dragonfire13 Posted September 2, 2014 Posted September 2, 2014 I met a guy recently, we got chatting and I thought he was giving me sure-fire signs that he was interested e.g. asking personal questions, complimenting me, pushing to meet again soon, taking my details and connecting on social media (initiated by him) literally an hour after we parted ways. However, despite him seeming keen not to lose touch, I never heard from him again. Now I feel silly, like maybe I read too much into things. So...I was just wandering, what signals can you go by that a guy is interested in you romantically and not just being friendly? Or was I correct in assuming he was interested, but for whatever reason he just didn't follow through?
OwMyEyeball Posted September 2, 2014 Posted September 2, 2014 You're right in that you read too much into these sorts of encounters. That's not to say that you're misreading the cues, but more that you're investing more emotional energy into them than they're worth. You may question that comment, but the fact that you're on here posing these questions shows you care enough to ask a room full of strangers. Take your encounters for what they were, engaging and flirtatious interactions, then move on. If he re-initiates, wonderful. If not ... shouldn't matter because you've already got your attention focused elsewhere. 3
Gloria25 Posted September 2, 2014 Posted September 2, 2014 How long ago did you chat to this guy? And, when you say he 'connected on social media' do you mean he added you as a friend on Facebook, or did he only exchange messages with you?
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted September 2, 2014 Posted September 2, 2014 It is possible he is busy and will get back to you. Social media to me is a bad indicator of judgment between what some peeps perceive from one another. They can barely figure each other out verbally and end up relying on txt or messages. Some guys are nice enough to allow the woman to be open enough to ask rather than be one of the 1000 guys who pop up asking for a date. Yep, they usually get passed up easy, because they rather not feel uncomfortable from the get go. Shy guys wait for equal status between each other. Just because they are shy with peeps getting personal can be done as easy as you can be in starting a relationship. Plus you can learn at the same rate about each other and feel things go a bit easier. Unless you are horny and can't wait. LOL!
MissBee Posted September 2, 2014 Posted September 2, 2014 (edited) I don't look for signs. If a man does all that of course I think maybe he's interested; however, the proof is in whether or not I hear from him and he follows up for more. If he does...he's interested. If not...he's not interested or not that interested. No two ways about it really. So I don't get too caught up in "signs" but wait to see "what next." He may be a flake. And if a dude is a flake I don't care if you "like me." If you like me but can't show up or disappear you don't like me that much then or you have issues that I'm not interested in sticking around for. Edited September 2, 2014 by MissBee 4
SidneyS Posted September 2, 2014 Posted September 2, 2014 (which in itself was bizarre since he had my phone number). it's actually really bizarre to call completey strangers via phone outside a business context.
Author dragonfire13 Posted September 2, 2014 Author Posted September 2, 2014 You're right in that you read too much into these sorts of encounters. That's not to say that you're misreading the cues, but more that you're investing more emotional energy into them than they're worth. You may question that comment, but the fact that you're on here posing these questions shows you care enough to ask a room full of strangers. Take your encounters for what they were, engaging and flirtatious interactions, then move on. If he re-initiates, wonderful. If not ... shouldn't matter because you've already got your attention focused elsewhere. Not that I need to justify myself, but asking questions on an online forum is my way of understanding the male mind better. Please do not imply that I have becomes increasingly attached to a guy I met once, when I'm simply trying to decipher confusing behaviour, like a lot of people here. If I cared enough, I would be reaching out to the guy instead of, as you put it, "a room full of strangers".
Author dragonfire13 Posted September 2, 2014 Author Posted September 2, 2014 it's actually really bizarre to call completey strangers via phone outside a business context. .... not really, the guy repeatedly said she wanted to see me again, so I told him to give me a call/text to arrange.
Author dragonfire13 Posted September 2, 2014 Author Posted September 2, 2014 I don't look for signs. If a man does all that of course I think maybe he's interested; however, the proof is in whether or not I hear from him and he follows up for more. If he does...he's interested. If not...he's not interested or not that interested. No two ways about it really. So I don't get too caught up in "signs" but wait to see "what next." He may be a flake. And if a dude is a flake I don't care if you "like me." If you like me but can't show up or disappear you don't like me that much then or you have issues that I'm not interested in sticking around for. No nonsense, love it
OwMyEyeball Posted September 2, 2014 Posted September 2, 2014 Not that I need to justify myself, but asking questions on an online forum is my way of understanding the male mind better. Please do not imply that I have becomes increasingly attached to a guy I met once, when I'm simply trying to decipher confusing behaviour, like a lot of people here. If I cared enough, I would be reaching out to the guy instead of, as you put it, "a room full of strangers". Poor manners and presumption on my part. Apologies.
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