Armegoggon Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 (edited) I'm 19 and I have never dated a woman. I've read 99% of the dating site profiles and women around 23-30 neglect 19 year olds on their age range. I also nearly landed my first EVER date with a 26 year old woman but backed off at the last second due to age difference. I also tried to talk to many women older than me but nobody responded me besides a woman who also said "sorry you're too young". On the lopsided age, most women will auto-accept guys older than them by as much as 10 years! Over this time span, I started to do a little research and I learned about the term called "cougar". Surprisingly, cougars are only meant to be for sex and that many men (89%) who want older women are looking for sex experience. However, based on the common survey, I do not belong to anything except "I'm not attracted to younger women (because I don't simple as that)" and "Less Drama". Those reasons are not as common as many men think but I simply am that type of person from when I was born. I've always loved a (girl) who was older than me. Even when I was in high school I wanted to date an 18-22 year old. Unfortunately I was too young for bars (and I still don't go because I don't smoke/drink) or dating sites. On that article, it seems like a 19 year old also has four times less value than a 24 year old woman. So what should I do to my profile to say that I love older women for the purpose of a serious relationship? If I message older women, how do I persuade them that I will act more maturely and they should give me a chance? Or are there any dating sites that are designed for older women marriage? Please do not suggest me to date a woman born after my birthday. Thanks. PS: I'm not happy with myself because I am single. Ie, I feel very hopeless and lonely. Edited September 1, 2014 by Armegoggon
Potz4prez Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 Stop online dating, and date girls closer to your age in your normal social circles.
Author Armegoggon Posted September 1, 2014 Author Posted September 1, 2014 Stop online dating, and date girls closer to your age in your normal social circles. hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm Please do not suggest me to date a woman born after my birthday. Thanks. Q: Why do you use dating sites if you're only 19? A: I didn't go to university but instead went to college so the friend pool dropped. My neighbourhood just doesn't seem to have the right people for me. I have more internet friends than in real life. I think there is a bigger pool of women I like online. Thread starters have seemed to repeat themselves multiple times because they've been asked the same question of clarification. Yes people may not be able to read and we don't have an edit but I've seen times when the same person still puts up the same question. https://www.loveshack.org/forums/general/loveshack-org-questions-comments/459525-why-people-so-abusive-here-update-3.html#post5775715
Maleficent Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 There are women who will gladly date younger men (I'm one of them!). When I was 22 I dated a guy who had just turned 18 (despite the fact I promised myself I wouldn't date him if he was younger than 19 when I met him but meh). However, I don't think you will meet a women who will be willing to give you a shot online - unless it's an OLD site geared towards matching younger men with older women.
Author Armegoggon Posted September 1, 2014 Author Posted September 1, 2014 However, I don't think you will meet a women who will be willing to give you a shot online - unless it's an OLD site geared towards matching younger men with older women. Where then? College/University have not worked at all for me and I've been there for a whole year. I also took summer school and still haven't gotten anything going.
Potz4prez Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm Fine... stay in your miserable little bubble. If everyone is giving you the same advice, chances are they're right. You probably have more important things to focus on improving than your cougar game.
Author Armegoggon Posted September 1, 2014 Author Posted September 1, 2014 Fine... stay in your miserable little bubble. If everyone is giving you the same advice, chances are they're right. You probably have more important things to focus on improving than your cougar game. Better yet quit the abusing game already. Also, cougar isn't the right term for me since I'm about serious relationships.
Potz4prez Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 Yeah, sorry I refuse to dance around the real issue here. I hope you improve, but continuing down your current course isn't going to help. Your ego will just get battered more and more. There's a good reason older women don't want to date teenagers. Come your mid-twenties, people your age start looking and sounding like children.
aprilisi Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 I'm just started exclusively dating a man 17 years younger, have known him two years. This was not an easy decision for me. And I'm getting a lot of backlash from my family and friends...not his. At 20 he is more mature than any man I've been with. How did this happen? First met him at the local college library, he was a student. I was using the computers, my computer died. We became friendly. Saw him around constantly, when he first asked me out I said no. Finally gave in. So my advice, be friendly....be nice. Get away from online dating. Older women won't take you seriously there. If C. had contacted me online I would have deleted the message. Get to know them in person. Offer to carry something if they're loaded down. Be a gentleman. Dress nice, not like a thug. Get a decent job.
Author Armegoggon Posted September 1, 2014 Author Posted September 1, 2014 Yeah, sorry I refuse to dance around the real issue here. I hope you improve, but continuing down your current course isn't going to help. Your ego will just get battered more and more. There's a good reason older women don't want to date teenagers. Come your mid-twenties, people your age start looking and sounding like children. What about 18 year old girls? Lot of their profiles put 20-28 as their range surprisingly. What is the "good reason" besides what I've said?
Author Armegoggon Posted September 1, 2014 Author Posted September 1, 2014 I'm just started exclusively dating a man 17 years younger, have known him two years. This was not an easy decision for me. And I'm getting a lot of backlash from my family and friends...not his. At 20 he is more mature than any man I've been with. How did this happen? First met him at the local college library, he was a student. I was using the computers, my computer died. We became friendly. Saw him around constantly, when he first asked me out I said no. Finally gave in. So my advice, be friendly....be nice. Get away from online dating. Older women won't take you seriously there. If C. had contacted me online I would have deleted the message. Get to know them in person. Offer to carry something if they're loaded down. Be a gentleman. Dress nice, not like a thug. Get a decent job. 17 is a bit too much for me to be honest. But still, if I knew you personally as a friend, I would not be concerned whatsoever. The thing about colleges is that there is a huge age gap. There are a lot of women who are over 30 rather than in mid 20s. I'm friendly/nice. I don't demand things directly to anyone on dating sites. Chances are if I demand for things, I'll just post my complaints/problems here for help. If I don't use online dating then where? Get to know them in person? How? I'm always nice and like a gentleman. But when I'm home it's a lot different. I dress nice btw and I actually do have a job but in my previous job. Also, in my previous job, I did in fact have a crush on my boss who was 24.
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