Nixy Posted August 31, 2014 Posted August 31, 2014 If you've seen previous posts of mine you'll probably think that I'm some kind of broken record, but some things have not changed. I'm 23, finishing my honours degree and still as single as ever. The things that have changed from last time is my outlook on the situation. I now believe myslef to an awesome person and started to wear make up. I have curvy body that skinny girls would kill for (thanks to yoga and kenpo) and the brains to match that braun, but still no guys show the slightest bit of interest. Since I'm still at university I do go to lectures and work in group assignments and have made a few new friends. I actually interact with people instead of shying away and going at it alone, yet it seems to have made no difference. Whenever I go out / talk to old friends they are always telling me about some guy or another who is fawning over them and I just sit there thinking, well nothing like that ever happens to me (-_-). My oldest friend recently ended her reltaionship and told me that she wishes she was like me, just not interested in guys. I was like, it's not that I'm not interested, they're the ones who aren't interested in me. To aviod feeling terrrible about myself and wondering if, maybe I went worng somewhere, that every other girl did something different; I bury myself in my research, read and watch tv. I've quoted a line from a Paramore song, to a few close friends, that describe my life: 'I live in a world of magic because my real life is tragic'. So what more must I do to be consdidered interesting to guys? HELP!
Mr Scorpio Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 There isn't enough information in your post to provide a decent answer as to what "else" you could do. Perhaps your style of clothing isn't flattering. Perhaps you come across as aloof or desperate. Perhaps you have a mean case of RBF. Perhaps the guys you run across are into skinny girls and not curvy ones.
kitkat1234 Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 Hi Nixy, I agree with Mr Scorpio that there isn't enough information but I will make a wild guess.. The way you talk about yourself, i.e. "broken record", makes me wonder whether you lack self confidence. Make up and clothes have nothing to do with it. Also you seem to contradict yourself. You say you believe you are awesome but you quote that your life is tragic. I may be wrong but it sounds like a confidence issue to me. Have you thought of maybe going to therapy?
Lipitor11 Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 I'm in the same boat, dating sucks and trying to actually meet a guy and be in a nice relationship is tough. I too, have done everything...I'm not having any luck at all, and I envy those women that are easily able to meet a decent guy and walk down the aisle in a span of 12 months. I don't think there's anything you are doing wrong...there are some people that struggle to find someone.
angel.eyes Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 OP, generally if guys don't approach you, it's because you seem unapproachable. Smile, make eye contact, strike up conversations with the people around you...basically be friendly and sociable with everyone. Also, if you're serious about dating, put yourself out there...attend social events, join clubs, get involved in extracurricular activities.
Natsu21 Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 Money says you're probably closed off and seem unapproachable without hostility. Truth is, to many guys, beautiful women seem intimidating.
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