Average longevity of a relationship

[irc333]

I recall seeing a post by someone here who had taken notice that the typical relationship lasts 1 to 2 years...sometimes even an average of 6 months. Which is something I've noticed amongst my friends (i.e. Meetups).

 

After about a year or 2, or 3 tops...something just fizzles and couples part ways.

 

Someone's response to that amount of time is also the "Honeymoon phase" of a relationship. Typically the couple is rather sexually active and then after time even that gets old, and then they don't know what to do with themselves...but also I figured they've reached a point in their relationship where they've gotten comfortable with each other.

 

Last woman I dated she said every guy she dated for a couple of years that after "got their fill" they'd show their true colors.

 

You know...typically when people date they put their BEST foot forward, but given enough time...they start being more themselves...and if they've been jerks most their lives...then she'll start seeing that. So she kind of feared that in future relationships.

 

But I'm not sure if the couple had just "gotten comfortable" with each other because sex gets old eventually. You know...too much of anything and all.

 

BUt I was wondering if this is just typical of a relationships that typically only lasted a couple of years. I mean...it's a pretty decent run of a monogamous relationship as it is anyhow I suppose, yes?

[Zippy2000]

Interesting thread. I have a girl pal who I ve know for 6 years, and she has had 3 boyfriends the time I ve known her and she actually aid she cant get past 2 years with a partner.

 

Her first boyfriend was a friend first but grew closer over time. He had to finish it as over time he had certain mental issues and he could get close to her. It was a trip to the States that she realised things werent right and he grew distant.

 

The second man she met in the pub but he decided to cheat on her.

 

The third was man the same again but she is wanting to work on and are doing a trial separation as they keep on arguing over things and small things at that.

 

However that said, if youre referring to OLD. It tends to last 6 months either because theyve lost the interest. Its because either parties let their guard down since they were on their best behaviour. The relationship in trouble if they dont do things together. Overall with OLD its easier to drop everything and cut ties since the person you meet is kind of "disposable" as our society is and you can severe ties with that person if you havent got to deep.

I guess no one has a manual on how to deal with relationships but I can as humans we constantly grow and change. The person you met may not be the same person in say a year or two years down the line.

 

In a different time frame I ve noticed my taste in women change but most of all. Relationships take work and a lot of people especially in OLD. They either "Dont feel it" or do the "slow fade" hence you get the 6 month honey moon period.

 

Its happened to me, and I ve done the slow fade when I was younger.

Edited September 3, 2014 by Zippy2000
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[StanMusial]

Most of the people I interact with daily have been married for years. Most of my family and friends have been married for years. It just depends on the circles you travel in I supppose that influences your perception of relationship longevity.

[FortunateSon]

My relationships tend to be all or nothing. I have had two 6 years relationships, but when causally dating they seem to last a month or two at most. Looks like I haven't been able to get past the 6 year mark

[irc333]

Right when I had mentioned a situation like this to my friends. .. even the married ones...they would say something like " Well just remember the good times you had with that person when you had them. When talking about the future. .. they say " well just enjoy what you have going on with them in the mean time.

 

They speak with the frame of mind that nothing lasts forever

[irc333]

That's pretty good. I think the avg max is 3 years....but beyond that it doesn't get past the single digits. THEN I think about Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell lol

 

 

My relationships tend to be all or nothing. I have had two 6 years relationships, but when causally dating they seem to last a month or two at most. Looks like I haven't been able to get past the 6 year mark

[BikerAccnt]

I think the age of the couple makes a big difference also. I notice that older couples tend to stay together longer. By older, I mean those of us that have been married/divorced/lived together once already.

 

 

When people are younger, after 1, 2 and certainly 3 years, one of the partners generally want to see things progress further. Further usually mean marriage or cohabitation. If that doesn't happen, the relationship often fizzles.

 

 

The people my age, and thereabouts, have done that before. I know many unmarried couples in their late 40's and 50's, who have been together 2+ years. I know of one who have been "dating" for 10 years.

 

 

Each have our own houses, our own separate lives already. It's nice to have someone to share it with, but often, there is no expectation of another marriage, or of living with that person. So, the relationship is often free to continue as is, without an expectation needing to be met.

[irc333]

I think the age of the couple makes a big difference also. I notice that older couples tend to stay together longer. By older, I mean those of us that have been married/divorced/lived together once already.

 

 

When people are younger, after 1, 2 and certainly 3 years, one of the partners generally want to see things progress further. Further usually mean marriage or cohabitation. If that doesn't happen, the relationship often fizzles.

 

 

The people my age, and thereabouts, have done that before. I know many unmarried couples in their late 40's and 50's, who have been together 2+ years. I know of one who have been "dating" for 10 years.

 

 

Each have our own houses, our own separate lives already. It's nice to have someone to share it with, but often, there is no expectation of another marriage, or of living with that person. So, the relationship is often free to continue as is, without an expectation needing to be met.

 

That being said though, I wonder if people are in this stage are kinda still looking to trade up or get a wandering eye if things don't progress towards marriage.