GF DEMANDS To know complete history I have with every female I've known!

[her1nonly]

Now, gf wants to know all chicks from my past!!!!! WTF!??!?!?!?!

 

And i'm not just talkin' flings, but ANY female I associated with in any manner...so when she happens to run into them, she doesn't seem like a fool. that she knows me just as much as the next person. she wants to be the only person who knows me the most!

 

WTF!??!?!?!

 

This goes along with our 10+ year off n' on relationship. I never brought her into my "world", and now that i am, we're having arguements everytime something "new to her" comes up.

 

"you decieved me yadi yadi yada" "you conveniently failed to mention her, so that's a LIE!"

 

UGHGHG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[d'Arthez]

How unreasonable her request seems, there is probably no way to talk her out of it.

 

Either you live with it, and give the info, or break up.

 

If you are willing to divulge to her, you may also ask the same thing from her. That might be a way to talk her out of that.

[ttjames]

Tell her to grow up and quit being so insecure!

[GirlDown]

yeah, she does need to grow up, seriously...

 

a 10+ year relationship?! i thought she was, like, maybe 13.

 

wow. get out of this, it'll be something else eventually that she'll need complete control over.

 

or, give her every little dirty detail about one of your relationships, i'm talking EVERYTHING, size, colour, sounds, everything, and she'll either change her mind about wanting to know...or she'll get mad, which gives you the right to say "i'm not telling you anything else anymore, because you get mad." she can't argue with that!

 

but really, i think the best thing to do would be to lose her...she sounds neurotic, not to mention childish.

[bluechocolate]

Originally posted by ttjames

Tell her to grow up and quit being so insecure!

ditto

[Merin]

My EXBF was this way..

 

He insisted on knowing not only about every guy I had a past sexual history with, but also ANY guy I was friends with or dated casually.. it didn't end at knowing whom I had sex with.. it went from there to what sexual acts were done, did I like it, was he better or bigger.. it NEVER ended.

 

Then IF he felt I hadn't disclosed ALL information he felt he needed to have then I was a liar and other colorful adjectives... got to the point that he actually felt I had somehow done the wrong things for HIM in having a past at all... damn hard to wrap my mind around that.

 

Your GF is VERY insecure and controlling.. I would like to say that this is behaviour of someone who just cares so much about you (which is what my EXBF tried to make of his behaviour) but sadly.. it isn't.

 

I would tell her that you're NOT answering any more ridiculous questions that aren't relevant to what the 2 of you have going on in YOUR relationship TOGETHER.

 

If she doesn't want to accept that.. then honestly.. time to step back and decide if this is a relationship worth putting up with that for...

[strange love]

hmm

 

Ok first i was going to say right thats cause.. then I thought..ok its a bad thing.

 

Now I think this. I guess I have dated alot of insecure women or maybe I have just done things to make them feel insecure.

You might wish to give this some thought

 

I have a feeling she really didnt want a history of every woman..she probably said that in anger something said on the fly.

The only thing you could do when theres someother female around that you had some fling with is.. well hold your girls hand a bit tighter.. give her a hug..be more affectionate...look deep into her eyes. She probably wont even notice the other girl.

 

strange love

[moimeme]

so when she happens to run into them, she doesn't seem like a fool.

 

Hoo boy! Do you really want to be with someone who thinks that's logical? And fair?

[beatjunkies]

yeah man its just really insecure of her to do that.. i would ask her the same thing.,.. say you want all the history on every guy shes known.. i mean seriously wtf.. when my ex and i would reconcile in the past she did ask if i did anything with anyone else and blah blah.. but i told her because I didnt mind it.. besides you should be honest at least when its about sexual things cuz there are lots of stds out there and you wouldnt want to spread them or get any.. honestly if i were to get back with my ex right now id ask her what (if any) sexual relations she has had and im sure she would ask the same... but then it would be done with.. I dont understand why yer GF wants to know EVERY little history.. I guess people just want to know the truth though and i see where she is coming from because i am like that a little bit myself.. i know its not a good thing but owell.. so its up to you if you want to tell her or not.. it seems like she is going just a little overboard to say the least.. so its your call bro.. i would suggest what strangelove said though and just focus on her or say something like "does it really matter ?" just say im with you and all my attention is on you.. she might realize how silly shes being ??

 

take care..

 

peace

[alphamale]

that dumb biotch needs to know nothing about your past with other women except what u are comfortable sharing.

 

tell her to take a hike.

 

turn the tables and tell her you want the same from her about all her past men.

[RowanRavyn]

RUN!! RUN!!! RUN!!!!

 

Good heaven's.

[whichwayisup]

Merin's advice is bang on. She's insecure and controlling.

 

Past relationships doesn't matter...It'swhat makes someone who they are, good and bad. NOW is what counts. You don't owe her any explanations.

 

Sharing fun stories and facts from the past is OK...But what she is asking is nuts. She's doing it to feel better, to make sure she is the queen bee of all the gals you've dated.

 

Tell her to mind her own business, that you don't feel comfy discussing this with her and if she doesn't like it, she has to put up with it or get out.

 

Good luck!!

[st8toftheheart]

Being a person who has done this. Quit now.

 

I however went down this road and asked for this information well into the relationship. I tried to walk away but niether of us could. So we're try to work it out and it rough at times.

 

I was insecure as your GF is insecure, and I'm sure there are other underlying reasons for her reason to know.

 

But if she is being that demanding, I think it may be best to cut your losses.

[EC]

OMG I have been through this. ANd the guy would not stop asking questions, and he wanted to know everything. It was an obssession. And then when I did tell him "everything" he was mad and said he couldn't be with me anymore....hey you asked! lol

 

I think if you really like her then tell her and if not then tell her to grow the hell up.