Caafon Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 I've been seeing this guy for a little while now. He told me that he liked me and seemed so interested in me... until we had sex. Now, I have to initiate every conversation when trying to get together, and he doesn't ask me out like he used to. He can usually can make it to whatever we (well technically, I) plan, but it always ends up in sex. I'm really confused and don't know what to do because I really like this guy, but I feel as if he is a player and is only using me for sex, but why would he seem so interested in me and then all the sudden fade away?
Zahara Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 but why would he seem so interested in me and then all the sudden fade away? Some guys show interest to get what they want. Once they get it, the chase is over. No need to put in much effort if it's easy to get it when they want it -- as in you keep planning and doing all the work, while he just shows up, gets sex and goes on his way. It's a sweet deal for him. One way to know -- stop planning and see if he does it. And if he does, stop ending every date with sex. If a guy likes you, he makes an effort to plan and date you and it doesn't matter if it doesn't always end up with him getting some from you. Stop chasing him. 4
sid3 Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 I've been seeing this guy for a little while now. He told me that he liked me and seemed so interested in me... until we had sex. Now, I have to initiate every conversation when trying to get together, and he doesn't ask me out like he used to. He can usually can make it to whatever we (well technically, I) plan, but it always ends up in sex. I'm really confused and don't know what to do because I really like this guy, but I feel as if he is a player and is only using me for sex, but why would he seem so interested in me and then all the sudden fade away? Wow, why don't women just trust their gut (instinct) in these matters 2
WonderKid Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 The way you explained it, it's pretty self-explanatory. First of all HE is supposed to be planning things. And it should not end at nobody's house. And for the love of humanity I hope he's using a condom. He does not seem like a guy who would stick around. Go on strike. See what happens. 1
aprilisi Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 We all have to learn, God knows I've been there.....many times. You see a man for weeks, he texts several times a day, he woos you. Then you sleep with him. And the fade starts. It's cruel. It happens to the best of us, and it doesn't matter how old we are. Happened to me last year. My cousin is 44, just happened to her. He was 54. You just have to cut all contact. Don't even look at his social media. If he sees you as more than a sex object he will make the effort. If not, well...it hurts...but you have to move on
Assasda Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 Well how long have you known each other before sleeping together? What was your relationship before. You give no backstory
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