What to Wear for Dating Websites

[disneygogetter]

When it comes to online dating websites what are some outfits to recommend wearing for these dating profiles.

 

I'd seen guys and girls wearing suits or dresses to casual wear of jeans and t-shirts etc.

 

But what outfits and types of photos would be good to take? I've heard headshots and body shots.

[Smarty Pants]

Choose random pictures from facebook or another social media site. If i see someone posing in nice clothes with a 'selfie', I think they are trying too hard.

[thefooloftheyear]

Never done OLD, but from what my buddy tells me, the women he meets look nothing in real life to what the photos show...My guess is that they took a hundred photos of themselves to find the two that dont make them look heavy or show themselves in the most perfect of conditions...

 

There is little sense in this...because the minute they see you then they are probably going to be let down...Id imagine guys do this too, but I can only go by what I am told and when I viewed my buddies profile, his pics kinda are representative of who he is..

 

I have a saying..."its always better to underpromise and over deliver" Works for just about anything in life....including OLD...

 

Just be yourself...dont pick bad photos but dont pick only ones thatyou think make you look fabulous..mix it up..

 

.02

 

TFY

[acrosstheuniverse]

Just pick a handful from social media, it doesn't really matter what you're wearing as long as you look natural and at your best. For example on mine I'm pretty sure I had mostly face/upper body fairly modest photos, despite being a size 6 with a great body. Reason being I didn't want to attract people who were after me because of my cleavage or whatever.

 

But I looked great in them all, whether in a t shirt and jeans or dressed up on a night out. Makeup, hair done, looking happy.

[OwMyEyeball]

You are much better off using photos of yourself from social events that give a clearer sense of who you are. You want to showcase your personality as much as your "goods".

 

If you go for the "make myself look as good as possible" approach don't be surprised if you attract a lower caliber. Guys who are serious about compatibility (i.e. not just cruising for sex) will look at a selfies album and start wondering about her social life and emotional stability. Sure, it's very presumptuous, but you have to accept the fact that, in a lot of ways, you're marketing yourself on a medium that simply cannot capture the essence of who you are.

 

You still want to go with the most flattering shots, especially the ones showing you expressing genuine happiness, excitement, surprise, coyness, puzzlement and any other "cute" / positive emotions. i.e. some personality!

[FitChick]

I am California casual so I'd look silly wearing a suit or cocktail dress. I have pics on my profile of me in leggings and nice tee shirt (not baggy or tight) at home on the couch, and wearing skinny jeans with a lacy top, silk scarf and strappy sandals at a local museum garden. You can see I have a good figure without being overtly sexy. Plus two head shots.

 

I read one guy's profile who said he didn't want to see "makeover photos." I'm guessing he means glamour shots. No one looks like that in real life.

[d0nnivain]

Your photo should be a picture of how you dress. I wear suits more often then not so those were the bulk of my pictures. I threw a casual outfit shot in there just to prove I could "dress down."

 

Unless the guy identified himself as working in an industry which required a suit, if there wasn't a jacket & tie picture somewhere I didn't approach 1st. If he reached out, I'd evaluate on merit but I wasn't about to start something if I was already skeptical that we could match lifestyles.

 

Similarly if your style is casual, putting up photos of you in formal wear is disingenuous. Also what are you going to do when the person who messages you prefers to dress up & you hate it?

 

Be neat & clean but true to yourself.

[disneygogetter]

Ah I get it alright then thanks for the tips!

[Tayken]

Women in provocative gear is a turn off...you are not going to land a decent man by posing with your chest out, in your lingerie or sticking your behind in the camera.

 

So it's no surprise when you get messages and it's clear they haven't read your profile, and they are only interested in sex.

 

If you are a career professional woman, strong, confident, witty and smart...you won't have to resort to the trashy approach because competition is tough. Your class will win the day and more likely to land you a decent man

[carhill]

What we used to call 'smart casual' IMO works pretty well for OLD pictures. I'm not a woman so can't comment on that aspect for them but for a guy it could be slacks and a collared shirt, minimal jewelry and loafers, presuming there's no specific activity clothing involved.

 

As far as photos I mixed them up, with a couple of closeups and action shots and shots with friends at events. I think I used a shot with a male friend at our car club's wine tasting tour, another of me in cycling gear on a ride and a couple I shot myself, on sticks with a remote shutter, at home. Didn't seem to be a problem. Got some dates anyway.