freebird31 Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 (edited) I was talking to this guy for 2 weeks straight everyday. I met him online. The third week he went completely distant. It wasn't until I made a comment about waiting to get physically intimate in a relationship, that this started unless it was something else that caused his distance. Before, we had discussed being friends with each other, in his words "we can be friends for now and take it from there and everything else will fall into place" from the Get Go he implied getting serious. His honesty inspired my honesty. It wasn't until the comment I made about waiting get physically intimate that he got weird. Like what happened? I just think that is so weird to me lol could that really scare someone off? Or perhaps his intentions were not true after all...I have no idea. Just thinks it's totally weird. Any thoughts or opinions on this? Lol I basically told him that there would be some time before physically intimacy would be considered in a relationship. Maybe I should keep that stuff to myself from now on? Haha. Pretty sure it scared him away haha oh well �� Edited September 1, 2014 by freebird31
SummerLuvR Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 It could have been anything. You never met him. He could have met someone else, got a new job, got married, got sick, moved. It could have been something you mentioned, but that could be just a coincidence. I always want to know the "why" but sometimes you will never know, even if you ask. Just be glad that you only invested 3 weeks in this man and not more time.
Author freebird31 Posted September 1, 2014 Author Posted September 1, 2014 True true. I don't even know the guy at all! Haha just was curious tho lol because we were getting along pretty well so far. Oh well
BluEyeL Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 Don't talk to men for weeks before meeting. Exchange 4 to 8 messages and meet. If he's not asking you out stop responding. You're wasting your time. Some men just want to chat without wanting to meet. Some others try to warm you up towards sex before them having to make actual effort and pay/organize actual dates.
Assasda Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 You dont know anyone until you meet them in real life. Dont bother with the messaging back and fourth, unless youre just looking for a pen-pal
Author freebird31 Posted September 1, 2014 Author Posted September 1, 2014 Yeah. I guess. It's just so WEIRD to me. Like when we would text he would reply instantly, like literally instantly all the time! Unless he was busy. Like we were really vibing. He even disclosed to me about his background in the army and how he served and how brutal it was. Like why would u go disclose info like that to someone u just want to talk with only. Idk. Doesn't make freaken sense to me. Haha the more I look back at our messages the more I'm like wth? Doesn't make sense ! Lol but good thing we didn't end up meeting I might have actually really really liked the guy. We got along so well so far! Oh well.
Author freebird31 Posted September 1, 2014 Author Posted September 1, 2014 He also kept making future plans for us. Like saying we should go on hikes together. And when I asked him about his stories in the army he says "in time maybe you'll hear them" ...and then he disappears. wth????? Like this guy is WEIRD haha.
Assasda Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 Yeah. I guess. It's just so WEIRD to me. Like when we would text he would reply instantly, like literally instantly all the time! Unless he was busy. Like we were really vibing. He even disclosed to me about his background in the army and how he served and how brutal it was. Like why would u go disclose info like that to someone u just want to talk with only. Idk. Doesn't make freaken sense to me. Haha the more I look back at our messages the more I'm like wth? Doesn't make sense ! Lol but good thing we didn't end up meeting I might have actually really really liked the guy. We got along so well so far! Oh well. Wow. You found someone that had ESP and could type to you litterally instantly as you said. he must have been a magician
ExpatInItaly Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 OP, what you'e describing as "weird" really isn't all that uncommon in the world of online dating/communication. It happens all the time. It's not pleasant, of course, but it's not unusual. Also, his disclosure about his time in the army really isn't all that significant, in my opinion. I don't necessarily see it as something deeply personal, but it appears you've attached some meaning to it. In future, don't keep up constant contact with someone you don't know. It sets you up for disappointment when they suddenly vanish. A few messages here and there are sufficient until a meeting actually takes place. A lot of people just like the companionship without intending to actually meet. He could've disappeared for any number of reasons. You didn't necessarily do anything wrong. He could be dating others; heck, he might not even be 100% single. Whatever the reason, don't blame yourself too much. 1
Recommended Posts