ostateclarett13 Posted March 3, 2005 Posted March 3, 2005 I had posted my first under "She is scared, but I still love her" I found it out....she wasn't scared, she loves someone else, and always has. My friend was right from the beginning "It seemed like you are the replacement." See my ex has this guy friend who she claims to be her best friend. Ok, I get that. What I didnt know was that at the end of the school year last year, they got into a fight and weren't speaking. Didnt even fix it over the summer. My other friend had said that she knew that my ex had tried to kiss him, before she and I ever met. Only he didn't want to get involved. I had hoped that she would come back from the weekend, wish me a happy bday and tell me she still loved me....didn't happen, and I am more upset that she didnt even call or text happy bday...everyone else did, I thought we were atleast were friends. I had read a link in her instant messenger that was to her journal...about things being confused that night. There were not details, except something about the word "no" and those "three words." I am no idiot, lets add for a minute, she asked him out, he said no and told her that he still loved her (as a friend, I am assuming...I love my friends who are girls, but in the friendship way) At this point I figured it out, I was his replacement...I'm upset about it, but not really mad. You can't change someone's feelings, they just have to figure them out. I have given up on her, if forced her to tell me last thursday if there was still a chance, and she was mad that i was doing it, but I couldn't go through the pain of holding on and not knowing if there was even a chance. I'm glad that I did it, now I can move on without giving up on her like everyone else in her life, she told me to give up. I still love her, she will always have a special place in my heart. But its over. Maybe if we are supposed to be together, God will lead her back to me, but I'm not going to wait for that....I'm moving on. I am not really looking to jump right into a realationship right away, but a friend of mine wants to hook me up with her roommate, I'll meet her atleast, if things go well in meeting her and she is nice, I'll probably go on a date with her. But, we will see what happens. My advice to all of you, LISTEN TO THOSE AROUND YOU WHEN THEY OFFER INSIDE INFORMATION. I had inside info from the beginning, but I passed on it and I got hurt But knowing something (that there isnt a chance) has made my life easier. I am not depressed everyday, and not upset as much. I still think about her, I miss her sometimes, but with the way I loved her...I expected that to happen. On another note...I am kinda pissed at my friends for not wanting to go out to dinner on my bday, I DIDT IT FOR THEM!!! **** YOU GUYS!! but whatever, its only a bday.
seriously messed up Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 Leave well enough alone if you are somewhat over her kool, but don't be going out with her roommate. If you really are meant to be with her just not now then you better not jinx yourself by dating or even going out with someone she knows...............good luck...............from cat
beatjunkies Posted March 4, 2005 Posted March 4, 2005 a friend of yours wants to hook you up with their roomate ? or your ex's roomate ?? its sounds like you might be saying your friends roomate.. i hope it isnt your ex's roomate.. i totally agree with seriously messed up dont even date anyone your ex knows !!!! Take care. peace
Author ostateclarett13 Posted March 5, 2005 Author Posted March 5, 2005 The roommate has nothing to do with my ex. I work on our school's tv show, and my co-anchor wants to introduce me to HER roommate. Trust me I would not hook up with my ex's roommate. But It looks like there is no chance for me and my ex ever again. She was hiding her feelings for her best friend, and I just found out today that the two of them hooked up. The only way it would get screwed up is if her problems with her mom and dad get in the way of their relationship, but i think that her major problems were not realizing her true feelings for this guy. So basically the hole time we were together and she said she loved me, she loved him. (she may have cared for me, but she didnt love me like i loved her) Everyone says I should hate her, but I hate that she lied to me...not her. But don't worry this "roommate" has nothing to do with her. Thanks for you input though, I should have been clearer. I had a good laugh when I read that.
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