btvdts Posted September 2, 2014 Posted September 2, 2014 So I met this girl. thought she was really cool. asked her out for coffee. I guess she thought it was a date? I don't know. I had a good time, she did as well because we met up again for dinner. I don't think I came off giving her the impression that I liked her ( I mean I did a little) but I was just trying to get to know her. She said she had a great time and them wham she's gone. I don't understand. If you aren't interested in me as a potential boyfriend, that's fine, but that means we can't be friends? So how do I make friends if I can't spend time with them getting to know them unless I work with them? we both met because we lived near each other and had a common interest. I asked her later if she wanted to meet up with me at the dog park because I was taking my dogs and she has a dog... I figured ok guys don't usually ask girls to the dog park if they want to date them. she blew me off. so how the hell do I make friends people?!?
evanescentworld Posted September 2, 2014 Posted September 2, 2014 socialising with members of your own gender - is making friends. Socialising with mixed groups - is making friends. Trying to socialise with one member of the opposite sex, in potentially-dating situations - is NOT making friends. it's arranging dates, and moving into a light, casual, more serious, and eventually, committed relationship. She's blown you off because as far as she could see, you were coming onto her. And it's understandable that she thought that way. One-on-one meetings with ladies, are not ways to make friends, they're ways to have dates. And she's not interested in dating you. Hence her distancing herself. Unless you made it absolutely crystal-clear, without any ambiguity, that all you want is friendship, a woman sees some guy building up to a leg-over. So she backed off.
Assasda Posted September 2, 2014 Posted September 2, 2014 What do you mean, Wham she's gone? And how did she blow you off? If all this interaction happen in just like a couple of days, she maybe tired of you, give the girl a chance to breathe. Date other girls
TayTay415 Posted September 2, 2014 Posted September 2, 2014 If you were looking for a friend, why are you posting this on the dating section instead of the friendship section?
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