True Gent Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 (edited) It's about 10 or 11 months now since my 9 year relationship went down the pan. She lined up the next person before deciding to leave. Anyway long story short... She had a trip to the USA planned about a year before our split in relation to her PhD. She was going away for 4.5 months and we shared 2 small dogs together. It was a bit messy between us due to how she handled things at the end. I had made the decision to give her complete ownership of our dogs as they will be better off with her than me due to my working hours. I did agree to share the responsibility of the dogs with her Mother while she went off on her trip. So whilst she was away both me and her Mum, did the honorable thing and took turns with the pooches. I didn't mind doing this as I loved my dogs and didn't really want to give them up at all, but I faced reality and I know that we can't dog share for evermore. Upon the exes return I agreed to bow out gracefully and leave her to it. I didn't even get a thank you about the dogs, but I wasn't surprised by that TBH. When we first split up I had an iTunes library on her computer and nearly a decades worth of photos. I'm into photography and I wanted my work back. It's taken her until now to finally give me my data on USB memory sticks after nearly 11 months. I can now finally go full NC and hopefully never go back on that. It's a bit weird, I just wish it was all ancient history by now. It's like she's deliberately prolonged the death of our life together, she made nothing easy for me pre breakup, buring the breakup and post breakup. The full blown NC has been a long wait. I haven't seen her face to face since February or spoken to her. Just emails about the dogs and my data, as well as the occasional breadcrumb from her which I ignored. Now it's actually going full blown NC at last. I'm pleased as this is a major point of progression, but I just feel a bit off I guess. Not upset, just it's weird so many years together and tonight I sent her my final email and that's now officially it... NC for ever. Edited September 1, 2014 by True Gent 1
FortunateSon Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 TG, it sounds like you now are completely free and clear to move forward. Remember her lack of appreciation or even a "thank you" in regards to the dog situation...things like that make it easier to forget the good things if you find yourself having any nostalgic memories! 1
Author True Gent Posted September 1, 2014 Author Posted September 1, 2014 TG, it sounds like you now are completely free and clear to move forward. Remember her lack of appreciation or even a "thank you" in regards to the dog situation...things like that make it easier to forget the good things if you find yourself having any nostalgic memories! How right you are! Her behaviour angers me more than anything. I know she leads a drama filled life and she's actually pretty toxic. No nostalgia from me, it's just been so long coming and now it's here I'm 100% free I don't really feel anything. 1
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