Rainingleaves Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 (edited) Over the span of six months I've asked my friend out twice but Im hoping I haven't ruined our friendship. I asked my friend from college (we have both finished now) I asked her a few weeks before she went on holiday. she said that she "wasn't looking for anything right now" which means no. I was hurt but I accepted it with time. A week later I asked her to a film (trying to repair things) When we did she was really warm, she was friendlier and sat closer to me, etc. She fondly promised to keep in touch while she was away, which she did. She even said she had got me a present while she was away which was unusual. When she got back she suggested a catch up (still really animated), which I accepted. I was unsure of how she felt given her increased friendliness so right before we parted I asked her a second time. She said "shed rather not" and asked if that was ok. Being in a rush I said "yeah that's cool" gave her a hug and said "I wouldn't have asked you (her) out if I didn't like her" (I meant respect but I kinda was in a rush to retreat.) I think the way I handled the second one was bad. I sent up a follow text say that I meant (I meant to say respect rather than friend in that context) which she didn't respond to. I feel really bad, im disappointed and a little upset but her friendship means a lot to me and the thought of loosing that is more painful to me than anything. She is one of my best friends from my college days. (it may seem from her attitude that she is playing a game, but honestly from what ive seen, shes not that kinda person.) I have the urge to send a text tomorrow (this happened today) to say that I forgot to ask her to see a particular film that I know she likes (pretending nothing happened) However I don't want to give the impression im just gonna keep hitting on her or anything. Part of me thinks an apology text to clear things up is in order, while another trade of thought wants me to just stay out and hope it'll repair itself. Or perhaps a quick text apology about putting it behind us, and asking to hang out at a movie for fun. The first time it was fine but im worried about this time (I don't intend to ask her again if youre wondering) There is a gathering of mutual friends coming up and I could see how that goes, but this is eating me up too much. What do I do?? One additional thing if you've read this far (Thank you) is that: when we first hung out a couple of years ago, she was interested in ME. At the time I didn't notice but im certain of that. (maybe her opinion of me has changed since then which is why she dosent want to date me, but who knows) Edited September 1, 2014 by Rainingleaves
ThorntonMelon Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 Say nothing, no texts, no apologies, act as normal as you can, go on with your life.
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