Desperation14 Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 My boyfriend broke up with me and 2 weeks later started dating someone new. I Found out about it last week and it broke me. They were spending the weekend together and i couldn't handle it. I went a little crazy and texted, called, emailed... Tried to reason with him and finally today found some peace if u can call it that. I read a lot of posts about rebound relationships and getting him back, and all of them say to absolutely not do what i've done already-too late, and to implement no contact rule. I decided to start it today. 30 days no contact. At all. I just received a text from him saying he's not blowing me off but has a lot on his plate and will talk to me about the situation next week. I haven't and won't respond but now i don't know what to do. We work together and are not closely connected at work, so i can avoid him for the most part, but now i'm totally torn what to do. I know if we talk i'll Get emotional and potentially beg and cry and i'm already hurt to the core and i'm afraid i'll get hurt even more after that talk. Please help!!!
mightycpa Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 My boyfriend broke up with me and 2 weeks later started dating someone new. I Found out about it last week and it broke me. They were spending the weekend together and i couldn't handle it. I went a little crazy and texted, called, emailed... Tried to reason with him and finally today found some peace if u can call it that. I read a lot of posts about rebound relationships and getting him back, and all of them say to absolutely not do what i've done already-too late, and to implement no contact rule. I decided to start it today. 30 days no contact. At all. I just received a text from him saying he's not blowing me off but has a lot on his plate and will talk to me about the situation next week. I haven't and won't respond but now i don't know what to do. We work together and are not closely connected at work, so i can avoid him for the most part, but now i'm totally torn what to do. I know if we talk i'll Get emotional and potentially beg and cry and i'm already hurt to the core and i'm afraid i'll get hurt even more after that talk. Please help!!! I'm going to counsel this, but only because of where you are at this point. You've invited him to discuss, he had the decency to tell you that he'll get to you when he can. Text him back and just say, "I'm sorry I contacted you the way I did before, I was out of line. I apologize, I won't do it again. Please don't contact me, I'll find you when I'm ready. Thanks." Then start your NC. You'll save yourself a lot of "should I reply to his text? what did he mean by that?" 2
bigfred Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 do not answer do not call do not facebook if you see him at work, look happy even get on your phone and pretend that your talking to someone and being happy, the no contact rule works take it form me, my ex called me but im still doing the no contact rule for another 30 days its been 34 days already so if he really wants you back you will know with a knock on your door or a heart full text but you cant reply you must do the 30 day no contact!!! don't give up its going to be worse, it sucks i know but breaking it will only get worse on you!! believe me. be strong mama
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