AyJace Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 My baby's mother broke up with me 8 months ago and I'm still not over it. We fought mostly because I wasn't as financially stable as she wanted...had a crappy apartment crappy job no car and everything was a hassle with me. She'd be mean and hurtful about me being broke... one of those girls who can be extremely sweet but when she gets mad says the worst most hurtful things ever...even though she lived with her mom and never wanted to work or contribute in any way... She'd have her angry mean moments We both did Both had our flaws But I didn't care I loved her... But apparently my flaws were too much for her and she left and hooked up with a guy her mom works.with a month later... her mom was a huge influence in her breaking up with me...was mean and hateful to everyone especially me. This guy she's with takes her everywhere...camping restaurants and stuff....stuff I couldnt do because I was too busy struggling...and it hurts ...even taking pics with him and my son... So I got seriously motivated got a car and a better apartment but its too late. Here's the thing though...every time I pick up my son she kisses me and flirts and tells me she loves me...calls me every couple weeks and says she loves me... when shes not at dudes house...and even f#cked me 3 weeks ago...then goes back to "come get your kid wheres.my child support" mode. its been 8 months now. I know we're never going to get back together I think she just likes playing with my head. Im just heartbroken over her...feels like ill never be the same person...my happiness is gone...tried getting with other women but it didn't work. And I have to see her every other week while picking my son up. How do I get over losing my family And losing her and seeing ny childs mother with someone else And having to see her all the time Knowing she's going to be under someone else It just kills me.
Author AyJace Posted September 4, 2014 Author Posted September 4, 2014 (edited) Mr lonelyyyyyyy Edited September 4, 2014 by AyJace
irishsimon Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 OP.. the thing is.. Your ex... She isn't doing anything 'to' you. You are doing it to yourself. Feelings you have are your responsibility and until you start dealing with those feelings she will have you on a string. Yeah..she is using you for validation and as a back up guy. But you are willingly putting yourself in this position. Do you want to be treated like that? She is being unfaithful to her new bf. Is that the type,of person you want.. This girl you are pining over? I would guess your self esteem and self worth has taken a further hit from the split. Add to that your feelings about yourself and how your life was progressing. The situation is similar to what I had to cope with. Start reading No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover. It will open your eyes. Once you start reading post back here. In the meantime.. Do nothing... Act normal..only talk about your son. Start saying no to her. Act like you don't care about what happened and it's what you wanted. Acting indifferent is the first step to actually feeling that way. Read what I wrote in this thread... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/484816-how-learn-love-yourself#post5797022 Namaste.
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