Apple89 Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 Hi All, First post here but I have been browsing these forums for a long time but I really need some advice. I will try to keep this as short as possible. Met this girl from POF as friends initially. On the first meeting we spend a solid 24 hours together, on the second meeting I intiated kissing which she was cool with but I later apologised for and we spent a few hours together on Sunday and have a weekend away in Ireland planned for this coming weekend. Anyway abit about the situation, we're both living in a city that isn't home and she moved here to be with her bf of three years who then proceeded to end it with her almost as soon as she arrived. This means that she was initially looking for friends but if more developed as time went on she'd be fine with that. I knew from the off that I liked her but figured there was plenty of time to see how things developed, which is kind of why I apologised for kissing her as I didn't want to pressure her unduly. Cut to the chase she has now decided to quit this city at the end of the year and go travelling for a few months then move back up north closer to home. It is also my intention to move back up north sometime in the next year or so too as I want to get closer to home too. This has now left me feeling confused. I really genuinly like her as more than a friend and think I'd struggle to be just friends as I've already proven by kissing her. I now don't know what to do about the situation. Do I explain that I like her more than just friends after Dublin? Do I hit on her again in Dublin and see how she responds? Or do I say nothing? In an ideal world I want her to do what she needs to do i.e. Go travelling and move up north as I in now way want me to affect her plans. It would be nice though if we could casually date/get closer until then and then perhaps try the distance thing until I move up that way too. This is really eating me up as I really like her but don't know how to play it. I can see the red flags and would appreciate any input.... Thanks for taking the time to read and sorry about the essay.
evanescentworld Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 Could I ask what is stopping you from saying to her, exactly what you have said here? It seems a logical question to pose, and you at least will know which way the wind blows. I think rather than seek answers from complete strangers, this may be one situation which would greatly benefit from a bit of straight, no-nonsense communication...
Author Apple89 Posted September 1, 2014 Author Posted September 1, 2014 Thanks, she's just messaged me now saying she's moving the travelling forward to November potentially and going for longer. This pretty much rules out any hope of us giving it a go. I have however laid it on the line and explained my feelings, I know nothing can come off it now but I wanted to be honest with her about how I felt.
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