ErinSeMa Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 I just found out today that my ex boyfriend have officially moved 7 hours away from where I am living to start a new job. I saw it coming because he told me, but it still hurt like hell. I have the urge to call him, but I've been holding back really hard because I know it will change nothing. I have officially lost contact with him. We have no mutual friends, and he doesn't update his FB. I know that if I call, he will answer the phone. He does every time. Even after I broke up with him, he's really sweet to me and everything. I usually wait for him to contact me first, but I know he won't anymore. We said our final goodbyes before he left. They said, if you love something, let it go. If it comes back, it's yours forever. If it doesn't, it's never meant to be. Is that really true?
mightycpa Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 My experience is even if it comes back, it is not yours forever. Most relationships are like crystal goblets. A breakup can crack the goblet, or shatter it. Either way, it's no good any more. Rarely, it won't be affected at all. Like you drop a glass and nothing happens to it. In your case, he seems to be gone. Time to stop looking backwards, and to begin looking forward with a new vision of your life. 2
Always Pondering Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 Curious, why did you two break up? I'm guessing that the underlying issues that damaged the relationship are still there since you said nothing will change. I feel that saying has some truth to it with the exception of the forever part. Perhaps this is for the best and he seems to have found a good opportunity to start a new life.
Hollywood-Tourist Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 They said, if you love something, let it go. If it comes back, it's yours forever. If it doesn't, it's never meant to be. Is that really true? I hear this saying all the time & I don't believe in it. Personally, I believe that if you truly love something that much then you will fight to the end for it no matter what steps in your way. If it was yours forever, why would they even leave in the first place? 1
Author ErinSeMa Posted September 4, 2014 Author Posted September 4, 2014 I hear this saying all the time & I don't believe in it. Personally, I believe that if you truly love something that much then you will fight to the end for it no matter what steps in your way. If it was yours forever, why would they even leave in the first place? Our chemistry was really great. I'm a few years younger than this guy so I tend to be very dependent of him. On top of that, I also act younger than my age. Because of that, it probably feels like he's with a kid sometimes. He did left, but he kept in contact with me. It's more of a more-than-a friend relationship up to until he left.
Author ErinSeMa Posted September 4, 2014 Author Posted September 4, 2014 Why did you break up with him ? It was a really childish reason. I thought he had a crush on this girl, and our relationship seems to be coming apart because he was being very matured all the time and I wasn't. That's why I decided to take a break. I guess you guys are right, if he really cared, he won't have left. I just don't understand why he likes to contact me out of the blue at different stages after the breakup. Then before he left, he called me and told me that he's leaving and he wishes we can still go out for lunches and movies sometimes before he leaves.
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