longjohn Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 Seriously what is it with people? I left my new GF alone at my place for a few hours and got notification from my home computer my account has been accessed. She does not have the password, I did not give it to her. I do no write passwords down ever. She does have the means to crack it or otherwise circumvent the password. I've nothing to hide on my computer and nothing I wouldn't tell/show her if she asked. I'm just sickened that she'd do this. Of course she'd be able to access all/any documents, pictures, Facebook and other accounts with credentials saved in the browser. I know the account has been accessed because I've a piece of software installed that sends a notification when the account has become active or logged in. I plan to confirm the login via logs at home then confront her about it. Depending on the answer (lies/truth) she may well be single before the night is over. 1
acrosstheuniverse Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 I don't understand, how are you claiming she logged in if she didn't have the password, couldn't work the password out, etc.? If she has indeed accessed the computer account somehow it may have been innocent. Maybe she wanted to stream some TV, or check her e-mails. It's rude in my opinion to log onto someone's computer without prior discussion (it's the equivalent of rifling through someone's purse or bag, their chest of drawers, their phone text messages without permission) but I wouldn't see it as an immediate dumping offence until I found out further details. Software is occasionally faulty. If she denies it until she's blue in the face, what will you do? Would you believe her? 1
Gloria25 Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 If she did indeed access it with intention to snoop....well, there you go I guess that's just women...we want to knoooooooowwwww:bunny: I think that if you feel you have to snoop, no point in the RL. RLs are supposed to be built on trust. 1
smackie9 Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 (edited) Seriously what is it with people? I left my new GF alone at my place for a few hours and got notification from my home computer my account has been accessed. She does not have the password, I did not give it to her. I do no write passwords down ever. She does have the means to crack it or otherwise circumvent the password. I've nothing to hide on my computer and nothing I wouldn't tell/show her if she asked. I'm just sickened that she'd do this. Of course she'd be able to access all/any documents, pictures, Facebook and other accounts with credentials saved in the browser. I know the account has been accessed because I've a piece of software installed that sends a notification when the account has become active or logged in. I plan to confirm the login via logs at home then confront her about it. Depending on the answer (lies/truth) she may well be single before the night is over. Ya them crazy biches. I agree that snooping, even tho you have nothing to hide, is still a stated fact they don't trust you....it is disheartning. Dude I bet she has downloaded a key logger or some kind of spyware. If she went that far she is a stupid _unt. Here is a tip: use private browser. It's in your tools or in file in your tool bar. there you will find "start a private session". Your computer will not keep any info on PWs or track what you have been looking at. There will be no cookies, web history saved. Please use it. Also use a software called "shredd-it" this destroys everything and even law agencies can't recover stuff you have deleted. As for your GF, kick her to the curb, but before you do tell her that it is all from her snooping. If she has to keep tabs on you, then there is no point in being in a relationship together. Edited September 3, 2014 by smackie9 3
StarsOnFire Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 What if she logged online and your account popped up, already logged in (obviously since she doesn't have your passwords), and she immediately closed out of it, and went about her way? I'm not sure what type of program you're using, and I'm assuming you have huge trust issues based upon the fact that you have that program downloaded to your computer, but does it tell you how long the session was or anything else? If it was a quick sign on/log out, benefit of the doubt suggests she uses the same email platform/facebook or whatever. Good luck, to you and her.
Author longjohn Posted September 3, 2014 Author Posted September 3, 2014 The only way to log on to that computer is to first plug it in, turn it on and then enter my username/password to gain access. It's never left on and running while unattended or while I'm out of the house unless I need to remote in. My best guess would be the use of a keylogger to acquire the password. However I use a user/admin account. She'd have to use a physical keylogger to circumvent that. If she has indeed went that far it would represent a major breach of trust and an undeniable end to the relationship. I have the software installed to allow me to remote control my personal computers from work should the need arise. It's not installed to snoop on.. myself lol since I'm the primary user/owner of the computer. When I want to browse without being tracked I typically use a browser that offers such ability e.g. chrome incognito tab. I'll run said browser within a disposable VM. Said VM would be connected to a VPN and ideally to a proxy server. Like I said I've nothing to hide from the woman.
sid33 Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 Ya them crazy bitches.. Some of the wisest words ever shared on LS. 4
Mirages Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 Dude I bet she has downloaded a key logger or some kind of spyware. I certainly agree. Do what I did when I faced the spyware issue from my ex. You look up websites on topics such as canniballism, wacko cults, and real estate in a foreign country. Then let her have a good laugh, and eat herself up.
Zippy2000 Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 You need more proof its her. I m not a whizz kid but is it possible someone is accessing your email account somewhere else. Maybe set up a camera to see if its your computer is being accessed. 1
DazedandConfused8 Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 (edited) Seriously what is it with people? I left my new GF alone at my place for a few hours and got notification from my home computer my account has been accessed. She does not have the password, I did not give it to her. I do no write passwords down ever. She does have the means to crack it or otherwise circumvent the password. I've nothing to hide on my computer and nothing I wouldn't tell/show her if she asked. I'm just sickened that she'd do this. Of course she'd be able to access all/any documents, pictures, Facebook and other accounts with credentials saved in the browser. I know the account has been accessed because I've a piece of software installed that sends a notification when the account has become active or logged in. I plan to confirm the login via logs at home then confront her about it. Depending on the answer (lies/truth) she may well be single before the night is over. Wow, disgusting and shameful on her part! I would ask her, in person, what she was looking for on your computer and explain that you have an alert installed on your phone for the reason you noted above. See if she fesses up or tries to deny it - maybe that will inform how you proceed. Edited September 4, 2014 by DazedandConfused8
mightycpa Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 The only way to log on to that computer is to first plug it in, turn it on and then enter my username/password to gain access. It's never left on and running while unattended or while I'm out of the house unless I need to remote in. My best guess would be the use of a keylogger to acquire the password. However I use a user/admin account. She'd have to use a physical keylogger to circumvent that. If she has indeed went that far it would represent a major breach of trust and an undeniable end to the relationship. You left out the possibility that she's installed a camera somewhere that can see the keyboard when you type on it. I have the software installed to allow me to remote control my personal computers from work should the need arise. It's not installed to snoop on.. myself lol since I'm the primary user/owner of the computer. How do you do that if it is never left on and running? So now I don't know if it was left on and running. Was it?
Supernatural Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 I need one of these things... But ya.. People like to snoop; specially dem girlz.
gaius Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 I know it's exciting the first time you think a girl is interested enough to snoop like that but there's probably a simpler explanation for whatever went on. Chances are you'll look like a dope if you start an angry conversation about keyloggers and such.
Toodaloo Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 Erm... What is it exactly that you are hiding and what are you so bothered? I have never been bothered by someone, friend, partner, family etc logging on to any of my accounts but then I have nothing to hide... While its annoying and most people would normally ask you do seem to be over reacting just a tad when she could have just quickly borrowed it to check email etc...
Eternal Sunshine Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 To be honest, your keylogger theory sounds paranoid. 2
gaius Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 If on the off chance she really did go through all that effort I think you owe her an apology for not having anything worthwhile to find. 2
Author longjohn Posted September 4, 2014 Author Posted September 4, 2014 To be honest, your keylogger theory sounds paranoid. Tell that to my ex wife! I thought I was paranoid thinking she was cheating. A keylogger and 24 hours later I had it in black and white. She was cheating, complete with pictures, times/dates, names and everything else.
Author longjohn Posted September 4, 2014 Author Posted September 4, 2014 If on the off chance she really did go through all that effort I think you owe her an apology for not having anything worthwhile to find. If I had of known ahead of time I could have at least dropped a few questionable pictures of myself around my computer to give her something to chew over LOL
central Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 Find out how she cracked your login, so you can make it more secure in the future. Confront her about snooping. If she lies, kick her out. If she confesses - kick her out. Either way, she's not trusting or trustworthy, given the effort she had to make to snoop.
Author longjohn Posted September 4, 2014 Author Posted September 4, 2014 Find out how she cracked your login, so you can make it more secure in the future. Confront her about snooping. If she lies, kick her out. If she confesses - kick her out. Either way, she's not trusting or trustworthy, given the effort she had to make to snoop. The logs turned out to reflect no login. However they confirm the system powered up. Software was running as a service and started then notified me I was online which I technically was however I wasn't logged in. A minor inconvenience I'll need to correct What concerns me now is she switched it on but couldn't get in and what's more troublesome is when I asked when she arrived at my place she states it was after the login. The computer doesn't lie. It knows when she tried to login. My wifi logs also confirms her mobile was active around the same time. I've not confronted her yet about this until I've got an idea what is it she's up to. I mean if she needs to use it I'd make her an account so she could have some privacy if she wanted to check her emails, banking, facebook etc.. in fact I'd probably have given her the password to my account if she had of asked, before this.
mightycpa Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 The logs turned out to reflect no login. However they confirm the system powered up. Software was running as a service and started then notified me I was online which I technically was however I wasn't logged in. A minor inconvenience I'll need to correct What concerns me now is she switched it on but couldn't get in and what's more troublesome is when I asked when she arrived at my place she states it was after the login. The computer doesn't lie. It knows when she tried to login. My wifi logs also confirms her mobile was active around the same time. I've not confronted her yet about this until I've got an idea what is it she's up to. I mean if she needs to use it I'd make her an account so she could have some privacy if she wanted to check her emails, banking, facebook etc.. in fact I'd probably have given her the password to my account if she had of asked, before this. OK, I have this figured out. Listen to my words of wisdom: She was at your place. She wanted to use the computer. She turned on your laptop or whatever you have. The login dialog appeared. She got stuck right there (and installed that camera I wrote about earlier, look around, you'll find it). She may have even tried a few un/pw combinations: long/john longjohn/ms_matilda_longjohn longjohn/loves_matilda but none of those worked. She probably shut it off at this time, but there was enough time to update the log and send the mail. Do you record a poweroff event? NOTE: Your log is inaccurate if it records a logon when it means powerup. You should refine your log messages. Then you confronted her in such a way that she sensed displeasure. She tried to cover her tracks, because whatever she did was harmless, and well, because who in the world both logs and generates emails for powerup events on their computers at home? What I find extremely curious and unlikely is that your wifi is unsecured such that she could be active on it during this same period. Hmmm.....
Author longjohn Posted September 4, 2014 Author Posted September 4, 2014 OK, I have this figured out. Listen to my words of wisdom: She was at your place. She wanted to use the computer. She turned on your laptop or whatever you have. The login dialog appeared. She got stuck right there (and installed that camera I wrote about earlier, look around, you'll find it). She may have even tried a few un/pw combinations: long/john longjohn/ms_matilda_longjohn longjohn/loves_matilda but none of those worked. She probably shut it off at this time, but there was enough time to update the log and send the mail. Do you record a poweroff event? NOTE: Your log is inaccurate if it records a logon when it means powerup. You should refine your log messages. Then you confronted her in such a way that she sensed displeasure. She tried to cover her tracks, because whatever she did was harmless, and well, because who in the world both logs and generates emails for powerup events on their computers at home? What I find extremely curious and unlikely is that your wifi is unsecured such that she could be active on it during this same period. Hmmm..... My system logs power on/off events, login attempts, and what services have started. WiFi is secured and I've given her the password to use WiFi. When her mobile is within range it'll connect to it automatically. There is no camera installed on or near the computer, nor is there any type of key logging software/hardware present. I've not confronted her about any of this yet as I've not yet figured out the "why" question.
carhill Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 OP, big world with lots of people. That's why dating is 'getting to know'. You got to know something. One thing about dating which can be a slippery slope is that sex (or romance or whatever) lubricates a type of intimacy which normally would never happen amongst arm's length friends or business parters for a long time. It artificially shortens the normal trust/rapport building/accepting period. Regarding the wi-fi, OP can clarify but I routinely access friend's secured routers around the country when traveling simply by one log-in, facilitated by the friend, and my laptop storing the router parameters and login information. The only time things change is if/when they change routers and/or pass codes, which is fairly rare. Pop it open and it finds the signal and automatically logs in. That's one possibility. My personal WDS is unsecured since no one would war drive out here and I don't have a neighbor for a 1/4 mile. Makes it easy for friends to get online when visiting. Stuff happens, OP. Disappointing but not insurmountable. You know your relationship best. It's your call. Ah, the wi-fi is clarified. Thanks.
Author longjohn Posted September 4, 2014 Author Posted September 4, 2014 OP, big world with lots of people. That's why dating is 'getting to know'. You got to know something. One thing about dating which can be a slippery slope is that sex (or romance or whatever) lubricates a type of intimacy which normally would never happen amongst arm's length friends or business parters for a long time. It artificially shortens the normal trust/rapport building/accepting period. Regarding the wi-fi, OP can clarify but I routinely access friend's secured routers around the country when traveling simply by one log-in, facilitated by the friend, and my laptop storing the router parameters and login information. The only time things change is if/when they change routers and/or pass codes, which is fairly rare. Pop it open and it finds the signal and automatically logs in. That's one possibility. My personal WDS is unsecured since no one would war drive out here and I don't have a neighbor for a 1/4 mile. Makes it easy for friends to get online when visiting. Stuff happens, OP. Disappointing but not insurmountable. You know your relationship best. It's your call. Ah, the wi-fi is clarified. Thanks. Dating is quite confusing at times alright. I tend to bolt the second I see something I don't like. In this instance I want to see or at least try and figure out what she's up to.
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