Secondplace Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 I am not sure if even posting this is a good idea, but i have no clue on what direction to go. We have been together 5+ years. Up until 2 months ago it was quite rocky for awhile. So, two months ago, we both decided to make this work. I added no intimacy for 30 days just to prove to her i want her heart more than her body. Our sex life was... Incredible, and that is an understatement. The 30 days has gone by, and she wont let me touch her. I have tried, and met with a "no". I then cuddle with her, let her know i love her. I tried again over the weekend. She told me it had to be a quickie. In my opinion, a quickie is glorified mastr*****. I softly told her no, and again cuddled with her. After a few minutes, i got up and did some things for her she needed done. 2-1/2 hours later, she is still sleeping. She gets up, apologizes for not wanting sex, tells me i have been good about it. She is busy these days. I have not been pushy. I have tried to be understanding, and i do not treat her any different. I still show her love and affection. It has been a month past the 30 day time frame. Am i being selfish wanting intimacy from the woman i love? Do i back off, do i leave her alone? I feel i am being out of line for even asking this here. I need a womans opinion, please! Thank you!!
Ronni_W Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 Well...clearly something important changed for her, or came to light for her, during those 30 days. Ask her to please be honest -- and kind -- with you when she tells you her current thoughts, feelings, needs and desires for her own life, and for you two as a couple. You are not being selfish for wanting to experience also sexual intimacy with her, but you are also not displaying strength, courage, developed relationship skills by not initiating a conversation/discussion that might prove uncomfortable, difficult for one or both of you. Best of luck.
W101 Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 I think it's a sweet idea that you decided to go without for 30 days, but most women won't see it that way, if you prove to a woman you can go 30 days without touching her like that, that could have a knock on effect, sure you proved you loved her for more than her body, but at the same time, it may have proved to her that you found her unattractive, funny I know, but it really could be so. 1
slizl Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 You should have never said no intimacy for 30 days....WTF were you thinking???
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