Focus On Me

[disneygogetter]

I have been getting to know this guy for close to 2 months, we have not met face to face yet but have spoken via webcam's so we are who we say we are and aren't Catfish's.

 

Recently he tells me this brother died so he's been in mourning over it and hasn't been very talkative. But even before his brother passed away he wasn't that talkative towards me when before he was very talkative.

 

The funeral was not that long ago but the last week he hasn't talked much towards me. He didn't talk to me for 3 days Sunday-Wednesday and then spoke with me Thursday late around 11PM into early Friday 1AM. Then hasn't spoken to me since our chat that Thursday/Friday and its now Sunday.

 

To me I don't like this, it's like come on, I know your dealing with this "death" but you said you loved and cared about me and want us to be together but yet we have not met yet, your not talking to me much, so what's the deal?

 

What would you do in a situation like this if you were talking to a girl or guy and they were doing this to you.

[sid3]

Sorry, but anyone who claims to 'love' you without having even met you in person is blowing smoke up your a** What's wrong with your standards that you're willing to settle for this. Life is way too short.

[batgirl]

You haven't met in person? IMHO, all bets are off. He doesn't love you. He might not be cat fishing but he's obviously not that into you.

[disneygogetter]

What about the death issue do you think it's true or false?

[SummerLuvR]

I would give him some space. You never met him true, but he just lost someone very close. Grief is very personal. I know because I just lost my dad earlier this year.

 

If he truly cares about you, he will reach out to you, but in his own time. How much do you care about him? If you do, I would be there for him if he needs someone and not write him off so fast.

 

Of course he could be not that interested but who is to say right now? I just know that losing someone that close to you can impact every facet of your life. It has been 6 months since I lost my dad and I still breakdown sometimes.

 

Only you know for sure how things are between the 2 of you and the things you have shared. Go with your gut, but you might need to be a little more patient and understanding. JMHO

[disneygogetter]

Yeah I hear what you're saying but not talking to him for days at a time sucks haha. It makes me feel like he isn't interested in me.

[disneygogetter]

Well I don't know what to do about this guy. To me it feels like he isn't interested as much as I thought. He's now using free running as a stress relief and again he isn't talking to me much anymore. I just don't feel it there anymore.

[disneygogetter]

Well him and I are no more. We got into another fight and he just cut me loose altogether.