FrostBlaze Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 (edited) If you lose respect for your partner or a friend even, what's the natural behavior that you show? Is it normal to hate the other person's guts or just judge them at every turn when you lose respect for them? I'm asking because i might have such a problem and idk what's up, it wasn't like that before. This gal that i forgave for some "stuff" that i should of not just ignored, probably lost respect for me over those facts, she just act's irritated with me all the time now and feels like arguing out of anything ^^. Edited September 1, 2014 by FrostBlaze
Ronni_W Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 Personally...yes, I am VERY easily irritated/frustrated by and contemptuous of people for whom I've lost respect. In your case, though, it does not necessarily mean that she lost respect for you because you managed to find forgiveness for whatever situation. For instance, she might feel that you were not completely, totally guilt- or mistake-free and is irritated that you haven't owned-up to your own part. NOT saying that's what is going on for her...only offering a different view for you to consider. Why not just ask her why she is so short/impatient with you these days?
Author FrostBlaze Posted September 1, 2014 Author Posted September 1, 2014 No i don';t have anything to own up to, i'm sure it's just that she lost respect for me, because i forgave her a couple of times for really **** moves. Instance: -leaving me for other friends, i take her back cuz heck her new friends sucked. - -stuff xD
dumbass2 Posted September 2, 2014 Posted September 2, 2014 If you come off like you don't care or are too forgiving too soon, she will do it again to you because you have just told her by your actions that what she did is no big deal to you. You need to stand up when things aren't right and affect something you value. you can give and take and be understanding on lesser issues that you may not be totally happy with, but don't just brush off things that happen that truly mean something to you. I wouldn't have taken her right back after what she did. She would have to really work at getting back my friendship. A real friendship should not be something that is just thrown aside, just like a romantic relationship. Now you need to have a serious talk to find out what she is thinking and you need to let her know what you have a problem with and see if you both can get back on the same page. Communication is so important in any relationship, romantic or otherwise.
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