Gamehenge Posted September 2, 2014 Posted September 2, 2014 I was dating this girl for the last year and a half when she dumps out of the blue. We had been living together for the last 6. She had only recently moved to My state when I met her where she got a job, picked up everything, and left her home state. She started going to my gym and that's how we met. We got involved really fast. We both fell in love. There was an age gap but it really didn't matter to either of us. My gym is really social and a lot of us tend to be friends outside of it due to the services (ie yoga, crossfit, karate etc). I quickly introduce her to everyone, many whom I've known for over 7 years. Our relationship was great. Everyone loves her cause she is an awesome lady. We rarely fought. We both let each other be who we wanted to be. Always trusted each other. Eventually, she gets laid off and I get her a job at the family business which I also work for part time. She then loses her apartment because her roommates decided to move to another state. We then move in together in house with some friends so that we can save money to have both of us be able to afford a place on our own eventually. It was small but I figured it was the best solution for the time being and we can both see how it's like to live with each other. Soon, I tell her about a job at the gym where we met and I had been going to for the last 9 years. She gets the job and things where going great. She's back on her feet and we get along well. Then I started talking about the possibility of our next place together. The next day, she emails me a break up letter. A break up letter! I was so angry. She came that night and we talked. I decided I needed NC as I was so angry. She moves in w a friend from work. I stop going to the gym and going to another til I felt I was ready to see her. She had said that the reason for the break was I didn't fulfill her needs. Given, I realized I got a complacent but I wasn't falling out of love. And it takes 2. But I felt she never gave me a chance. After a month of no NC, I started going back to the same gym mostly cause I missed my friends and just had to deal with seeing her. I was and still very heartbroken. I am polite but I somewhat ignore her. I've blocked her from all social media and make sure to stay positive about the relationship. Then after about a month, I wrote her a letter on how I felt since she never gave me any closure. Eventually, she asked me out for coffee but flakes out. Again I was angry. I still see her at the gym where the only place I want to escape and see my friends. We rarely talk but I do miss her, still love her, and care for her. It's hard for me to let go but I know I have to. I still get slightly angry when I hear her try to make plans withy friends but I don't say anything. Now I hear that she wants to move in wih another friend she met through me that I've known for a decade. Is wrong for me to feel angry or used? I feel like she kept everything inside, did not communicate, then left when she finally had some footing under her. I don't think she meant it to be this way but it surely feels like it. But I still miss her.
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