lovingdad84 Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 Hello im new and need some help. Three months ago my wife of seven years, decided she was in love with one of our mutual friends that we have only known for a couple months. (He left his wife, my wife left me). So within 3 weeks they had moved in together and she told me he is her happily ever after. We have a child together, she has 3 other daughters all from different dads. My step daughters now hate me because he is sooo "great". And i no longer like him for obvious reasons. On all of our pickups and dropoffs of my son, she brings him and it tears me apart. I still love my wife very much. We rarely ever fought, she said that i just was not "romantic enough". I was the breadwinner in the relationship she couldnt hold down a job.Is she in a "rebound relationship" ?I just really cant understand wth happend. a week earlier she told me everything was amazing and she couldent be happier. Do you think they will honestly last moving in that quickly together? im sry im just really still at a loss for words and need wisdom.
OnTheRightPath Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 I'm sure this is not going to be something you want to hear......but you should count your blessings. This woman sounds toxic to me and would most likely bring you heartache at some point. She does not sound stable and clearly has no idea what she wants. Also, sounds like she might get bored easily and crave attention. Like the kind of attention you get from a shiny new relationship. I have a feeling when the novelty of the new guy wears off he will become boring to her as well as she will lose interest. Hopefully she doesn't have another child with him as well. Seriously, she has three children with three different men and a fourth with you? I can see a clear pattern here !! I'm sorry you are hurting but I think you may be better off in the long run. You have a child together so it will be hard for awhile. I can even bet you will become more interesting to her if you meet someone new.....don't fall for it.
Author lovingdad84 Posted September 4, 2014 Author Posted September 4, 2014 Thank you ontherightpath. That means the world to hear from another person. The support is awesome. Believe it or not its good to have some outside input on these things. I just feel i should be able to move on fast but apparently its not a fast process. Do people like her ever grieve a longterm relationship? It was just so easy for her to do. 1
Nathaniel Hawk Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 Thank you ontherightpath. That means the world to hear from another person. The support is awesome. Believe it or not its good to have some outside input on these things. I just feel i should be able to move on fast but apparently its not a fast process. Do people like her ever grieve a longterm relationship? It was just so easy for her to do. I think that everybody grieves the loss of a longterm relationship. But people who go from one to another will find themselves doing it much later. Probably when her other relationshis fails and she realizes she messed up.
Author lovingdad84 Posted September 4, 2014 Author Posted September 4, 2014 thank you Nathaniel Hawk. I also believe that everybody needs time to grieve and she really didnt do any of the thinking you have to do when you come home to an empty house you both shared.
OnTheRightPath Posted September 9, 2014 Posted September 9, 2014 thank you Nathaniel Hawk. I also believe that everybody needs time to grieve and she really didnt do any of the thinking you have to do when you come home to an empty house you both shared. Thank you ontherightpath. That means the world to hear from another person. The support is awesome. Believe it or not its good to have some outside input on these things. I just feel i should be able to move on fast but apparently its not a fast process. Do people like her ever grieve a longterm relationship? It was just so easy for her to do. You're welcome !! And yes, I believe most "people" in general do grieve the loss of a long term relationship but there are exceptions to that rule. Some men and women just move right to the next relationship like it's their job. They are co-dependent for the most part and can't be alone. I don't think it's healthy at all and they will probably never have a healthy, stable relationship. It sounds like your ex fits that description!.....never has to grieve because she moves right to the next man. I hope you are feeling better.....hang in there and take care of yourself.
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