleep deprived for awhile now.

 

 

paranoia is common in people who have suffered trauma james.......its called post traumatic stress disorder.....its fight or flight stressors and responses that cause paranoia to settle in.....like you are waiting for something to happen you don't know what but you know its coming....had it myself...i have also suffered trauma...........

 

i have also had lots of therapy.......

 

you are still insecure.......you and your body are changing you are making more efforts to be social but because you have had trauma in social situations you are naturally building up a defense mechanism...into being overly aware of your surroundings and people......its a form of hypersensitivity inducted by past trauma......some of this hyper sensitivity is a good thing....... an over abundance a bad thing....you are heading into and are in a bad place.......of your own doing......you need to pull back and extract yourself from interacting when you are feeling these things walk away for a little while....find your center .....you are not centered.....

 

 

this secret society thing is a sign that you are paranoid.......i do know this.....

 

it isnt the honey....that is making people stutter around you......

 

 

 

you are in fight mode and people can sense it probably...ill even guess that you stare a little too long...... you look at them intently...... you are like a coiled spring its called tension they feel.....stop it......you make people nervous.....

 

 

walk away calm down however long that takes.... put a smile on your face ...go back.......be the best salesman you can be ...shoes rock.....

 

congratulations on feeling better about yourself....now deal with the mental......the trauma....seek a professional caring compassionate counsellor.....and take up chess it centers me(put your thoughts into something productive in other words) it might work for you....deb

[ascendotum]

Did u not read what I just said??? these girls wont leave the store!!!! and the keep asking for shoes they dont want! they want me t put something in the box but I dont know what. I put my number but they never call and avoid my store or get upset and call me gay? wtf?

 

U the one who confirmed it. just message pm please dammiT!

 

You work at a front for a drug distribution ring, but these customers don't realise you are a clueless newbie. They don't want your number they want their special supplement they paid extra for dropped into the shoe box.

[SummerLuvR]

Maybe they just some free shoes??

 

Or maybe they are aliens?

[Disillusioned]

So where does a secret society figure into this? Are you a Freemason or something?

[Justmejames]

As one of the royals of the secret society, I first have to slap you over the back of the head for mentioning it and 2nd you're supposed to be drawing our symbol on the paper, not your number.

what symbol???

paranoia is common in people who have suffered trauma james.......its called post traumatic stress disorder.....its fight or flight stressors and responses that cause paranoia to settle in.....like you are waiting for something to happen you don't know what but you know its coming....had it myself...i have also suffered trauma...........

 

i have also had lots of therapy.......

 

you are still insecure.......you and your body are changing you are making more efforts to be social but because you have had trauma in social situations you are naturally building up a defense mechanism...into being overly aware of your surroundings and people......its a form of hypersensitivity inducted by past trauma......some of this hyper sensitivity is a good thing....... an over abundance a bad thing....you are heading into and are in a bad place.......of your own doing......you need to pull back and extract yourself from interacting when you are feeling these things walk away for a little while....find your center .....you are not centered.....

 

 

this secret society thing is a sign that you are paranoid.......i do know this.....

 

it isnt the honey....that is making people stutter around you......

 

 

 

you are in fight mode and people can sense it probably...ill even guess that you stare a little too long...... you look at them intently...... you are like a coiled spring its called tension they feel.....stop it......you make people nervous.....

 

 

walk away calm down however long that takes.... put a smile on your face ...go back.......be the best salesman you can be ...shoes rock.....

 

congratulations on feeling better about yourself....now deal with the mental......the trauma....seek a professional caring compassionate counsellor.....and take up chess it centers me(put your thoughts into something productive in other words) it might work for you....deb

Some of them stutter, and act in awe before I even make eye contact and even more when I do. even my boss and my cowoker laughs because they know why. but we never talk about it (old korean people that like to keep everything to them selfs)

 

my boss is like a stabilizer to all this. see I struggle to maintain eye contact with men, i'm think this has to do with my trauma being back at that all boy shcool. when ever their too many women lingering in the store waiting me to assist them. he steps in stares me in the eye and trys to confuse me, if i stutter or speakany softer than i normally do, the women get up and leave, and not with an obvious excuse ''they forgot they had something to do''

 

but everything else you said was well written. thank u.

 

You work at a front for a drug distribution ring, but these customers don't realise you are a clueless newbie. They don't want your number they want their special supplement they paid extra for dropped into the shoe box.

I chuckled a bit. nice try..

 

Maybe they just some free shoes??

 

Or maybe they are aliens?

.........

[todreaminblue]

i cant convince you of otherwise because it is too ingrained now that you believe there is a secret society.....which is where you need a professional person to help you work through this...i cant help you......neither can anyone on here here... as you can see you are going to cop ridicule..which is counter productive to making you feel better but anyway.......if you thought my opening post was a bit of ridicule...it wasnt.....i was dead set serious...i have had paranoia on the past more so in here than anywhere else as an adult ...because mostly people respect me and think well of me.... ridicule tends to offset paranoia in me.....makes me feel really retarded because that is where my trauma lies.....and i set up defense mechanisms.....mainly other personalities....to deal with what i feel to be damage that is about to occur

 

in ridicule, manipulation and cruelty when i was a child......

 

i am going to let you know now if you need to talk keep doing so....i can't give you absolution on what is happening but i can listen and i listen pretty well.....i do feel you need to seek outside help and intervention maybe we can work towards that...you are not alone against a secret society.....ok....

now do you pray at all?...deb

[Justmejames]

i cant convince you of otherwise because it is too ingrained now that you believe there is a secret society.....which is where you need a professional person to help you work through this...i cant help you......neither can anyone on here here... as you can see you are going to cop ridicule..which is counter productive to making you feel better but anyway.......if you thought my opening post was a bit of ridicule...it wasnt.....i was dead set serious...i have had paranoia on the past more so in here than anywhere else as an adult ...because mostly people respect me and think well of me.... ridicule tends to offset paranoia in me.....makes me feel really retarded because that is where my trauma lies.....and i set up defense mechanisms.....mainly other personalities....to deal with what i feel to be damage that is about to occur

 

in ridicule, manipulation and cruelty when i was a child......

 

i am going to let you know now if you need to talk keep doing so....i can't give you absolution on what is happening but i can listen and i listen pretty well.....i do feel you need to seek outside help and intervention maybe we can work towards that...you are not alone against a secret society.....ok....

now do you pray at all?...deb

 

are you seriously telling me u dont know about the secret society??

 

just do a search please.

[todreaminblue]

are you seriously telling me u dont know about the secret society??

 

just do a search please.

 

 

 

why would i want to james.......and if i can google secret society ...in essence they aren't a secret are they..so ill google them for you ill come back...

 

ok.....millions of hits many secret societies...even a wikipedia definition......i am not affiliated with any society that excludes or degrades anyone from being a member without due reason.... ... i dont follow them so i have no desire to learn.....if they exist around me i am unaware and choose to stay unaware unless they choose to integrate themselves into my life then ill defend my right to stay out of it...with or without my using force to live my life the way i want to live it.............. ...i have more important things to learn.....

 

now what i would really like to learn......is how long have you studied and practiced english......and when did you learn the word chuckle and to use it in appropriate context......deb

 

 

...deb

Edited September 5, 2014 by todreaminblue