Diezel Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 That is not a date. And no, you shouldn't go unless you plan on hitting on everyone else that ISN'T Ms. Impossible.
Author slinky71 Posted September 3, 2014 Author Posted September 3, 2014 That is not a date. And no, you shouldn't go unless you plan on hitting on everyone else that ISN'T Ms. Impossible. Mostly there will be dudes so. But maybe i'd sleep with her slutty ex friend who she hates now. I really need some game to never go through ****ty stuff like this again, but it's life. Stuff like this can happen to anyone but mostly to people like me.
Author slinky71 Posted September 3, 2014 Author Posted September 3, 2014 It's still not a date. Yeah i got that when you first said that. Maybe she doesn't want to do anything with me now. Which is fine and means that i can move on. I don't want to be her good-looking and nice boytoy who only go dates with her and makes other women jealous.
Maleficent Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 (edited) We give you advice but you are ignoring it. If you want people to tell you what you want to hear, just say it in your original post. Sheesh. Edited September 3, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
William Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 Clue train - Anyone who posts a thread here is not compelled nor required as a condition of their membership to take advice or supplicate to anyone here. Proceed down this path at the risk of your own membership. Fair warning!
Author slinky71 Posted September 3, 2014 Author Posted September 3, 2014 We give you advice but you are ignoring it. If you want people to tell you what you want to hear, just say it in your original post. Sheesh. You say just quit. And probably you're right. And i said i'm going to cut contacts slowly, will see other women, etc. But if she had feelings for me and we have a shot together, i said i wanted to wait and see. I don't see how it is ignoring your advice. Saying 'move on' is a thing and doing it is another, i want to and i'm doing it but sometimes it all just comes back on me and makes me disturbed. We're in the same college that's why it's not too easy to not to see her and forget about her. Please say what you want. I just said insulting is not cool and i wont take it as a man who respects himself.
Maleficent Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 You say just quit. And probably you're right. And i said i'm going to cut contacts slowly, will see other women, etc. But if she had feelings for me and we have a shot together, i said i wanted to wait and see. I don't see how it is ignoring your advice. Saying 'move on' is a thing and doing it is another, i want to and i'm doing it but sometimes it all just comes back on me and makes me disturbed. We're in the same college that's why it's not too easy to not to see her and forget about her. Please say what you want. I just said insulting is not cool and i wont take it as a man who respects himself. It's not cool. My point is that you are complaining about the advice you are getting here, even though it's what you asked. I get it's not what you wanted to hear but sticking around this woman is gonna do one thing - hurt you. Feel free to not follow our advice. but we all know how that story is going to end up.
Author slinky71 Posted September 3, 2014 Author Posted September 3, 2014 It's not cool. My point is that you are complaining about the advice you are getting here, even though it's what you asked. I get it's not what you wanted to hear but sticking around this woman is gonna do one thing - hurt you. Feel free to not follow our advice. but we all know how that story is going to end up. You're right. Most likely she has another man in her life, whether i like it or not, whether she's having a relationship with him, or casual fun, or being used by that guy. It's really hurtful and i can't sleep at the moment and write tons of crap online, but it's an explaination why she stopped flirting with me and stuff. Maybe it's true. But in life, nothing is certain. Maybe she had feelings for me but she doesn't like to be chased -as she told me a couple times-. I don't like to jump into conclusions. And i'm grateful for your advices. I mean it. You spend your time to write those kind of stuff to prevent me -a guy you don't even know- hurt myself. I lived **** like this and it was complete hell. Been there for 4 years. And after all that hard times i just wanted to be happy with a girl i really like and i'm really aware that maybe that's not going to happen for now. But this experience and what you said is really improving me. And don't forget people other than you are suggesting things too. I'd like to see the whole picture, I don't ignore anyone.
Diezel Posted September 4, 2014 Posted September 4, 2014 Yeah i got that when you first said that. Maybe she doesn't want to do anything with me now. Which is fine and means that i can move on. I don't want to be her good-looking and nice boytoy who only go dates with her and makes other women jealous. Um, she doesn't want any of that. She said it was "impossible", not "somewhat probable". You should have started moving on at that point. You still even think a group hangout with her is a date... come on, now. 1
Author slinky71 Posted September 4, 2014 Author Posted September 4, 2014 (edited) Um, she doesn't want any of that. She said it was "impossible", not "somewhat probable". You should have started moving on at that point. You still even think a group hangout with her is a date... come on, now. No i didnt consider it a date. Even if i go i'd be more focused on other people in order to improve my social circle. If she doesn't want to be the center of my attention she won't be. And i suspect that she'd ever call me to one on one dates again, probably won't gonna happen. I plan to turn to acquaintances from good friends. Maybe she'll realise what i mean to her if i ever meant something, or maybe she'll be glad that i wont be in her life anymore. Everyone says 'just forget about it' but in my experience girls just tend to realise what they feel after they think they lost someone. Wish i could find that dude's thread who has made it If she still wouldn't feel anything it's okay, i'd find better women. And if she starts to have feelings for me i wouldn't jump on her because i have serious questions to be answered. inbefore: Yeah i'm aware that it's not a date Edited September 4, 2014 by slinky71
Author slinky71 Posted September 12, 2014 Author Posted September 12, 2014 (edited) Hello people. This was my previous topic and i'm now updating it. She said we'd meet with friends that week and i said like 'okay, just call me when it's settled' and we didn't talk for 2 weeks after that. I neither texted nor talked to her. She's now giving me 'oh i was SOOO tired and busy' stuff and says she wants to meet without mentioning friends. And she does the 'sorry i didnt see your text sorry' game. What should i do? I intend to go to the date if that day ever comes and be slightly different than we used to was. Not much friend-y stuff i mean. Just date, talk as nothing happened and saying goodbye. But what is your suggestions and opinions? She just seemed like an innocent, sweet girl who would never lie to me but now her sincerity is shaken in my eyes. Too much excuses and ****. What to do from now on, if i ever want to be with her some day? Edited September 12, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Jules Dash Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 I remember your original thread and I recall a few posters emphasizing that she said it was impossible. It doesn't get more clearer than that verbally. The physical form of it would be walking up to you and punching you in the gut or maybe just avoiding all physical contact you.
Author slinky71 Posted September 12, 2014 Author Posted September 12, 2014 I remember your original thread and I recall a few posters emphasizing that she said it was impossible. It doesn't get more clearer than that verbally. The physical form of it would be walking up to you and punching you in the gut or maybe just avoiding all physical contact you. Well i don't expect something to happen overnight and find each other in our arms. I just decided to step up my 'game' and be with lots of women and don't miss someone who i'll like as i like this girl.. But still, why she invites me to a date if she's not interested at all? Just being the big-ol'-people-pleaser?
mightycpa Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 This stuff only works if both people are enamored with each other, or if both are not. If one person is burdened by more interest, it gets awkward fast. Let that be your guide. 1
Jules Dash Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 Well i don't expect something to happen overnight and find each other in our arms. I just decided to step up my 'game' and be with lots of women and don't miss someone who i'll like as i like this girl.. But still, why she invites me to a date if she's not interested at all? Just being the big-ol'-people-pleaser? You think she went from impossible to maybe in a matter of weeks? Women really don't say impossible in that context and not really mean it. Who knows why she has invited you on what saying is a date. I say it like that because I hope you are clear on whether it is an actual date or a friendly outing. Either way, I hope you win. 1
Author slinky71 Posted September 12, 2014 Author Posted September 12, 2014 You think she went from impossible to maybe in a matter of weeks? Women really don't say impossible in that context and not really mean it. Who knows why she has invited you on what saying is a date. I say it like that because I hope you are clear on whether it is an actual date or a friendly outing. Either way, I hope you win. Thanks. I hope we all win, at the very end..
Author slinky71 Posted September 12, 2014 Author Posted September 12, 2014 This stuff only works if both people are enamored with each other, or if both are not. If one person is burdened by more interest, it gets awkward fast. Let that be your guide. I was positive that she really liked me, at least till 2 months ago. Maybe at some point she lost interest and/or seeing another man. And i really like her. But if it's not going to work out i can throw it away. Had worse before
snowflakes88 Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 It sounds like she mentioned possibly hanging out at some point in the future. That is not a date.
slizl Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 Just go no contact, thanks but no thanks. That's the only way you will win in this scenario.
GemmaUK Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 Sorry but I get the impression that you see 'dates' when they are not actual dates. They're just friend based gatherings.
Mrin Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 Sorry but I get the impression that you see 'dates' when they are not actual dates. They're just friend based gatherings. As a wise man once said, "You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means." ;-)
Author slinky71 Posted September 12, 2014 Author Posted September 12, 2014 Sorry but I get the impression that you see 'dates' when they are not actual dates. They're just friend based gatherings. Of course i know. When she said friends gathering with 3+ people, i'm socially intelligent enough to know that it is not a date. But now she hasn't mention any other people besides us. And i wondered what is she up to. By the way, by cutting contact what do you mean? Just cutting it like never answering to her calls and texts and unfriending her on facebook? Or just giving her the cold shoulder?
Author slinky71 Posted September 12, 2014 Author Posted September 12, 2014 Sorry but I get the impression that you see 'dates' when they are not actual dates. They're just friend based gatherings. Of course i can distinct dates from friendly gatherings, when she says meeting with 3+ people i know it's not a date. But when she doesn't mention that i wonder what it is about. I wont take her to movies anymore, we wont grab coffee somewhere like we used to do, she is aware of that/she should be. But still wants to see me and i just don't see that why wondering about whether it's a date or not is funny. To be more clear i'm not curious about it's a date or not, i'm curious about what is her intentions.
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