BJP56 Posted September 2, 2014 Posted September 2, 2014 I want to hear from people whom have a long term relationship and chose not to have kids, and I am not talking about having a medical condition that prevents you from having kids, just the choice not to. I have read multiple articles saying your marriages are stronger, slightly happier...ect. Is that really true? I would like to hear from you both.
Sweetlifevt Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 For what it's worth, my sister has no kids and has been married for 10 years. They have a strong relationship. They went through a major rough patch 5 years ago. The issue was infidelity. They did some hard work to recover from it. They have dogs, and also many shared interests as well as things they both do alone or with their own friends. I'd say they are very strong together due to the fact that they have the time and energy to put in the work necessary for a strong relationship. If they had kids, their bond would be much more based around the children I am guessing. My sister now wants a child. It's not an overwhelming desire, but is certainly there. Her husband still very much does not want a child. He had a very difficult time growing up with his parents, and he's worried he doesn't have the instincts and knowledge to be a better parent than his were to him. This has been a sad spot in their relationship. I think my sister is feeling she would feel more fulfilled in life if she had a child. So she is mostly happy in her relationship, but feeling an empty spot in her life overall. So that's my knowledge of one couple's experience with being childless by choice. 1
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