zane Posted March 3, 2005 Posted March 3, 2005 My girl and I broke up about 6 weeks ago, after seeing eachother for almost 2 years. I was devastated but time is healing wounds. I still love her with all of my heart though. I want to spend the rest of my life with this woman. I am her best friend, and she wants to stay friends, so in the first couple of weeks following the breakup, I played that role. I would call her, want to hang out, hoping that it would make her want me back. During those first couple weeks, I would email her, call her, text message her...and she would wait a while before responding. After coming here, and reading a lot of great posts, I realized that she wanted her space, so I decided to start no contact. After just 3 days of no contact, she starts calling and texting me, and I start taking my sweet time in replying, acting too busy, and whatnot. For the past 2 weeks or so, I haven't initiated contact at all, I have left the ball in her court. She calls me and texts me, wanting to hang out. When I do call her back, I always keep it light hearted, and try to be the first to end the convo. We have gone out a few times to get food and drinks, and it is a constant laugh, we have a great time together. My worry is this, I am falling into the role of friend. I think that I am playing it a little too cool, not letting on that I still have feelings for her. In the next couple of days, we will probably get together for food and some drinks, and have a laugh as usual. I'm wondering if I should bring up our relationship then. Basically, since the breakup, we haven't discussed it at all. We are both aware of it, but it hasn't been discussed. Should I use that opportunity to bring it up? Put everything on the table? Or would that just set me back to square one? Would I be pushing her away?
strange love Posted March 3, 2005 Posted March 3, 2005 why did you break up in the first place? are you having sex?
Author zane Posted March 3, 2005 Author Posted March 3, 2005 Yes, we were having sex. Sex was a problem at times. She lost her virginity to me. I was 24 at the time, and she was 19. I am now 26 and she is 21. She grew up in a very religions family, and there were times when I think guilt got the best of her. Also, some of my own insecurities got in the way at times. I am embarassed about some scars I have on my torso from a past accident, which can make me inhibited at times. Our sex ranged from extremely great and passionate to just plain bad. If we get back together, that is definitely something we have to work on. We broke up after we had both been drinking. Basically, I kept pushing and pushing until she had no other choice. I can be VERY stubborn at times, and so can she.
westernxer Posted March 6, 2005 Posted March 6, 2005 She grew up in a very religions family, and there were times when I think guilt got the best of her. I feel your pain.
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