sleeplessinslc Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 So, this guy whom I have dated online for about 6months dumped me 8 months ago just when we were about to meet in person. I have since moved on. Here's his (second) sorry email and the first time he said " I love you" Well I just want to tell you I miss you. You're an amazing woman. I've never missed a person I've never met. And someone I haven't talked to in 8 months. Quite strange and yet, no matter what I do, you keep coming back to my mind and heart. Jake is a lucky guy. I wish you two the best. Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers always. We were supposed to be together. I know that. I've never told anyone those words. You are the person I was waiting for. But I fouled it up. I was not prepared when the time came. That is my #1 regret. I love you and I hope you have the life you've always wanted NOTE: No I did not reply and have no plans to. I just like how this validates me and my decision to go NC on him and move on. My question to you love shack folks is: Have you ever written AND SENT a goodbye letter? Why?
tory1012 Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 I only did it - So i would get response from the person. lol A way of contacting them. I think wants to see whether he has a shot now! Which he clearly doesn't because you have moved on. May I ask, Why did you two never meet? Distance?? 1
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 So, this guy whom I have dated online for about 6months dumped me 8 months ago just when we were about to meet in person. I have since moved on. Here's his (second) sorry email and the first time he said " I love you" Well I just want to tell you I miss you. You're an amazing woman. I've never missed a person I've never met. And someone I haven't talked to in 8 months. Quite strange and yet, no matter what I do, you keep coming back to my mind and heart. Jake is a lucky guy. I wish you two the best. Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers always. We were supposed to be together. I know that. I've never told anyone those words. You are the person I was waiting for. But I fouled it up. I was not prepared when the time came. That is my #1 regret. I love you and I hope you have the life you've always wanted NOTE: No I did not reply and have no plans to. I just like how this validates me and my decision to go NC on him and move on. My question to you love shack folks is: Have you ever written AND SENT a goodbye letter? Why? Letters are AWFUL idea. Worse than bad. This letter makes me want to throw up. Yeah, he is all love sick yada yada. This letter makes him look very stupid and doesnt help his cause at all. Dont answer. So...I'm sure I will get a no on this....but since he flaked out BEFORE meeting you...is there a chance this dude is catfishing you? Just throwing that out there people get really defensive when I bring that up. 1
Author sleeplessinslc Posted September 4, 2014 Author Posted September 4, 2014 I only did it - So i would get response from the person. lol A way of contacting them. I think wants to see whether he has a shot now! Which he clearly doesn't because you have moved on. May I ask, Why did you two never meet? Distance?? Yes, distance. He lives in the US- I'm across the Pacific Ocean. He actually dumped me the day after I got my US visitor visa approved. Chickened out, obviously. I still went to the US to visit a college friend of mine -- this was his state,his city but he never knew I was coming because I was 100% NC when he dumped me.
Author sleeplessinslc Posted September 4, 2014 Author Posted September 4, 2014 Letters are AWFUL idea. Worse than bad. This letter makes me want to throw up. Yeah, he is all love sick yada yada. This letter makes him look very stupid and doesnt help his cause at all. Dont answer. So...I'm sure I will get a no on this....but since he flaked out BEFORE meeting you...is there a chance this dude is catfishing you? Just throwing that out there people get really defensive when I bring that up. haha! Catfishing- that could be it! We skyped loads of times- he has a website for his music, I saw his family on Facebook, they were real. So I think he IS a real person. But yeah, who knows. I was tempted to answer - but I turned to Loveshack instead. My reply would've been a quick LOL to his sorry email.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 haha! Catfishing- that could be it! We skyped loads of times- he has a website for his music, I saw his family on Facebook, they were real. So I think he IS a real person. But yeah, who knows. I was tempted to answer - but I turned to Loveshack instead. My reply would've been a quick LOL to his sorry email. Either way, dont reply. Dude is throwing breadcrumbs. Maybe guilt, maybe sad...who knows. Either way, its a trap. Find someone around you who you can actually SEE and FEEL in front of you. There are guys out there that are much better than this bag of anus
infamousma Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 I have, but now as I look back at it I really dont know why but I guess as to get closure of some sort and to express my feelings since she was ignoring me. But we later got back together a few months afterwards and she told me that she loved the letter and why I didn't send more...
David87 Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 Have you ever written AND SENT a goodbye letter? Why? No, I haven't because is weird and because it does more harm than good.
littleplanet Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 a goodbye letter? It depends. There are the amateurs, and there are the professionals. If a goodbye letter is extremely well-written, genuine, honest, and offers closure...(and is recieved from someone who means something) then sure. If none of the above.....it's just more useless infotainment in an information-choked world. In this particular case - it doesn't amount to much. I only ever wrote and sent one.....a very long time ago, when I was 19, and it mattered. Nothing else ever required that kind of closure.
Author sleeplessinslc Posted September 4, 2014 Author Posted September 4, 2014 Letters are AWFUL idea. Worse than bad. This letter makes me want to throw up. Yeah, he is all love sick yada yada. This letter makes him look very stupid and doesnt help his cause at all. Dont answer. So...I'm sure I will get a no on this....but since he flaked out BEFORE meeting you...is there a chance this dude is catfishing you? Just throwing that out there people get really defensive when I bring that up. Either way, dont reply. Dude is throwing breadcrumbs. Maybe guilt, maybe sad...who knows. Either way, its a trap. Find someone around you who you can actually SEE and FEEL in front of you. There are guys out there that are much better than this bag of anus Yes I found him- a guy who's 100% with me all the way. I am very happy with the decisions I made. The other guy's role was to be a foil.
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