My ex bf is getting married to the girl he left me for

[krooton25]

We had a very bad break up. I caught him kissing another girl who happens to be one of his exes way back. I confronted him about it and asked what he wanted out of it BUT he didn't fight for me. I asked him if he loved her and he said no, but he doesn't know what he wants at the moment. He feels guilty but that's the way he is, he said. I cut off contact with him after that and was really mad at him. Then i found out that they have been dating each other for a few months already behind my back, we were still in a relationship at that time but were starting to have problems already.

 

A month later after our breakup, he put up his relationship status with this girl and jus started posting pictures of them together. It shocked his entire family and our mutual friends, and friends from work.

 

I was so devastated. I felt like he disrespected our 2 yr relationship just like that in an instant. Worse, the new girl is very insecure with me and kept adding me on social media, thinking that I was seducing his "now" bf.

 

Then a few months later, i heard from a common friend that they are getting married. She is now friends with his family on social media. There are times when I do not want to open my Facebook and everything anymore. We have a very small world and have a lot of common friends. We used to be "ideal couple" to a lot of people and now I can't process things clearly on my mind: how can he do this to me? and not even feel guilty. I never heard a word from him again after i confronted him.

 

 

Then, i kept hearing from a friend who is his co worker that he keeps on talking about me at work, as in always mentioning my name even we don't communicate anymore. Not really bad mouthing me, but kind of reminiscing our times together. It's so stupid. Then he would tell them that he plans to get married..is he just an ass or what?

 

I don't grieve our breakup as much now but I still feel bad on how things went. Where does this leave me? I felt used, betrayed and cheated on, yet they are happy enjoying life over on the other side. They were literally posting stuff like true love on their social media. It pisses me off, it hurts me and my ego. Please tell me how I can overcome the fact that he is getting married to this person.

Edited September 1, 2014 by krooton25

[aussietigerwolf]

be glad you dodged a bullet? He doesn't sound like the type id want for a bf or husband.

[No Limit]

yet they are happy enjoying life over on the other side

 

 

Girl, the only day they'll be happy is the wedding day. He's a serial cheater for sure, and that's what the other girl fell for instead of you thank God (although I do feel bad for her). And social media is the same like TV - less than 5% you see is true. Perhaps less.

 

Be glad you aren't involved with him anymore. There's nothing to get over about; yes, the betrayal sucks, but you were getting hints (like the kiss you wrote about) and luckily he let go.

 

The only thing you really need to get out of your head is your image of them being happy and the perfect couple for life - I'm betting a million dollars that they'll be divorced in less than 5 years (perhaps way sooner; depends on how quickly the girl becomes pregnant).

[Nathaniel Hawk]

I think it's really the time to let this go. You opened a thread in May about the same and you keep hearing about them and it's not doing any good to you at all. Time to block them in all ways possible and tell common friends that you don't want to hear any news from them. If you can't do this maybe it's time to stay away from them, at least until you heal from all this mess he caused you.

 

Time to become a even better version of yourself and live the best you can do. Let him wonder about you and move on, starting a new and wonderful life.

 

And by the way, if true love involves cheating, lying, mistrust and jealousy I'd rather be alone for the rest of my life.