disneyfan90 Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 (edited) I have a really great guy friend that I've known for a little over 2 years by now, and I can say he's been one of my best friends. Recently, I've been getting a few signals from him, but I don't know if he's doing this purely out of friendship. I feel a very strong attachment towards him, but I don't know if this is just out of friendship or because I'm starting to develop feelings for him. When we were at a friend's house the other day, he sat next to me and he would do really random things---poke me, drag his chair closer to mine, put his arm around my chair, bump his knee against mine (many times), play footsie with me under the table, and things like that. Every now and then, he puts his hands on my shoulders for no reason. Whenever I ask him for help, he literally comes running to help me. One day I forgot something and simply wondered if he could drop it off, because I was in a situation where I wasn't able to pick it up. I didn't insist at all, I just checked to see if he could and told him it was perfectly fine if he couldn't. He actually just woke up when I called him, and within minutes, he got into his car and showed up with the thing that I forgot. Situations like these have happened several times. When I was going through a tough situation in my life, I called him asking him for advice. At some point in the conversation, I broke down into tears without meaning to. It was 2 am, but this guy once again got into his car right away and showed up at my doorstep to comfort me. I didn't ask him to do that at all. I'm doubtful about whether he likes me. We used to be very close---we would have deep, personal conversations about almost anything in the world. He would ask me to go places with him, and ask me for advice about things that really mattered to him. Nowadays, when I try to text him, he responds with one-word answers, no matter how elaborate my texts are. When I call him, he simply answers my questions with a few words, and then hangs up after a minute. It just seems like he doesn't want to talk to me anymore, but I know for a fact that he does talk a lot to several other girls in his life. When he teased me before, it was playful banter, but now his teasing is just mean. I feel like at times, he says mean things to me that he doesn't say to anyone else. At the same time, whenever he senses that I need help in anyway, he's the very first one to act, and that's true even to this day. I'm not entirely sure if he does this with anyone else. Aside from his meanness to me, I love this guy's personality. He's really amazing and I think I'm starting to like him. Yet, I can't tell if he does. The other problem is that two of his friends liked me. One of these guys is his very best friend and has been aggressively pursuing me for several years. He's proclaimed his love for me many times, and still does. I'm just not interested in his best friend. Should I do something about this, or is this guy just not interested? Edited September 4, 2014 by disneyfan90
Author disneyfan90 Posted September 5, 2014 Author Posted September 5, 2014 I guess I'm thrown off by how he's being kind of mean to me nowadays. Any thoughts?
ThorntonMelon Posted September 5, 2014 Posted September 5, 2014 Either something happened or he just isn't into you anymore. You could ask him. He'd know better than us.
Zippy2000 Posted September 5, 2014 Posted September 5, 2014 Sounds like he was interested before but because he didnt get your "goods", he`s decided to bail and now concentrating on other girls. Or, your clingy towards him and he`s fed up of it. This is of course just an opinion. We need to know more about how you and him are like together.
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