Frnkls Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 So, I'm at the point of breaking up with a girl (or maybe past that point) and I don't know if I am making the right decision. We had been dating for around 4 months, and as far as I could tell everything was going fine. She had told me that she really liked me and had tried to introduce me to all of her friends. We saw each other at least once a week and would be in touch every few days. Then she went on holiday. The last time I saw her, a week before she left, things seemed fine between us. I texted her a couple of times after that and she seemed a little distant, took quite a long time to respond and was a little bit short, but didn't think that much of it at the time. Then she went on holiday, she told me she was going for 3 and a half weeks. I expected to hear from her at least after a week while she was there, didn't here anything for around 2 weeks. So I sent her a text asking how it was going, no response at all for another 2 and a half weeks. In her response it was like nothing had happened, just said holiday was great, how am I, etc. I was pretty angry and sent a response saying I got the impression she didn't want to see me, I don't want to be in a relationship with her because it's too casual. That was a week ago and received no response. I love her, but I think she can't be that bothered about me if she did that. I don't want to be with her if that is the case but I don't know exactly how she feels. Don't know whether to contact her again or just move on!
PegNosePete Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 Where did she go and who did she go with?
Author Frnkls Posted September 4, 2014 Author Posted September 4, 2014 We live in australia, she went with a few friends to Europe
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 Some women are that way... if you can't join them on extended leave, trust them to have a good time. Plus not all countries have Data Plans or Phone carriers that work well with existing plans. So it is easy to be disconnected for a bit of time. I think you need some talks with her on your feelings. Seems that you don't trust in some way. My LDR can do as she pleases, and in some ways I don't hear much until she gets back. There are subtle ways that show that they care by how they send messages when they are around. Take note of time stamps, and what they say to you. If you do not feel comfy trusting when she is with you, then something is not right between you. I don't know exactly how your love came about with yer, but I never put love first... trust and acceptance is the key to any relationship that has deep meaning. If she is to independent or you find yourself too needy, you need to develop acceptance for her ways, or she needs to accept your neediness and work with you on such matters. You cannot change peeps, only peeps can change themselves.
ExpatInItaly Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 I don't really follow the timeline - when is she due back? I would say not to bother contacting her again while she is away. If you want to talk to her, wait until her return. Sending any further messages will only frustrate you because she won't likely respond any time soon. Where in Europe is she? I live in Italy (obviously!) but some countries don't have good international data/phone plans. I know it can be astronomical for me to phone/text my home country. She may have turned off her phone altogether and only checks it occasionally. Having said that, keep an eye on it. Is she using social media at all while on holiday? If she is but can't be bothered to drop you a message, I'd be concerned. She could just be waiting until she's home to contact and update you, though I feel she could have communicated that (ie. contact would be limited) to you before she left. I would not be happy either if my significant other went on holiday and more or less fell off the planet on me.
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