DonM77 Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 Last dec I posted about my GF's exhusband passing. Since then it has been an extremely rough year since his passing. I don't know if any of the recent events having anything to do with our most recent issues, but none the less I'm back once again for advice. I will try and make this as short as possible... A little back story first. In april my GF and I had been out for a much needed dinner. We both had shrimp and shortly after leaving the restaurant my Gf started showing signs of having some sort of allergic reaction apparently from the shrimp. Something she has never been allergic to prior to this event. I quickly ran to a local pharmacy for some benadryl hoping this would help. She took one of the pills and slipped another in her pocket book in case of an emergency later down the road and the rest of the box went into the medicine cabinet till last week. To my knowledge no one has touched the box since april. It is only my gf, me and her 20 year old daughter who lives in the home. She was fine after this incident and never showed the same signs again. From May till the middle of Aug my gf fell Ill with symtoms of anemia which is something she has had off and on her whole life. After some blood work her iron levels were found to be dangerously low. She began taking iron supplements and changed her diet whit iron enriched foods. By mid Aug she was feeling much better and as of today believed that was her issues. However she blamed her new job and the fact she was working in a tight office with so much electronic equipment. Two sundays ago her oldest 30 year old daughter, grandaughter and her BF came over for dinner. Her oldest daughter had been complaining of not feeling well all eve so my GF got up and grabbed the benadryl for her and when she grabbed it, she noticed there was only 9 of the 22 pills remaining. We all thought it was strange so many had been missing. All day I made comments about being tog sexually after the kids left and she knew how much I wanted it since it had been a while and less because of all her health issues. So as soon as the kids left I'd hope to have sex and she clearly knew it. Once the kids left we got ready for bed and she brought up the missing benadryl and something else that was missing. She jumped out of bed and began looking for the benadryl 12 am in the morning. This was clearly more important to her than sex or sleep at this point and I told her not to worry about it till morning since she was off the next day. She began freaking out yelling that she couldn't sleep knowing the benadryl had gone missing and I should be very concerned instead of selfishly worrying about sex.( I know my gf and when something is missing it is always because she misplaced it and it would show up in a few days, hence my lack of concern). This made her angry, she began freaking out and flat out accused me for the missing benadryl. She accused me of poisoning her by putting the benadryl in her wine.(wine we share by the way) Which according to her the reason she had been sick all those months. Needless to say this cause a huge fight and neither of us slept that night. The fight spilled over to the next day. I accused her of cheating for what in my eyes was an elaborate attempt to avoid sleeping with that night. At no point did I ever receive an apology for her accusations. We somewhat made up but I can't forget something so serious as this, but I let it go. Fast forward a week today we spent the whole morning together before I went to work. I ran her around taking her on errands one of which was a trip to the vets where her dog was do for shots. I stayed in the car while she ran in for 15 min. All was fine prior to her going in she was very happy and looking forward to a 4 day getaway I had booked a month ago to maine. She came out of the vets and noticed a few small scratches were on her rear passenger door which she claimed she checked before we left for our errands this morning that weren't there. She quickly blamed me for intentionally keying her car which again turned into another blow out. I told her I was canceling our trip to maine and I went to work and we didn't speak all day till I decided to call her later in the eve from work. The only thing she could talk about is her car the whole time and how she wants me to take her to have a pro look at it after we get back from maine. She completely ignored the fact I don't want to go with her to maine and I guess she expects me to once again overlook all the accusations and still take her away next sunday. I love her and care about her, but this is the last straw. During our four year relationship there has been constant blame and accusations small and big but not anywhere on this level. I'm highly offended, hurt, angry by her most recent accusations and above all feel abused! To top it off I believe she told both her daughters she thinks i'm doing these things to her so not only is she turning against me, she's turning her daughters against me. She claims I'm crazy and unaware I'm doing these things. I'm starting to thinks she's bipolar and also a hypochondriac. When I question her behavior she refuses to discuss it and gets highly defensive. What do I do?
CarrieT Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 You said it at the end: Four years of blaming and accusations. She's accusing you of poisoning her and you are accusing her of cheating? Call it quits and move on - nothing is worth all this drama...
mightycpa Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 Either you have to stop: hiding the benadryl spiking the wine keying her car doing more crazy **** or Get the **** out of there, as fast as you can! 1
Assasda Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 I hope OP is a grown man and not a child. Sounds like thats what youre being treated like. And no one can treat you badly without your permission. You are not being abused, Youre accepting abuse
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