Author slinky71 Posted September 12, 2014 Author Posted September 12, 2014 You're a friend. She has no intentions. Well i don't want to be one anymore. How should i cut contact? Being all out, unfriending her from facebook, not answering her texts and calls kind of cutting contact or something less aggressive? If we won't become lovers i don't want to wander around as a girlfriend of her with a penis and i want to show it, not tell it.
GemmaUK Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 Just block everywhere if you are upset over it and don't want friendship.
Author slinky71 Posted September 12, 2014 Author Posted September 12, 2014 Just block everywhere if you are upset over it and don't want friendship. But should i tell her that? Or just do it?
Diezel Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 Do you have testicles? Seriously. Do you have to ask every little detail on how to DO something. You just do it. It's called "cutting contact"... not "Telling her that you will be cutting all contact in hopes that you get a Hollywood ending reaction from her". She is NOT interested in you. SHE said it was IMPOSSIBLE. Do you need God Himself to descend from the heavens and talk to you in a Hulk Hogan voice and tell you, "Let me tell you something brother, it's NOT happening. Ever. Ever. EVAR." Just STOP talking to her. Period. That's it. It's not that hard. 1
Author slinky71 Posted September 12, 2014 Author Posted September 12, 2014 Do you have testicles? Seriously. Do you have to ask every little detail on how to DO something. You just do it. It's called "cutting contact"... not "Telling her that you will be cutting all contact in hopes that you get a Hollywood ending reaction from her". She is NOT interested in you. SHE said it was IMPOSSIBLE. Do you need God Himself to descend from the heavens and talk to you in a Hulk Hogan voice and tell you, "Let me tell you something brother, it's NOT happening. Ever. Ever. EVAR." Just STOP talking to her. Period. That's it. It's not that hard. Well yes that's a nice point. I told what i was going to do and now asking people what do they think. I'm not smooth enough about these kind of stuff appearently, not yet. Never hurts to seek advice -mostly-.
curlygirl40 Posted September 13, 2014 Posted September 13, 2014 Coming in late to the party but wanted to chime in. My thoughts: She like like liked all your stuff on FB and then backed off possibly because she was liking everything as a friend and then when you confessed what you were thinking, she didn't want to lead you on and make you think there's more. She obviously likes you in some way but just not in 'that' way, which is why she said 'impossible'. We all have people in our lives that we really like as a friend but we could never see ourselves with. To me, this is why she would invite you to hang out as friends, hang out with her friends, like your stuff on FB, text you, etc., etc. Friends do these things too. Doesn't mean there's a love interest. She was pretty honest and direct. So the question is, can you just be friends with her without hoping for more? If so, then this is what you do. Return her texts/calls, say yes when she asks if you want to go out (if you're not busy), be her friend. Simple really. If you are too emotionally invested in something more with her then it will be hard to be her friend. If this is the case then you are free to ignore her texts, ignore her invites, block her on FB or whatever. Move on and try to forget about her. It's really your call and not hers. She's told you where she stands but she apparently still wants to be friends. So the question really is, can you be her friend or not? Answer that question for yourself and then act accordingly. Simple really 1
Author slinky71 Posted September 14, 2014 Author Posted September 14, 2014 Coming in late to the party but wanted to chime in. My thoughts: She like like liked all your stuff on FB and then backed off possibly because she was liking everything as a friend and then when you confessed what you were thinking, she didn't want to lead you on and make you think there's more. She obviously likes you in some way but just not in 'that' way, which is why she said 'impossible'. We all have people in our lives that we really like as a friend but we could never see ourselves with. To me, this is why she would invite you to hang out as friends, hang out with her friends, like your stuff on FB, text you, etc., etc. Friends do these things too. Doesn't mean there's a love interest. She was pretty honest and direct. So the question is, can you just be friends with her without hoping for more? If so, then this is what you do. Return her texts/calls, say yes when she asks if you want to go out (if you're not busy), be her friend. Simple really. If you are too emotionally invested in something more with her then it will be hard to be her friend. If this is the case then you are free to ignore her texts, ignore her invites, block her on FB or whatever. Move on and try to forget about her. It's really your call and not hers. She's told you where she stands but she apparently still wants to be friends. So the question really is, can you be her friend or not? Answer that question for yourself and then act accordingly. Simple really How can you know she still wants to be friends? After all, i just thought like 'well maybe i wasn't an important part of her life becuase she let me go despite what she said, she just CAN'T spare a few hours from her lazy weekends and prefers watching old movies by herself(??) rather than being with me, and this is happening for a couple weeks, answers my texts ridiculously late if not at all, so no good can come from such thing'. Maybe i'm wrong and i cannot claim that i know everything. But i forgot that i had balls and invested much and got this as return, loads and loads and loads of excuses and apologies, and nothing else. People may say everthing but actions matter. And she said 'I somehow realised you liked me but realising that is something and you coming to me and saying this another thing'. So i was to be her demasculanised cute puppy dog to be dragged out? And meanwhile she'd be considering another men? No, thanks. Not being liked is another thing but that's just a real punch in the crotch. Maybe i overreact but something bugs me about this so i think i'll just go with ignoring her. If you are reading this woman -yeah happened to me a couple times, my life's weird like that- i'm sorry but this is how i see what happened. You didn't make me see it any other way. So i'm trying to learn to how to be good with women and realised where i did wrong, reconnecting with old friends, and maybe see other women soon. By the way thanks for taking your time and writing a good answer for me.
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